In today?s episode, we tackle perfectionism with Thomas Curran. Thomas is an associate professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics, and the author of The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough. We tackle the critical issue of how perfectionism can be both a driving force and a relationship killer, dissect the three key dimensions of perfectionism, and guide you on self-assessment to understand your personal perfectionism traps. We also delve into managing perfectionism's impact on work ethic and productivity, especially in the era of social media. Lastly, we provide actionable strategies for high performers to avoid perfectionism pitfalls, ensuring a balanced approach that fosters achievement without sacrificing personal connections or mental well-being. What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What are the 3 dimensions of perfectionism? How perfectionism destroys relationships ? 11:17 What do you need to do to foster healthy relationships with perfectionists? What first steps can you take to overcome perfectionism so it doesn?t destroy your relationships and professional success? Where do you fall on the perfectionism scale? ? 20:19 How do you measure perfectionism and what questions can you ask to find out where you fall on the perfectionism scale? How much of your perfectionism is genetic, and how do you manage perfectionism when you have kids who might inherit that trait? Perfectionists sabotage their own work ethic because of this ? 30:54 How do you make sure your perfectionism doesn?t have a negative impact on your productivity and work ethic? How should you approach social media as a perfectionist since social media can present you with many opportunities for your perfectionism to take a toll on your psyche? The perfectionism traps 90% of people fall into ? 42:31 How do you avoid the perfectionism traps so you can accept imperfection, make mistakes, and be kind to yourself and others, so you can accomplish what you need to get done without leaving a wake of destruction? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we tackle friction with Bob Sutton. Bob is an organizational psychologist and professor at Stanford, a New York Times bestselling author, and is here with us to discuss his upcoming book, The Friction Project: How Smart Leaders Make the Right Things Easier and the Wrong Things Harder.  Bob Sutton sheds light on the double-edged sword of 'friction' in both professional and personal interactions, so why is friction a double-edged sword that you need to master to be successful, what strategies can you use to identify (and minimize) friction in your daily interactions, and how can you use positive friction as a tool to maximize your problem-solving capacity, boost productivity, and profitability? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How do you identify the friction you bring to relationships that makes people not want to work with you or hang out with you? What can you learn from the California DMV about the importance of reducing friction to maximize productivity and boost customer satisfaction? 3 Ways to Make Friction a Force for Good at Work ? 19:57 If friction slows things down, how do individuals and businesses use friction to amplify results? What strategies can individuals use to become friction fixers and accelerate their careers? How can understanding a company's culture of handling friction help you in job interviews? Power Poisoning and its impact on Organizational Friction ? 34:00 How can leaders avoid falling into the trap of power poisoning so they don?t hurt their own bottom line by introducing unnecessary friction into the organization? The Impact of AI and Technology on Organizational Friction ? 44:12 What are the best practices for integrating AI into the workplace without increasing friction? How can listeners apply the insights from The Friction Project to their professional and personal lives? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we tackle burnout with Dr Debbie Sorensen. Dr Sorensen got her PhD in psychology from Harvard University, is the cohost of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, runs a private practice in Boulder, Colorado, and is the author of ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout With Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Today?s conversation delves into the signs, impact, and strategies to recover from burnout. Gain insights into recognizing burnout, addressing its root causes, and exploring Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a means to tackle burnout. From personal experiences to practical advice on navigating burnout, this episode offers a wealth of information to help listeners develop resilience and regain a sense of balance. What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What are the obvious indicators of burnout that everyone overlooks when they?re burnt out? This one thing prevents most people from overcoming burnout Which of these 5 burnout cycles do you suffer from ? 12:45 What are the most prevalent burnout cycles, and how do they trap individuals in a cycle of stress and recovery? Are certain personalities more susceptible to specific burnout cycles, and if so, why? The secret weapon against burnout that anyone can acquire ? 25:51 What are the first steps someone can take to cultivate psychological flexibility in their daily life? Are certain personalities more susceptible to specific burnout cycles, and if so, why? And what can you do to reduce your susceptibility? The psychological toolkit to overcome burnout ? 36:14 How can you use Acceptance Commitment Therapy tools to give yourself some breathing room and not allow your burnout to destroy the relationships you care about? The road to burnout recovery ? 46:07 What are the necessary steps to go from burnout to some semblance of normal? How can you bring up the topic of burnout with someone you care about who is showing signs of burnout? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit lifemd.com/CHARM to get started! In today?s episode, we tackle networking secrets with four leading networking experts. The experts on this compilation are Karen Wickre, author of Taking the Work Out of Networking, Matthew Pollard, the author of The Introvert's Edge to Networking, David Siegel, a close friend of ours and the CEO of meetup.com, and Susan McPherson, the author of The Lost Art of Connecting. With insights from experienced guests Karen Wickre, Matthew Pollard, David Siegel, and Susan McPherson, we explore the art of networking, both in person and online, while debunking common misconceptions about introverts and showcasing their unique strengths in the networking game. Join us as we explore the importance of storytelling, the value of research and preparation, and the significance of maintaining genuine connections over time.  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How could mastering the art of professional networking unlock doors you never knew existed in today's dynamic career landscape? As an introvert, what hidden strengths do you possess that could turn networking from a daunting task into your greatest ally in success? 5 Strategies to Crush Networking Events that Most Will Ignore ? 13:10 Discover the ultimate strategies that transform ordinary networking encounters into life-changing connections ? are you missing out? What if I told you that in just 5 minutes, you can turn a casual chat at a networking event into a lasting, impactful relationship? The Key Component of Networking Everyone Overlooks ? 22:26 Ever wonder what makes certain people magnetic in any room? Uncover the key component of networking that ensures you're never forgotten Are you approaching networking events all wrong? Learn how to research potential connections effectively and transform your next event into a goldmine of opportunities Feeling lost at networking events? Set these simple yet powerful missions for yourself and watch how drastically your experience changes Tips to Not Be Forgotten After an Event ? 32:08 What's the one crucial step you must take after a networking event to ensure your new connections turn into meaningful, long-term relationships? Should You Be Direct or Indirect ? 41:50 How does adopting a more direct approach in your interactions lead to more meaningful connections, and what might you be risking by avoiding this strategy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit lifemd.com/CHARM to get started! In today?s episode, we hand selected the best clips from 2023 to prepare you for the New Year. Check out the resources section down below for links to every interview in this episode. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! If you've ever found yourself pondering how to navigate life's unexpected challenges, master the art of influence, or forge deeper connections, this episode is your guide. We uncover the secrets to turning envy into empowerment and inspire those around you. From the psychological tricks that make you irresistibly interesting to the key strategies for maintaining vibrant friendships and marriages, we've got you covered. Tune in to discover revolutionary solutions for avoiding burnout and fostering enduring relationships. What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How can you stay prepared for any unexpected hurdle in life? The secret to framing questions to get people to do whatever you want  What can you do to leverage envy to help you instead of making you feel bad about yourself? The Key to Inspire Everyone Around You ? 19:12 What is the psychological trick to be so interesting to the people around you that everyone wants to spend time with you? What is the key to exude confidence when talking to someone you?ve just met? The Secret Language of Relationships ? 32:50 How should you respond to your romantic partner if you don?t want to get dumped or divorced? Why is it important for us to make small talk with strangers everyday? The Little Known Way to Make Friends When We?re Older ? 40:47 What can you do to create solid friendships when you?re older while also maintaining your youthful energy and child-like curiosity? What are the 5 layers of listening that will supercharge your communication skills? The Revolutionary Solution to Saving Marriages ? 56:21 What signs do you need to pay attention to if you don?t want your marriage to fail? The Ultimate Approach to Avoiding Burnout and Relieving Stress & Anxiety ? 1:02:40 What can you do to alleviate any feelings of burnout and relieve stress and anxiety immediately? How do you make replacement friends as you get older and why is it important to maintain peak performance later in life? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit lifemd.com/CHARM to get started! In today?s episode, we tackle the price of greatness with Morgan Housel, the author of The Psychology of Money and Same as Ever: A Guide to What Never Changes which is already a NYT bestseller. Today we?re redefining success and happiness, starting with a myth-busting take on the 1950s' nostalgia. Discover the unconventional yet effective strategy of finding happiness, gain unique insights into how embracing failure is a secret weapon used by top comedians to achieve greatness, including wisdom from the legendary Jerry Seinfeld on the art of timing and knowing when to walk away.  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Most people overlook this simple mindset shift to be happy  Why do we feel so nostalgic about the 1950s and does that nostalgia have a basis in reality? The psychological trick to making effortless changes in behavior  ? 18:12 What is the simple strategy most people overlook to streamline your path to accomplishing your goals? If you want to be successful, when is the best time to walk away or move on from something you?re invested in? This is more important than competitive advantages in the long run ? 26:50 What can we learn from why once-dominant businesses collapsed in order to stay competitive in a hyper competitive market? The secret to going viral on any platform ? 37:55 What do you have to do to go viral that most people will never try?  The unspoken painful price of greatness ? 52:20 Why would most people give up on the pursuit of fame if they knew this price they would have to pay? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit lifemd.com/CHARM to get started! In today?s episode, we tackle achieving the impossible with Dr Mike Massimino. Dr Massimino served as an astronaut from 1996 to 2014 and went to space twice, he was the first human to tweet from space, the last human to work inside the Hubble telescope, and is the author of Moonshot: A NASA Astronaut?s Guide to Achieving the Impossible. In this installment, we have a truly out-of-this-world guest, Dr. Mike Massimino, who brings us inside the captivating world of space exploration as he delves into Hoot's Law and the art of handling mistakes in the unforgiving expanse of space. He shares invaluable insights into building a team culture that leads to unparalleled success at NASA, and explains the secrets behind the 30-second rule, a powerful tool for overcoming regret and performing at a high level in critical situations.  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What are the most surprising challenges Dr Massimino had to overcome to become an astronaut after being rejected several times? What is the value of teamwork most people have forgotten ? 14:02 What are the psychological benefits of being on a team that greatly increase your ability to succeed? What is the most important thing to nurture in your team as a leader in order to avoid catastrophe? The danger signs that trust is about to break ? 27:38 What signs should you pay attention for if you?re concerned about What is Hoot?s law and why is it crucial to consider when you find yourself in a stressful or dangerous situation? The astronaut?s secret to effortlessly overcome regret and perform ? 40:54 How do you overcome regret in a high pressure situation so you can perform at the highest level regardless of the circumstances? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit lifemd.com/CHARM to get started! In today?s episode, we tackle decision making with some of the world?s experts on the topic. First, Annie Duke, a former professional poker player now a coach and author of Quit, The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away. Next, David Siegel, CEO of Meetup.com and author of Decide and Conquer, shares his expertise on leadership decision-making. Dan Ariely, a Duke University professor and renowned author, who delves into overcoming indecision and regret. Finally, former intelligence officer and author Shane Parrish talks about his book Clear Thinking: Turning Extraordinary Moments Into Extraordinary Results. From the influence of regret on our choices to the impact of blind spots on decision patterns, our guests offer practical strategies to enhance your decision-making skills. Join us as we explore the power of timely action, the significance of embracing change, and the transformative potential of making better decisions. What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Most people have no idea that this one mindset shift will lead to life changing improvements in decision making Most people make bad decisions because of these factors ? 9:28 How do most people get stuck in making decisions and what can you do to get unstuck? What are the most common biases we have to overcome to make the right decisions? How do you overcome the sunk cost problem so you don?t waste years of your life trying to make a prior bad decision work? This bias stops people from reaching high levels of success ? 21:39 Why are most people stuck making decisions that keep them where they are instead of making decisions that put them on track to where they want to be? Use these tools to avoid making terrible decisions ? 33:55 How do you create a habit so you make great decisions and avoid terrible decisions without even thinking about them? Most people will never ask this simple question to obtain a mentor who could change their lives forever People don?t prioritize this area of decision making enough ? 44:09 How do you create rules for automatic success? When is the right time to quit something you?re invested in? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit lifemd.com/CHARM to get started! In today?s episode, we tackle the epidemic of loneliness elite performance with AJ, Johnny, and Michael Herold.  With loneliness reaching epidemic levels in today's society, our hosts explore the detrimental impacts it can have on our health and well-being. They share their expertise in communication, confidence, and relationships to provide practical tools for combating loneliness and building meaningful connections. From recognizing the signs of loneliness to fostering strong networks, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for navigating the challenges of isolation. What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What is the loneliness epidemic, how did people get to be so lonely, and what can we do about it so it doesn?t get worse? Most people don?t know the health risks of this ? 14:33 How does loneliness cause detrimental effects to your physical health? This type of self-talk stops people from asking for help ? 20:02 What simple mental switch can you flip to strengthen the relationships in your life? Who is to blame for the loneliness epidemic? This exercise is crucial to figure out who your real friends are ? 28:00 What can you do to figure out if the people in your life are helping you or holding you back? What can you do today to build rock solid confidence? Only a small handful will take this step to end the loneliness epidemic ? 38:36 What can you do today to strengthen existing relationships in your life while simultaneously helping to end the loneliness epidemic? A Word From Our Sponsors Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/CHARM. Offer good for a limited time. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you?  That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone?  Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit lifemd.com/CHARM to get started! In today?s episode, we cover elite performance with David Goggins. David Goggins achieved the extraordinary, being the sole individual to conquer the grueling training regimens of the SEALs, Army Rangers, and Air Force Tactical Air Controllers. His resilience has seen him cross the finish line of over seventy ultra-marathons, frequently securing top positions, and his iron determination once earned him a Guinness World Record for an astonishing 4,030 pull-ups within a mere seventeen hours. Goggins isn't just a physical marvel; he's also a masterful orator, inspiring audiences worldwide with his insights on mental fortitude.  In today's episode, we are joined by the incredible David Goggins, a true embodiment of mental and physical resilience. Goggins has transformed his life, bringing himself from a place of insecurity and doubt to becoming a renowned ultra-marathon runner and motivational speaker. Join our hosts as they unravel the inspiring story of David Goggins and explore his strategies for overcoming self-doubt, finding inner strength, and pushing beyond our perceived limits.  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How do you balance a relationship if you?re extremely ambitious so both of you can pursue goals? What do you say to people you love who don?t support your lofty aspirations?  The secret to lose 100+ pounds in 3 months ? 10:12 How did David Goggins lose 106 pounds in 3 months? How do you flip that mental switch on days you don?t feel like working out? What you?re looking for is on the other side of this ? 21:14 Most people will never push themselves beyond this point to accomplish everything they want in life The most successful people in history have a great relationship with this side of themselves that average people ignore David Goggins?s secret to breaking crippling habits ? 30:40 What can you do to eliminate all distractions right now? How did David Goggins stop caring about what other people think? This one thing makes you completely unrelatable ? 46:51 This belief is the number on factor in David Goggins?s life that helped him build the self discipline to do what he does What does David Goggins want to be remembered for? A Word From Our Sponsors Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/CHARM. Offer good for a limited time. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you?  That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone?  Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side -> lifemd.com/CHARM In today?s episode, we cover communication with five elite communication experts. We have Dr Carole Robin, who's been teaching the legendary course, interpersonal dynamics at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. Chuck Wisner, the author of The Art of Conscious Conversations, Karen Wickre, the author of Taking the Work Out of Networking, Jonah Berger, professor at Wharton School and the author of several best selling books on influence and social Dynamics, including Magic Words, and Susan McPherson, the author of The Lost Art of Connecting. From the significance of open-ended questions to the impact of language on emotions, our guests share strategies to influence and connect with others. We'll also uncover the keys to building high-value relationships, the role of vulnerability in leadership, and the importance of active listening in meaningful conversations. Join us as we uncover actionable steps and insights to elevate your communication skills and unlock hidden potential. What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Break this one habit before it breaks your budding relationships How do you create better quality conversations and open up dialogue with anyone? What is the worst question you can ask when someone is sad or upset?  This type of language pushes most people away ? 11:50 Most people won?t do this one thing in order to improve their relationships How do you master the skill of listening so you can avoid relationship-breaking problems while also building the strongest relationships? Most people hide who they are because of this ? 22:15 This is the one key to being the greatest version of yourself How do you turn acquaintances into friends and friends into allies? The key to creating lifelong connections ? 32:20 Most CEOs will never do this even though it supercharges the output of their employees The secret to resolving marital conflict that people ignore at their own peril The 3 little known phrases to get your point across ? 45:20 How do you train your inner dialogue to be constructive instead of critical? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Right now, we?d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: LifeMD. Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side -> lifemd.com/CHARM In today?s episode, we cover thinking fast and talking smarter with Matt Abrahams. Matt is a leading communication expert with decades of experience as an educator, author, and coach. As a Lecturer at Stanford University's Graduate School of Business, he teaches popular classes on strategic communication and effective virtual presenting. He hosts the award-winning podcast Think Fast, Talk Smart, and is the author of the book Speaking Up without Freaking Out, as well as his newest book Think Faster, Talk Smarter: How to Speak Successfully When You're Put on the Spot. Being able to think on your feet in every conversation can yield life-changing opportunities and relationships, so how does maximizing mediocrity better prepare you to think on your feet, what is the 3 step framework to listening so you know how to respond, and what is the secret to gracefully exiting any conversation so you avoid awkward goodbyes?  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What is the anxiety spiral and how does it trip you up in critical moments? What 3 ways does anxiety manifest and how do you deal with each one so they don?t trip you up in important conversations? This common practice works against you ? 9:59 What is scripting and why should you avoid it if you want to make a great first impression? How do you communicate effectively when people?s attention spans are still on the decline?  Having this mindset makes communication effortless ? 22:41 Why is storytelling important when it comes to communicating and building relationships, and how do you get better at telling stories? What 3 simple questions can you ask yourself to provide the perfect response to any communication? The secret to make small talk impactful when it counts ? 31:39 How do you make small talk fun and meaningful for everyone you talk to so it leads to better relationships and more opportunities? What is the ?white flag? trick to leave any conversation without making it awkward? How to fix a mistake when mis-speaking in a crucial moment ? 44:16 What should you do if you make a mistake in an important conversation or presentation? How do you acknowledge it without making the situation worse? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover self-mastery with Dr. Michael Gervais. Michael is one of the world's top high performance psychologists and leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance, and the author of The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying about What People Think of You. Being social creatures is a double edged sword because we can rely on others to survive and get ahead in life, but with that comes the crippling concern of what others think about us, so how do you disregard the opinions of others so you can focus your efforts on what you need to do to reach your potential? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What is FOPO and why is one of the greatest constrictors of human potential? Why is FOPO the first step to mastery? Overcome the doubt that crushes everyone else ? 12:17 How do you stop worrying about what everyone thinks of you? How do you make yourself significantly more attractive without changing anything about your outward appearance?   What do pros do under pressure that no one else does ? 23:20 What is Ricky Fowler?s secret to excelling under the same pressure that crushes amateur athletes? What is the difference between a performance-based mindset and a purpose-based mindset? The secret to living a life most people never can ? 33:38 What steps can you take to focus on your purpose and disregard the opinions and expectations of everyone around you? Lone wolves will never reach the same level these people do ? 44:58 What prevents loners from reaching their full potential? Why do you need other people in order to reach your full potential? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover what it takes to be a Green Beret with Nick Lavery. Nick is an active duty member of the United States Army Special Forces. On his 2nd combat rotation to Afghanistan 10 years ago, he and his detachment fell victim to an insider attack that led to Nick losing his leg. Refusing a military medical retirement, Nick set his sights on returning to operational status. Nick is considered the 1st special forces operator to return to combat as an above-the-knee amputee. Lastly, he's the author of the book Objective Secure: The Battle-Tested Guide to Goal Achievement. The Green Berets are the elite special forces of the U.S. Army, but what separates the elite from the rest, why is relationship building critical to the Green Beret?s mission success, and what does it take to rapidly build trust and camaraderie with people across different cultures and language barriers? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Why did Nick Lavery enlist in the Army Special Forces?  Most people never enlist this way ? 11:30 What separates the Green Berets from other special operations forces in the military? How do elite special forces learn to rapidly develop trust with people across different cultures and language barriers?   The military secret to building unbreakable teams ? 23:26 What do elite special forces do to forge bonds among teams to ensure mission success in life or death situations? The only Green Beret to return to active duty without a leg ? 27:27 How did Nick Lavery lose a leg and return to active duty as the only Green Beret with an above-knee amputation? The moment he rejoined his band of brothers ? 46:15 What was it like for Nick to finally rejoin his team of Green Berets? The 3 reasons soldiers crave the chaos of war when they?re away from the battlefield The key to building relationships that most people overlook ? 1:01:30 What do most people not do when they?re trying to build new relationships? How do you crush self-doubt like the elite special forces? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover the value of pursuing your passions with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold. You?ve heard people tell you to follow your passions, but how do you define a passion, how do you combine your passions to create a unique skill set that sets you apart in your industry, and how do you share your passions with people to strengthen your network and friendships? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What is the most relevant definition of passion? What is the opposite Dunning-Kruger effect and how do you overcome it? Inspire people with your passion ? 11:55 How do you bring your passions and interests into conversation to deepen your connections even when the people you?re talking to don?t share your passions and interests? What?s the secret to mastering any skill? Forge the unique passion skillset no one else has ? 20:20 How do you combine your interests and passions to set yourself apart from 90% of people in your industry? Leverage your passions to squeeze the most out of life ? 32:27 How do you use your passions to define your purpose and craft goals that sling shot you toward your dreams? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover building relationships with Geoffrey Cohen, Dr Carole Robin, Colin Coggins and Garrett Brown, David Siegel, and Susan McPherson. Geoffrey Cohen is a professor and the author of Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides. Dr Carole Robin teaches a legendary course called Interpersonal Dynamics at Stanford Graduate School of Business. Colin Coggins and Garrett Brown are the authors of The Unsold Mindset: Redefining What It Means to Sell. David Siegel is the CEO of MeetUp. Susan McPherson is the author of The Lost Art of Connecting: The Gather, Ask, Do Method for Building Meaningful Business Relationships. Relationships are one of the most important factors in your happiness, fulfillment, and success, but how do you build exceptional relationships that actually last, what is the real problem with building relationships and how do you overcome it, and what is the secret to turning acquaintances into real friends? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What is the secret to building lifelong friendships and relationships? How do you come across as authentic when meeting new people so they don?t think you?re manipulative or deceptive? The mindset you need to be successful in relationships ? 13:37 What mindset shift do you need in order to be successful in relationships? How do you develop resilience so the inevitable road bumps in life don?t crush you? How do you reframe rejection so you embrace it rather than avoid it? The ultimate strategy for making friends with like-minded people ? 24:26 Where is the best place to meet people you want to build lasting friendships with? How do you build an epic social circle from scratch no matter where you live? The 3-step networking strategy 90% of people will never implement ? 36:33 What simple pattern can you implement in any networking event to make connections with anyone you want? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover the art of decision making with Shane Parrish. Shane is an expert on mental models and frameworks for effective decision-making, a former intelligence officer, founder of Farnam Street (the world?s most read blog on clear thinking), and the author of Clear Thinking: Turning Ordinary Moments into Extraordinary Results. Every day is filled with countless decisions you don?t think twice about, but those little decisions have a larger impact than the ?life-changing? decisions you spend days, weeks, or months contemplating, so what is the secret to ensure those everyday decisions you make are not pulling you away from the life you want, what 4 psychological traps must you avoid to make the best decisions, and what rituals can you put into place to propel you toward the life you want? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How to use the small everyday decisions to get ahead of everyone worrying about the big ?life-changing? decisions? What is more important than doing your best? Rules for success that 90% of people never follow ? 15:05 How do you ensure you only make the best decisions in stressful or high pressure situations? How to love doing something you hate ? 27:47 What systematic routine can you implement to turn any task into one you look forward to and excel at? What mental trick can you use to achieve any goal you set for yourself? Are you chasing the right goals? ? 39:51 How can you know if you?re chasing the goals YOU want for yourself or if you?re chasing the goals OTHERs want for you that you have internalized as your goals that you will later regret wasting your life in pursuit of? What proven template can you use to learn from every mistake you make and have made? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover how to make friends with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold.  It is an unfortunate statistic that we lose friends as we get older, but why does that happen, what can you do to make and maintain friendships that last a lifetime, what are the 3 traits you need to be the friend everyone wants, and proven system can you implement tomorrow to attract dynamic high value people into your life?  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Why do you have fewer friends today than you did 10 or 20 years ago and what can you do to rebuild friendships you?ve lost? Make dynamic high value friends that turbocharge your life ? 10:05 What can you do to find and build friendships with high value people who share your values and interests? 3 steps to be the rock star of your social circle ? 20:38 What 3 traits do you need to master to be the guy (or girl) everyone wants to be around? How do you pinpoint the valuable social capital you bring to friendships so you can leverage it to accelerate the building of future friendships? Build rock solid friendships effectively and efficiently ? 38:46 How many hours does it take to build friendships that last a lifetime? What is the most effective AND efficient strategy to funnel the best prospects for friendship into your life so you don?t waste time getting to know people who don?t meet your standards? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover getting unstuck with Adam Alter. Adam is a renowned academic and speaker known for his work in marketing and psychology, the New York Times bestselling author of Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked and Drunk Tank Pink: And Other Unexpected Forces That Shape How We Think, Feel, and Behave. His newest book is Anatomy of a Breakthrough: How to Get Unstuck When It Matters Most. It can feel crippling to get stuck in life and not know how to move forward, so what psychological traps keep you stuck and how do you avoid them, how do you manage your emotions so you don?t waste time staying stuck longer than necessary, and what can you do to create a hot streak every time you get unstuck?  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How can you recognize when you get stuck so you don?t waste your life away?  What is the secret Lionel Messi uses to overcome his performance anxiety? Your mind is tricking you into staying stuck ? 16:42 What are the psychological traps that keep you stuck in life and how do you avoid them or get out of them? Managing your emotions to get unstuck ? 27:10 How do your emotions help you or hinder you when it comes to feeling stuck in life and how do you deal with them? Fishy life lessons ? 39:25 What can we learn from specific fish about the value of patience and always trying to be first? How do you use failure to get unstuck? Creating your own hot streak ? 44:16 What can you do to create a hot streak of success in your career regardless of where you are in life? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover the 4 pillars of happiness with Arthur C Brooks. Arthur is the best selling author of 12 books on topics ranging from economic opportunity to human happiness, and his newest book Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier that he co-wrote with Oprah Winfrey. Happiness is a feeling anyone can cultivate but one that is increasingly difficult in a tech-centric world, so what is the best way to manage your emotions to achieve happiness and success, why are extroverts happier than introverts and what can you do to decrease your unhappiness as an introvert, and what is the difference between pleasure and enjoyment that most people don?t know even though it makes the difference between fulfillment and loneliness? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 When is intolerance and hatred necessary? Why do humans crave social interaction with family and friends?  The secret to happiness ? 14:08 What is the key to increasing your happiness no matter what is going on in your life? How do you manage envy so it doesn?t prevent you from being happy? Why you need to feel unhappy ? 24:08 Why is unhappiness just as important as happiness when it comes to managing your mood from day to day? What are the 4 pillars of happiness? What is the most important thing loners need to understand if they want to be happy in their solitude? Real Friends vs Deal Friends ? 37:00 What are the two types of friends we all have and which group contributes to your loneliness? What are the 5 challenges we face in building strong and healthy relationships? The right choices to build relationships ? 50:36 What two things should you be focusing on to build lifelong relationships with friends, family, and your significant other? What is the neurochemical difference between pleasure and enjoyment and why does one make you feel empty and lonely? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover happiness with 4 of the world?s leading experts on the topic: Arthur C. Brooks, Dr. Robert Waldinger, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, and Christoph Schnedlitz.  Happiness and purpose make a life worth living, but what factors contribute to and take away from your ability to be happy, what role do relationships play in your happiness, and how do you build happiness that doesn?t depend on what?s happening in your life?  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Who are the world?s leading experts on happiness?  Building Happiness ? 3:50 What simple question can you ask yourself to build life-changing happiness? Success Addiction ? 12:00 How do you get addicted to success and what can you do to break the addiction? Harvard Happiness Study ? 14:24 What is the Harvard Happiness Study and what can you learn from the results to foster happiness in your life? Social Media and Happiness ? 24:25 How does social media affect global happiness and what can you do to protect yourself from its effects? Relationships and Happiness ? 29:02 How much do your relationships influence your lifetime happiness? What can you do to maintain the relationships in your life that bring you happiness? What are the biggest happiness myths? The 3 Happiness Skills ? 40:35 What skills should you work on to build resilient happiness? Why is boredom an important component of happiness? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It?s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can?t be found anywhere else. Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover the 3 pillars of powerful communication with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold.  Humans are social creatures and history has taught us that powerful communication can help anyone achieve any goal we have in life, but what are the 3 pillars of powerful communication, how can you strengthen each one, and what are you risking by never becoming a powerful communicator?  What to Listen For First pillar of powerful communication ? 0:00 What is the difference between hearing what someone is telling you vs actively listening to someone? What are the 3 layers of listening you need to understand so the people around you feel like they are important to you? What is the crucial skill you are missing to get ahead professionally, personally, and romantically? Second pillar of powerful communication ? 22:17 What is the biggest pitfall you make in conversation that can kill a connection and make people not want to talk to you? How do you give people value in a conversation so they want to know more about you and spend more time with you? Third pillar of powerful communication ? 35:53 What is the one thing you should pay attention to if you don?t want your friendships, relationships, or even your marriage to fail? What is an emotional bid and how do you recognize each of the 9 types in conversation so you can build long lasting connections with anyone you meet? A Word From Our Sponsors Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you?  That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone?  Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover relationship building and repairing with Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is the founder of Box of Crayons, a learning and development company, and the author of several books including his bestseller The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever and his newest title How to Work with (Almost) Anyone: Five Questions for Building the Best Possible Relationships. Relationships are not easy to maintain and the best relationships take work, so how do you build the best relationships, what can you do to repair broken relationships, and how do you know you should just walk away?   What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What are the negative impacts of not having psychological safety in the workplace? Why is it important to seek relationships that go beyond safety? What questions can you ask so you can work with almost anyone? Increase productivity with language ? 15:20 What is the best way to make a to-do list so you?ll actually complete it? What question can you ask to understand why people don?t like working with you? Repair the relationship ? 31:20 What questions can you ask to stop a relationship from failing? What questions can you ask to repair a broken relationship? Can you reset a relationship? Choose your battles ? 41:37 How do you know when you should walk away from a relationship or friendship? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover influence with Jonah Berger, Zoe Chance, and Vanessa Bohns. Jonah Berger is a professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania, a best selling author, and world expert in social influence and consumer behavior. Zoe Chance is a professor at Yale School of Management and a researcher, speaker and consultant who specializes in persuasion, influence and behavioral economics. Vanessa Bonds is a social psychologist and professor at Cornell University, and her research focuses on how people make judgments and decisions in social contexts. Humans are social creatures so we are always influencing others and being influenced by others, but how does influence work, how do you protect yourself from being influenced by others, and what can you do to become more influential?   What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How do others influence you without you being aware of it? What is the most common mistake we make when trying to influence the people around us and what should you do to avoid making the same mistake? The 3 layers of listening required for influence ? 9:02 Why do you need to listen to others in order to influence them? What 3 things do you need to listen for so the other person knows you understand them and thus is more susceptible to your influence? One simple change to boost your influence ? 15:07 What one word will amplify your ability to influence the person you?re talking to? What common mistake do people make when speaking that makes others less likely to respect what they have to say? Power of the pause ? 31:20 Why is silence in conversation so impactful and how can you use it to your advantage?  The number one reason you don?t try ? 33:42 How do you reframe rejection so you can embrace it and grow from it rather than avoid it and stop yourself from achieving your goals? What?s the best way to reject someone so you don?t hurt the person?s feelings? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover how to master change with Brad Stulberg. Brad regularly contributes to the New York Times and his work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal and the Atlantic, and he is the bestselling author of Peak Performance, The Passion Paradox, The Practice of Groundedness, and his newest: Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing ? Including You. Change can rock your world when you?re not prepared for it, so what can you do to become more resilient to change, how do you develop rugged flexibility, and what role does change play in our relationships?   What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How many major changes will you encounter in life and how do you prepare for them? How can you embrace change and use it to grow? What steps can we take to find balance in our own lives during times of change? Rugged Flexibility ? 13:25 What is rugged flexibility, why do you need it, and how do you build it in your life? How to be resilient to change ? 23:45 What are the two requirements to be resilient to change? How do you whittle down a list of values to your 3-5 core values and what impact can living in alignment with your core values have on your overall well-being? Control vs Expectations ? 38:03 How do you balance the control you have over a situation with the expectations you have? How do you handle relationships with people who change in different ways from you? How do you set expectations with friendships to make your friends feel like they can always come to you?  The 4-P framework to handle change ? 57:58 What is the 4-P framework and how can you use it to handle any change you encounter in life? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover the expectation effect with David Robson. David is an award winning writer who specializes in psychology and neuroscience, and is the author of The Intelligence Trap: Why Smart People Make Dumb Mistakes, and his most recent book, The Expectation Effect: How Your Mind Can Change Your World. Your expectations can mean the difference between failure and success, but why do your expectations have such a drastic impact, how can you reframe your expectations to achieve success whenever possible, and how do you use visualization techniques to boost your performance in any area overnight? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What is the expectation effect and why do your expectations impact everything you do? Reframe expectations to reach your goals ? 10:47 How can you reframe your expectations to enjoy working out and achieve the body you?ve always wanted? Why is it important for you to feel stress and how do you know what too much stress is? What can you do to reframe expectations to be comfortable with public speaking? Visualization and Performance ? 26:22 What visualization technique can you use to increase your strength by 10% and recover from injury faster? How do you use visualization to decrease your stress and anxiety? How do the expectations of people around you affect your performance and what can you do to decrease their impact? Do not do this if you want to be happy ? 40:10 What do you need to avoid doing if you want to maximize your happiness and minimize your daily suffering? How can you use science to increase your willpower? How can you harness the science of expectations to build the top performing routine that will reach any goal you set for yourself? How do you reframe frustration to help you grow? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover culture with Dr Marcus Collins. Marcus is an award-winning marketer and cultural translator, the head of strategy at Wieden+Kennedy New York, a clinical assistant professor of marketing at the Ross School of Business, University of Michigan, and the author of For the Culture: The Power Behind What We Buy, What We Do, and Who We Want to Be.  Introduction Culture is as much a part of everyday life as the air we breathe, but how do we define what a culture is, what is the secret that marketers use to tap into culture and motivate you to take action, and how do you build your own culture (or find a new one)? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What does the word culture mean and why is culture so important to us? What are the three systems that make up culture? Fast Culture vs Slow Culture ? 15:15 Why do certain aspects of culture move faster than others and how do they influence each other? Why is it taboo to talk openly about politics, religion, and money?  Role Theory ? 30:11 What is role theory and how is it embedded in every culture? What is the difference between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation? How do you turn a trend into a cultural phenomenon ? 45:28 What is a cultural contagion and what two factors determine whether something becomes an official part of a culture? If you?re not part of a culture, how do you understand a culture to appreciate it and understand where members of that culture are coming from? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover how to grow your charisma with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold.  Charismatic people can light up a room and make everyone want to be around them, but what even is charisma, how does your charisma impact your career and relationships for better or worse, and what can you do to unlock your inner charisma to be more memorable and interesting? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What 3 skill sets do you need to work on to develop your charisma?  How to Grow Your Charisma ? 10:50 How do you practice being more present so people feel like you are not ignoring or dismissing them? What can you do to develop your empathy so people don?t feel judged by you and pushed away? How do you be more enthusiastic so people don?t think you?re boring? Emotional Climate ? 25:00 What emotional climate are you creating around people and how do you make a fun, positive, inviting emotional climate that makes people want to spend more time with you? Why is pessimism detrimental to your charisma and how can you become optimistic? Confidence ? 36:02 How do you exude confidence that draws people in everytime you walk into the room? Why is vulnerability key to showing confidence? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover deception and fraud with Chris Chabris. Chris is a research psychologist, Senior Investigator at Geisinger Health System, visiting fellow at the Institute for Advanced Study, and associate professor of Psychology and co-director of the Neuroscience Program at Union College in New York. Scammers and con men are everywhere these days, but how can you recognize when you?re being scammed, what behaviors or habits of your own should be aware of that tip you off as a potential victim, and what tactics do scammers, businesses, and governments use on us to get what they want?  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Why are people fascinated by conmen and scammers? How did AJ get scammed in Thailand and what can you learn to avoid being scammed anywhere? How scammers choose their targets ? 13:44 What 4 key cognitive habits do scammers exploit in their targets and how can you stop them from exploiting those habits in you? How we help scammers to scam us ? 33:50 What do we unconsciously do to help people deceive us? How do people get away with large scale fraud and deception? What are the 4 hooks that businesses and governments use to deceive us? The weapons of scammers ? 52:30 How do scammers and con men use words and memories against us? How does your memory deceive you every time you try to remember something? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover body language with former FBI agents Jack Schafer and Joe Navarro, trust and body language expert Abbie Maroño, and CEO of The Behavior Company Anne Maartje Oud, some of the leading experts in body language. We all possess the ability to read body language before we can form words, but in today?s world we seem to disregard this incredible ability early on, so what happened, why is it more important than ever, and what can you do to quickly relearn this invaluable skill?   What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Why we (now) suck at reading body language ? 3:01 How did we get so bad at reading body language in the west when we?re born with this ability? What is the only thing you can do to change a first impression? How do you build trust rapidly and effectively? What makes sincere human connection ? 11:22 What are the 3 components you need to build a sincere human connection?  FBI advice for introverts ? 23:01 When approaching a group of people, how do you know who is easiest to talk to? How do you know if you?re making someone uncomfortable and what can you do to make the other person comfortable? Body language myths ? 31:25 What are the biggest misconceptions people have about body language? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. ? In today?s episode, we cover breaking the ice with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael.    Taking the first step is often the hardest, so when it comes to breaking the ice what is the most effective way to strike up a conversation, what mindset can you cultivate that will make conversations flow effortlessly, and what can you do to become unforgettable in the eyes of people you meet?  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How do you start conversations with strangers without coming off as awkward? The Conversation Formula ? 7:50 What are some examples of simple questions to ask in social, romantic, or professional environments to start a conversation?  Why is it important to focus on "we" moments in conversations rather than just talking about yourself? What questions should you avoid in conversation? What Should You Say Next ? 21:24  Why should you avoid asking questions over and over again, and what should you say after someone answers your question? If curiosity is the key to great conversations, how do you cultivate your own curiosity so conversations don?t feel awkward and forced? What topics should you avoid when talking to someone new? Become Unforgettable ? 27:57 How do you create a positive, memorable impression so people never forget you and look forward to spending time with you? What exercise can you use in a conversation to create a stronger bond with anyone? With all of these tips in mind, it's important to remember that building meaningful relationships still takes time and effort. It's not a one-time event; rather, it's an ongoing process that grows with each new connection. Working on developing meaningful relationships may bring success in the professional or personal goals desired. Nevertheless, it also requires a commitment to get out of your comfort zone, acknowledge different points of view, listen more than you talk, and ask thoughtful questions about the person and what they stand for. Ultimately, when we put care into connecting to others on a more focused level and look beyond our surface interests or intentions, we can create stronger connections that have a lasting impact on our lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover journaling with Ceri Samvilian. Ceri is an expert on journaling, a certified life coach, author of Journal and discover your authentic self, and speaker with 20 years of experience in human resources.    The most important relationship you can have in life is with yourself, but how do you use journaling to nurture and strengthen that relationship, what simple journal prompt can you use to defeat overthinking, and when is it more important to journal so you are better capable of handling the inevitable tough times in life?  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 If you?re feeling stuck in life, what can you do today to get unstuck and start building unstoppable momentum? How can you use journaling to figure out who your authentic self is? The Principles of Effective Journaling ? 19:45 How do you start journaling? What questions can you ask yourself to make journaling productive? How can journaling help individuals become more self-aware? Who should journal? ? 30:50  Why do men need to journal? When is it more important to journal? What questions can you ask yourself to improve your journaling practice and make it more enjoyable? The one thing all humans need in order to be happy? ? 47:20 How does journaling help you find the one thing you need in order to be happy? How do the ?masks? we wear prevent us from achieving our dreams? How do you identify the masks you wear around different people so you can understand where your road blocks are between you and your potential? Journaling is a powerful practice that helps bring clarity and understanding to even the most confusing of inner voices. It just takes a few simple steps to start living an empowered life, starting with choosing a pen, grabbing a notebook or opening an app, and selecting a prompt that works for you. Although self-development is often a bumpy road, Ceri's journal can help you navigate it more easily and string those bumps together into mountains of success and joy for your future. Don?t let the intimidating thought of taking that first step prevent you from reaping its rewards. You deserve to be authentic, so set aside some time today for self-reflection and overthinking prevention?start journaling now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover leadership, relationship building, and feedback with Brett Crozier. Brett graduated from the United States Naval Academy, served as the Commanding Officer of a combat F/A-18 strike fighter squadron, the world?s largest and most advanced communications ship USS Blue Ridge, and the aircraft carrier USS Theodore Roosevelt before retiring from the Navy in 2022. Brett is the author of Surf When You Can: Lessons in Life, Loyalty, and Leadership from a Maverick Navy Captain.   On this episode of The Art of Charm, we interview Brett Crozier, retired Captain of the US Navy and former Commanding Officer of the USS Roosevelt. We dive into the importance of teamwork and leadership in implementing successful missions and running a floating city. Brett shares his experiences launching fighter jets and navigating the challenges of COVID-19 on the Roosevelt. He also provides valuable insights on building relationships and feedback mechanisms as a leader.  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Why has surfing always been important to Brett? What goals did Brett have when he first entered the Naval Academy? How did Brett?s fighter pilot experience influence his leadership abilities? Building Trust Cross Culturally ? 10:08 How do you build trust with someone from a different culture? Why are sports important to building relationships in structures of hierarchy? Relying on Instincts When Training isn?t Enough ? 23:47  What do you do when you encounter a situation that wasn?t covered in class or training? How do you make sure you get quality feedback from the people who matter? What two traits do you need to develop to be an effective leader? Navy Captain Sends Email, Gets Fired ? 37:55 Why did Brett Crozier lose his position as Captain of an aircraft carrier when COVID started? Leadership is more than simply a position of authority; it's an opportunity to build relationships, bridge divides, and promote safe and healthy practices. From this discussion we can take away valuable lessons for not only overcoming challenges but also directing a team towards sustainable success. We can treat each situation as an opportunity to learn, grow, and build meaningful connections while developing skills that will aid us when leading others anywhere be it at home or work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover how to become the super connector everyone wants to know.    Super Connectors aren't born with some special talent. By understanding what others value from a connection, focusing on how each person can help the other rather than focusing on what's in it for themselves, and making sure all interactions leave both parties feeling inspired and motivated, super connectors make invaluable connections that open doors to success. In this episode we explore what makes a successful super connector as well as simple steps to get on track towards becoming one yourself. What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Adam Grant and the Secret to Effective Networking ? 3:35 How do you amplify your social capital and build a high value network in five minutes? What is the secret to making your networking efforts more effective? Super Connector Toolbox ? 28:40  What is the best way to introduce two people you think will benefit from knowing each other? What?s the best way to follow up with someone you meet at a networking event? Keith Ferrazzi and Upgrading Acquaintances to Friends ? 36:50 What are the 8 attributes of a high performing relationship? How do you turn an acquaintance into a lifelong friend? Building a high value network and amplifying your social capital need not be a long, drawn out process. Just five minutes a day can go a long way in making your connections more valuable and meaningful. Start by introducing two people that you think could benefit from knowing each other, as this is a great way to get the ball rolling. Following up with someone soon after meeting them at an event is important to foster a new relationship. Connecting on an emotional level, being sincere, and sharing your knowledge are all essential pieces for creating strong bonds with others.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover how patterns from your childhood impact your current relationships with Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is a licensed family and marriage therapist, the author of the national bestseller The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love,   We all have behaviors that help and hurt us, but the behaviors that hurt us aren?t always obvious, so what can you do to identify the behavioral patterns that negatively impact your life and relationships and what can you do to overcome them so you can build confidence and long-lasting fulfilling relationships? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How do our childhood experiences create patterns in our relationships, behavior, and communication? Identifying old wounds you don?t know about ? 14:40 What are the obvious signs you have detrimental thought patterns left over from your childhood that are negatively impacting your relationships today? How do you stop dating people who aren?t good for you? Breaking patterns and healing old wounds ? 29:00  What steps can you take to break harmful patterns in yourself and heal the wounds that cause the patterns to keep repeating? The value of grief ? 39:50 What is grief exactly and why is it important to feel and process grief when we experience it? How does dealing with your grief improve your relationships and prevent them from failing? Breaking childhood patterns is something that can take time, but it is an important step for anyone in order to create relationships that are healthy and fulfilling. Whether you are trying to build healthier relationships with friends or a romantic partner, understanding your family system is key. Taking a closer look at the childhood patterns that show up in adult life can provide insight into how we interact with others and sabotage our social and romantic relationships. By implementing the four-step process laid out in this episode, you can start breaking these patterns today, pivot in directions that bring joy and confidence, and create more dynamic relationships as a result of it. After working through this process, you will be empowered by the new-found understanding of what brought you to your current reality - giving yourself permission to make different choices going forward will reward you mentally and affirmingly for many years to come. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover dating and building attraction effortlessly with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold. Technology has made it easier than ever to stay connected, so why are we dealing with a pandemic of loneliness and what can you do to lift yourself out of it and create a vibrant social life? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Does the pandemic of loneliness affect men or women more and what can we do about it? What 3 areas in your life is technology hindering you the most and what can you do to develop them, unlocking your true potential? Go from Ordinary to Extraordinary ? 13:02 What can you do to be extraordinary and remain authentic to who you are? How do you learn to be funnier and more charming? Building Rock Solid Confidence ? 25:35  How do you build confidence and why do you need to work on it in order to maintain it? All Men Need a Vibrant Social Life ? 35:23 Why is it important to have a vibrant social circle if you want to find a quality romantic partner? How do you build a social life women will be excited to be a part of? Loneliness affects us all. To conquer this sadness we need to work on ourselves and embrace technology but also find ways to have genuine human interactions. Begin by building confidence which comes from pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, openly expressing your feelings and striving to be the best version of yourself. Socializing with others is also essential for living a fulfilled life, as it helps you build connections and find prospective romantic partners. By being authentic, striving for excellence and working on self-improvement you can become an extraordinary individual while also valuing companionship without disregarding your independence. Start making connections today that will help you release the pandemic of loneliness in your life and boost your chances of living an enriching life full of quality relationships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover the importance of improvising with Kelly Leonard. Kelly's career in the theater industry began by accident. He was hired as a dishwasher at Second City in Chicago, where he met John Favreau. He realized improv was not magic, but a skill that could be practiced and applied in business, parenting, and relationships. Kelly established himself as an executive producer for Second City, coordinating performances for generations of comics, actors, and writers. Kelly has written a book, "Yes, And," outlining how he believes the core principles behind improvisation can be applied to spark and drive collaboration. In this episode of The Art of Charm, we explore the world of improvisation and its many benefits in communication, comedy, and creativity. From empathy and collaboration to resilience through failure, our guest speaker shares his experiences using improv to navigate ambiguity and uncertainty. We discuss the importance of listening, reframing, and storytelling, as well as the concept of post traumatic growth.  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How did Kelly Leonard get started in improv? Why is improv important for innovation? The Core Principles of Improv ? 10:58 What are the core principles of improv and why do they apply to many areas of life? How do you lead a healthy conversation with someone you disagree with? The Magic of Mistakes ? 24:02  How do we leverage mistakes to create success or make progress toward your goals? What simple exercise can you use to reframe negative events in your life to be positive? Creating Comedy ? 42:30 How do you formally create comedy? How do you give status to people you?re talking to? What simple tool can you start using today to make conversations easier, engaging, and more fun for anyone involved? Many of us are familiar with improv comedy but did you know the principles of improv can be used in business, parenting, and relationships? Every time you have a conversation with someone, you are improvising because you can?t predict what the other person will say and so you must improvise every time the other person responds to something you say. The best conversations are fluid and dynamic, making both people feel comfortable and natural. But to be good at improvising, you must practice it just like you would any other skill.  Resources from this Episode Yes, And: How Improvisation Reverses "No, But" Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration by Kelly Leonard Kelly Leonard on Twitter Second City?s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. In today?s episode, we cover harnessing the five senses to level up your life with Gretchen Rubin. Gretchen is an author and speaker who discovered the power of connecting with the five senses. After a visit to the eye doctor, where she learned she was at risk of losing her vision, she realized how much she took her senses for granted. Her epiphany led her to explore how we can use our senses to be happier and more fulfilled. Gretchen now shares her insights on how to pump up, calm down, get focused, get creative, and connect with others by tapping into the power of the five senses. On this episode of The Art of Charm, we delve into the fascinating topic of how our senses shape our perception of the world around us. We learn that while preferences for taste are innate, preferences for smells are learned associations that vary by culture and personal experience. We explore how we can use our senses to improve our well-being, including listening better, using touch to calm anxiety, and substituting sensory stimulation to curb unhealthy snacking habits.  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Why do we prefer certain senses (touch, taste, smell, sound, sight) over others and how do we tune into our neglected senses to get more out of life? How do our senses help connect us with other people? How your culture influences your five senses ? 16:01 How does the culture you grow up in influence the way you perceive the world through your senses? How do you use your senses to make time slow down so life doesn?t fly by so quickly? Nurture neglected senses to get more out of life ? 23:58  What simple exercise can you do to make everyday experiences feel new and exciting again? Use your senses to conquer weaknesses ? 31:22 How can you tap into your five senses to overcome cravings for unhealthy foods? How do you use your sense of touch to overcome anxiety? Delve into the fascinating topic of how our senses shape our perception of the world around us. While preferences for taste are innate, preferences for smells are learned associations that vary by culture and personal experience. We can use our senses to improve our well-being, including listening better, using touch to feel calm, and substituting sensory stimulation to curb unhealthy snacking habits. We also delve into the power of our brains to recognize faces and the challenges of navigating open-plan offices. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion on the role of our senses in our daily lives. A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode Gretchen Rubin?s website Gretchen Rubin | Happiness and the Four Tendencies Life in Five Senses: How Exploring the Senses Got Me Out of My Head and Into the World by Gretchen Rubin Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover the most valuable lessons Navy SEALS have shared with us over the years. Navy SEALS are some of the toughest guys on the planet, so what can they teach you about motivation, overcoming your deepest fears, rising to be the best leader you can be, and setting goals to help you achieve your dreams and unlock your potential?    What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 David Goggins ? 3:28 How did David Goggins find the strength and motivation to unlock his potential and overcome all of his limiting beliefs? What helped David Goggins pull off superhuman feats like running over 70 ultra-distance races and doing 4000 pull ups in 17 hours?  Rich Diviney ? 21:30  What?s the difference between anxiety and insecurity and what can you do to overcome both? What can you do to feel more confident about the present and your future? Why do we feel fear and what can you do to overcome your fears so you can unlock your potential? How do you become a better leader? Dan Luna ? 47:25 What can you learn about goal setting from a Navy SEAL so you can achieve your wildest dreams? How do you stop being so hard on yourself? True confidence comes from knowing you can perform no matter what the environment is like around you. Fear is a combination of uncertainty and anxiety, but you can control both by asking yourself what you can control in the moment and taking action towards it. Exposure to fear helps train your brain to step through fear and get less afraid. Developing our attributes takes self-motivation, self-direction, and a willingness to step into discomfort and uncertainty. And remember, practicing stepping into fears can lead to greater confidence and resilience.  Resources from this Episode Master Your Mindset with David Goggins (Episode 730) Rich Diviney | 5 Navy Seal Attributes To Annihilate Any Obstacle 5 Tips To Lead Like A Navy SEAL In Any Setting | Dan Luna Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover self development and acceptance commitment therapy with Art of Charm alumnus Nishant Patel. Nishant went through the Art of Charm bootcamp 15 years ago and went on to become a successful practitioner of Acceptance Commitment Therapy. The stories we tell ourselves define how we see the world and interact with the people around us, so what are these stories we tell, how do you tell if they?re helping or hindering you, and how do you tell yourself better stories to achieve your dream life?    What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How did the pickup era start? Why was the Art of Charm started?  The origin of self-development for men ? 11:49 Why do men get into self-development? What is life like after an Art of Charm bootcamp?  How do humans see the world? ? 28:06  What stories do we tell ourselves that shape how we live in this world and interact with other people? How do you learn to be better at life? Why should you meditate? ? 43:22 What is meditation and how can it reduce your suffering? What are the 4 practical benefits of meditation that will change your life?   We are gifted powerful minds as humans but without any documentation to explain how to use them. Self-development acts as a manual to understand and leverage the minds we are given. Men often find their way into self-development through dating because in order to have success in the world of dating, men need to be high value to consistently attract women. And becoming high value takes a lot of work. Self-development allows us to understand who we are and what we need to do to get to where we want to be. A Word From Our Sponsors Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode The Art of Charm Bootcamp The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz The Voice of Knowledge: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace by Don Miguel Ruiz The Work of Byron Katie Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. Nom Nom delivers fresh dog food with every portion personalized to your  dog?s needs, so you can bring out their best. Get 50% off your first two weeks at tryNom.com/artofcharm.  Working out is tough. And finding a workout program that sticks, even tougher. Peloton?s classes don?t feel like a regular workout class, they feel like entertainment. In fact, you?ll be craving your workouts. Get started and download the free Peloton App today. Backed by a leading clinical trial where nine out of ten men experienced healthier and visibly improved skin, Caldera Lab has the tools to unlock your best first impression and confidence! Use code CHARM at calderalab.com for 20% OFF their best products. Factor, America?s #1 Ready-To-Eat Meal Kit, can help you fuel up fast with ready-to-eat meals delivered straight to your door. Head to factormeals.com/charm50 to get 50% off your first box. In today?s episode, we cover breakups with AJ, Johnny, and Michael Herold.  Breakups are painful whether you?re breaking up with someone or being broken up with, so what is the best way to handle a breakup, what is the worst thing you can do after a breakup, and what can you do to stand out in a sea of unlimited options when you start dating again? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What damage is hookup culture doing to you and the people around you? What is the worst thing you can do after a breakup? What is the best way to handle a breakup? Rejection can cause anger and lower IQ ? 13:35 How does rejection affect your mental state? What can you do to overcome your fear of rejection and start dating the people you?re attracted to? Stand Out in the Modern Dating Market ? 25:21  What steps do you need to take to stand out from the crowd in a dating market of unlimited options? How do you spark attraction on the first date? What are some ways to effectively build a social circle? Core Values and Dating ? 40:13 Why do you need to identify your core values to be successful in dating and what can you do to figure out what your core values are? How do you build a weekly routine that filters in high quality dating prospects? Explore the ups and downs of dating in today's world! We dive deep into the pain of rejection and what it does to our brains, as well as the damage caused by breakups. We also discuss the best ways to build a successful social life and the importance of physical self-care. Join us as we share tips on how to stand out in a world with unlimited options and how to improve your online dating profile. We also touch on the power of weak ties and how they could be the key to finding your perfect match.  Resources from this Episode The Art of Charm Bootcamp Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. In today?s episode, we cover happiness and fulfillment with Prince Ea. Prince Ea grew up as a shy, introverted kid who discovered conscious hip hop in high school and was inspired to make music to educate others like the rappers he admired did for him. He pursued a career in hip hop but found himself constantly comparing and competing with other artists which led him to question the meaning of happiness. He stopped rapping and began reading books on Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism, and psychotherapy to find the answer. He found that happiness is inside all of us and began sharing his insights through poetry and informative content. He continues to be the change he wants to see in the world and helps others find peace in their own lives. The journey to find fulfillment in life is filled with obstacles and distractions, so what can you do to overcome them, what resources can you use to find happiness and fulfillment, and how can you know who to bring with you on your journey so they don?t hold you back? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What advantages does being shy grant you over people who are extroverted? How do you avoid the comparison trap of social media so you don?t get lost in beating yourself up over not doing or having enough? Failure and Self-Criticism ? 12:48 How do you view failure so you don?t bogged down when something you create doesn?t have the reception or impact you thought it would? What can you do to be more patient? Maximize the Value You Take From Books ? 23:06  How do you approach a book to get the most value out of it? What can you do to unlock your inner confidence and create lasting changes in your life? Filtering People In and Out of Your Life ? 32:28 How do you know who to allow into your life and who to remove from your life? We explore stories of self-discovery and inner growth, ranging from the importance of self-love to the power of books and the pivotal role of relationships in our lives. We hear about a rapper's journey to finding peace, the value of prioritizing one's own world, and how comparing oneself to others online can lead to a trap. Additionally, we take a closer look at the significance of friendships, how to find a tribe that aligns with our energy, and the role language plays in our relationships. Tune in for insights and tips to cultivate personal growth and create a more fulfilling life. A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode Prince Ea?s YouTube channel Prince Ea on Instagram Prince Ea on Twitter Prince Ea?s website The Mood Cure: The 4-Step Program to Take Charge of Your Emotions--Today Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. In today?s episode, we cover the myth of normal with Gabor Mate. Gabor is a renowned physician and author who has dedicated his life to exploring the themes of health, normality, and mental health. With a background in medicine, Gabor challenges existing norms and values, advocating for a world in which our practices reflect the true needs of individuals and society. He has written a number of books, including his best-selling work The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture, in which he questions traditional ideas of what is normal and challenges readers to think critically about our assumptions. Modern society is rewarding us for unhealthy behavior and punishing us for healthy behavior, but how did this come to be, how is it affecting you and everyone you care about, and what steps can you take to protect yourself and your loved ones? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What is the myth of normal? How has culture become toxic to the human condition? Why is being nice harmful to your mental health? Modern culture is destroying parent-child relationships ? 15:37 How does modern culture erode a child?s ability to form bonds with their parents and what can you do ensure you have a healthy relationship with your kids? Why do we feel the need to escape reality and pursue virtual relationships and virtual experiences? What is trauma? ? 25:11  How do we misuse the word ?trauma? and how does it lead us to ignore serious problems in our relationships? What can you do to heal your trauma so it stops harming you and your relationships? Can we use anger to heal? ? 35:40 Why is anger important for self-respect and feeling good about yourself and what is the difference between unhealthy and healthy anger? What 5 steps can you take to overcome your limiting beliefs so you can unlock your potential and achieve your dreams? What does it mean to be ?normal? in a society where normal behavior seems increasingly harmful to our health and relationships? All the time we spend inside, alone, and on devices is not doing us any favors. But how did this happen? What pushed humans to develop lifestyles that are making us unhappy and unhealthy? It starts with the parents and how we have structured our lives to promote relationships that don?t serve us, discourage healthy expression of our emotions and boundary setting.  A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? After coaching over 10,000 clients including military special operators and Fortune 500 executives we?ve learned a thing or two about what it actually takes to grow your network. In fact, over 90% of the amazing guests on this show are from referrals in our personal networks. We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Mate Gabor Mate?s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. In today?s episode, we cover how to forge a thriving life with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael.  We are at war with the modern world when it comes to leading lives of satisfaction and fulfillment because technology and society are pushing us to be depressed and isolated, so how do you overcome it, what can you do to build a thriving social life, and how do you determine a mission that keeps you focused and driven? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What is the key to health, wellness, and success in the modern world? Navigating daily life, office politics, and media can lead to feeling isolated ? 10:23 How is the modern world pushing us to isolate and how do you overcome it so you don?t end up sad and lonely? How to build a new social circle ? 21:11  Where do you start if you want to create an exciting social life? What do we use to add value to peoples? lives and enrich the relationships in our lives so people value us and want to spend time with us? How do you reconnect with old friends? Define your mission to attract high value connections ? 31:32 Why is it important to spend time figuring out one's mission and becoming mission-driven, and how do you figure out what your mission is? How do you create a high value network so you never worry about being lonely, unemployed, or single? Building relationships is key to success in many areas, including the workplace, and cannot be replaced by hard work alone. And despite external factors such as nepotism and favoritism playing a role in success, building social capital in the form of value you can add to the relationships in your life is key. This episode offers strategies and frameworks for reconnecting with old relationships that have drifted away, including reaching out and inviting people into one's life. Find and connect with people who share similar goals and mindsets. Tune in to this episode for insights on building momentum in life through a high-value network and community.  A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? You are one relationship away from changing your entire life. Listen: your social circle, professional network, and lack of confidence are thwarting your attempts at accelerating your career. But there?s something you can do about it. After coaching over 10,000 clients including military special operators and Fortune 500 executives we?ve learned a thing or two about what it actually takes to grow your network. In fact, over 90% of the amazing guests on this show are from referrals in our personal networks. We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode The Harvard Happiness Study & What it Takes to Be Socially Fit | Dr. Robert Waldinger | AOC Podcast Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. In today?s episode, we cover magic words and the impact of language with Jonah Berger. Jonah is a Wharton School professor, an expert on natural language processing, influence, and consumer behavior, and is the internationally bestselling author of Magic Words, Contagious, Invisible Influence, and The Catalyst. Questions are the key to connecting with the people around you, so what kinds of questions should you ask when getting to know someone, what questions should you avoid, and how can you word questions in a way to get people to do what you want them to do? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Why are questions so powerful when talking to people? What kind of question should you ask if you want other people to like you or perceive you better? What should you say if someone asks you a question you don?t want to answer? Questions that Push People Out and Pull People In ? 14:53 What questions do we ask that put people on the defensive and how do we reword the same questions to get the answers we actually want? What questions can you ask to turn strangers into friends? How many questions can you ask before a conversation gets uncomfortable? Identity and Agency Questions ? 26:29  What questions can you ask to motivate people to take the action you want them to take? How do many of us use self-talk the wrong way and how does it sabotage our goals and dreams?  What is hedging and how does hedging make us seem less confident? When we use questions as tools, they become powerful. They can build bridges or break them; it's up to us to decide which kind of question we want to use. If you want other people to like you and view you better, the best type of question should be open-ended, positive and interesting. Avoid questions that put people on the defensive and instead choose phrases that invoke thought and curiosity. Asking questions to strangers is a great way to get them interested in knowing more about you and forming new relationships.  A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? You are one relationship away from changing your entire life. Listen: your social circle, professional network, and lack of confidence are thwarting your attempts at accelerating your career. But there?s something you can do about it. After coaching over 10,000 clients including military special operators and Fortune 500 executives we?ve learned a thing or two about what it actually takes to grow your network. In fact, over 90% of the amazing guests on this show are from referrals in our personal networks. We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode Jonah Berger?s website Magic Words: What to Say to Get Your Way by Jonah Berger Jonah Berger | The Art of Persuasion | AOC Podcast  Jonah Berger | Invisible Influence | AOC Podcast BetterHelp Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/charm today to get 10% off your first month. In today?s episode, we cover anger and compassion with Russell Kolts, PhD. Russell is Professor of Psychology at Eastern Washington University, an internationally recognized trainer in compassion-focused therapy (CFT), a TedX speaker, and the author of several books on compassion-focused therapy including CFT Made Simple: A Clinician's Guide to Practicing Compassion-Focused Therapy and Buddhist Psychology and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy: A Clinician's Guide. Many men struggle with anger, especially today because society condemns the emotion, so what does it mean to express anger in healthy ways vs unhealthy ways, what can you do to manage your anger effectively, and how can you use self-compassion to ensure your anger doesn?t destroy your relationships? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What are the biggest misconceptions around compassion and why is compassion important to your ability to dominate life with finesse and courage? Is it bad to use anger as fuel for action and growth? How to Manage Anger ? 12:40 What exercise can you implement today to make sure you don?t blow up at someone you care about the next time they make you angry? The worst way to resolve conflict ? 22:46  How do you handle conflict and arguments when your anger feels overwhelming? How do you manage shame effectively? Why is a problem solving approach problematic in relationship conflicts? Tools for Building Self Compassion ? 41:20  What 2 questions can you ask yourself to develop self compassion so you can be as patient and understanding with yourself as you are with the people you care about?  Self compassion doesn?t come naturally, especially for men, but it?s crucial for not allowing anger to control us. Also, it?s important to recognize the difference between using anger for positive things like motivation for taking action or problem solving versus letting anger consume us. It takes awareness, intention, and practice to be able to show the same compassion to yourself as you do the people you care about. When done effectively, showing compassion can transform any kind of hostile situation into something more meaningful, both in relationships you?re part of and in life in general.  A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? After coaching over 10,000 clients including military special operators and Fortune 500 executives we?ve learned a thing or two about what it actually takes to grow your network. In fact, over 90% of the amazing guests on this show are from referrals in our personal networks. We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode Anger, Compassion, and What It Means To Be Strong | TEDxOlympia Russell Kolts on Twitter CFT Made Simple: A Clinician's Guide to Practicing Compassion-Focused Therapy Buddhist Psychology and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy: A Clinician's Guide BetterHelp Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover self mastery with Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, a TEDx speaker, runs a top ranked podcast called ManTalks, and is the author of Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom.  We are facing a crisis of masculinity, so what can we learn from other cultures when it comes to helping and encouraging boys to become responsible and powerful men, why is it important for men to have strong friendships with other men, and what are modern men missing that lead them to fail in relationships? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 Why are initiation rituals important for men and what price is society paying for not having initiation rituals? Why do men abuse power and what can we do to prepare our sons so they don?t abuse power when they become men? Initiation Rituals ? 10:56 Why do cultures across the planet use initiation rituals for young boys to enter into manhood? How does your self-talk hold you back from being the person you want to be and how do you improve it? Why is it important to have groups solely for men to be men and talk about men?s issues? Men and Self Development ? 26:14  What is the most important thing men should focus on to achieve and maintain their happiness and fulfillment in life? The Secret to Non-Neediness in Relationships ? 40:05  What are men lacking in their lives that lead them to be needy in romantic relationships, causing those relationships to fall apart? Initiation rituals have been used throughout history to help transition young boys into manhood. These rites of passage can teach us many things, but the most salient theme that remains is the need for men to face failure and powerlessness so as to enter manhood with a strong sense of self and humility. With positive self-talk we can stop ourselves from believing any false disclosures we face and learn how to think positively and productively. It is also important that men find male-only spaces where they can be men and talk about their issues.  A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? You are one relationship away from changing your entire life. Listen: your social circle, professional network, and lack of confidence are thwarting your attempts at accelerating your career. But there?s something you can do about it. We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it?s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that?s in your way. Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom by Connor Beaton Connor Beaton?s website Connor Beaton on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover the unsold mindset with Colin Goggins and Garrett Brown. Colin and Garrett are sales leaders, teachers of the popular USC course Sales Mindset for Entrepreneurs, co-founders of Agency18, keynote speakers and guest lecturers, and the authors of The Unsold Mindset: Redefining What It Means to Sell. Sales can be brutal if you don?t have the right mindset, so what makes the best salespeople so great, what is the one quality you should express in every interaction with a potential customer, and how do you build resilience to push through all the rejection?  What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 What makes for a great salesperson and why don?t the best salespeople consider themselves to be salespeople? Transformational vs Transactional Sales ? 22:10 What is the difference between transformational and transactional sales and which one do customers prefer? Why is it a strength to be intentionally ignorant when meeting/speaking with customers? What is the most important quality you can express when interacting with a potential customer? Rejection and Resiliency ? 34:18  What can you do to build resilience in sales so you don?t get hung up on rejection? What is the difference between toxic positivity and pathological optimism and why is one off putting while the other is necessary to accomplish great things? Goal Setting ? 56:32  How should you view and set goals so they help you rather than hinder you? How do you find a meaningful purpose in your work when you feel your work is meaningless? Salespeople are great connectors, and success in sales not only takes hard work but also the right mindset. Building resilience is key to sustaining energy in sales, so techniques like positive self-talk are incredibly important. By setting achievable goals and adopting motivation techniques like vision boards, you?ll be able to tackle any challenges that arise in the workplace. Attitude is everything when it comes to finding purpose and passion in your work; no matter how mundane it may seem, every task can bring joy and meaning if you choose to make it worthwhile.  A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? You are one relationship away from changing your entire life. We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it?s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that?s in your way. Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode The Unsold Mindset: Redefining What It Means to Sell by Colin Coggins, Garrett Brown Colin and Garrett?s website Colin and Garrett on Twitter Colin and Garrett on Instagram Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover the science of subtraction with Leidy Klotz. Leidy studies the science of design, his research has appeared in both Nature and Science, and his book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, was ranked as one of the most influential titles in the fields of design and behavioral science. As humans, we gravitate toward acquiring things and activities to add value to our lives, but many times we can add value to our lives by removing things from it?why is our biology working against us, how can you determine what to subtract from your life, and how do you get your family, friends, and coworkers on board? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How can you make your life more fulfilling by removing things from your life? Why does our biology prime us to add things to our life even if those things don?t enrich our lives? Reduce Distractions to Increase Fulfillment ? 16:28 What questions can you ask to determine what you should remove from your life to improve your life? What pushes you to add unnecessary things to your life ? 31:53  What are the forces around you that are always nudging you to add things to your life that end up unnecessarily complicating your life? Getting people on board with the concept of subtraction ? 44:40  What can you say to people to convince them that removing things from their lives will improve their lives? Many of us go through life without taking the time to analyze what brings value to our lives and what doesn?t. Our biology drives us to seek out things that we think will make us happy but often those things don?t actually bring long-term fulfillment. Consider evaluating what you have in your life and see if there are any areas where you could declutter your life for more contentment, or to free up time to focus on the things that do bring value to your life. When was the last time you took inventory of your life and considered ways you could simplify?  A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? You are one relationship away from changing your entire life. Listen: your social circle, professional network, and lack of confidence are thwarting your attempts at accelerating your career. But there?s something you can do about it. We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it?s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that?s in your way. Running out of things to say in conversation? and still struggling to get people interested in you? That?s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don?t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Additional Sponsors: Babbel - https://www.babbel.com/charm Hello Fresh - https://hellofresh.com/charm65 Athletic Greens - https://athleticgreens.com/charm NextEvo - https://nextevo.com/charm Resources from this Episode Leidy Klotz?s website Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less by Leidy Klotz Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today?s episode, we cover fun with Mike Rucker. Mike is an organizational psychologist, behavioral scientist, recovering entrepreneur, and the author of The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life. The pursuit of pleasure has been beaten into us as an unhealthy one by many thought leaders throughout history, but what role do fun and leisure play in increasing our productivity, how can you leverage pleasure to make daily work more enjoyable, and what can you do to create more space in your day for pleasurable activities if you find yourself burning out on work? What to Listen For Introduction ? 0:00 How does focusing on happiness lead to rumination and depression?  Hedonic Flexibility Principle ? 16:02 What role do fun and leisure play in maximizing productivity and life satisfaction? How important is it to take a sabbatical periodically to recharge and regain a healthy focus on life and work? Activity Bundling ? 34:03  What can you do to add fun and pleasure to your daily activities to make them more enjoyable and thus encourage you to do them better? Creating Options for Fun in Your Life ? 43:28  What little decisions can you make everyday to make your life more fulfilling? What simple framework can you use to create space in your life to integrate more fun activities and decrease the number of soul-sucking activities? It is evident that happiness does not necessarily lie in big accomplishments or major life changes, but rather in the small choices we make each day. When we focus on making those choices fun and enjoyable, we are more likely to stick with them and see lasting results. What are some small decisions you can make today to add a little bit of fun and pleasure to your daily routine? A Word From Our Sponsors Are you ready to take your career to the next level in 2023? Looking to grow your high-value social circle? You are one relationship away from changing your entire life. Listen: your social circle, professional network, and lack of confidence are thwarting your attempts at accelerating your career. But there?s something you can do about it. After coaching over 10,000 clients including military special operators and Fortune 500 executives we?ve learned a thing or two about what it actually takes to grow your network. In fact, over 90% of the amazing guests on this show are from referrals in our personal networks. We?ve packaged our best insights inside a course called, Social Capital. And, as a thank you for being a podcast listener, we want to give you this training for FREE to start 2023. To get your hands on this training and immediately start improving your relationships, go to theartofcharm.com/sc Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it?s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that?s in your way. Additional Sponsors: Babbel - https://www.babbel.com/charm Hello Fresh - https://hellofresh.com/charm65 Athletic Greens - https://athleticgreens.com/charm NextEvo - https://nextevo.com/charm Resources from this Episode The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life Mike Rucker?s website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices