Feel like a narcissist magnet?  If you keep dating narcissists, attracting narcissists, or you keep repeating narcissistic relationship patterns, there?s a reason, and it has everything to do with something no one is telling you. The truth is, narcissistic relationships take hold when you sideline your own needs and shrink your self-worth. Hilary breaks down the traits that make women vulnerable to toxic relationships with narcissistic men: people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, craving attention, chasing validation, overgiving as a way to feel valuable. These habits create the perfect entry point for a narcissist!  This isn?t about blaming you; it?s to finally see the role you play so you can stop repeating it. This episode gives you a path to break the cycle of attracting narcissists for good. What shifts when you trust yourself again? How different would dating feel with real boundaries instead of fear? Hilary shows you how self-loyalty becomes the filter that keeps narcissistic partners out of your life and pulls you back into your own power. Episode Highlights: Why you keep attracting narcissists The patterns that pull you into toxic relationships How people-pleasing kills your boundaries The magnet traits narcissistic partners chase What healing after narcissistic abuse really requires The mindset shift that ends the cycle for good Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Understanding the Attraction to Narcissists 03:12 The Impact of Narcissistic Relationships 06:03 Shifting the Focus: From Narcissists to Self-Reflection 08:55 Identifying and Flipping Magnet Traits 11:48 Healing and Moving Forward Ready to stop attracting narcissists and start choosing real love? Join me inside Ready for Love and learn how to trust yourself again. ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Links Cozy Earth: Your New Favorite Blanket Up to 40% off their Bubble Cuddle blanket and more.Use Promo Code: READYFORLOVE at CozyEarth.com

Unrequited love can take down even the most capable, confident women, and Hilary is done watching smart, high-achieving women lose themselves over someone who can?t meet them where they are. This episode is a call back to your power, especially in those moments when your mind is spinning, your heart is hopeful, and the person you want isn?t choosing you back. Hilary dives into the shame, the second-guessing, and the quiet panic that shows up when you start making someone else?s behavior mean something about your worth. She offers a clearer way to see what?s really happening, why these patterns feel so magnetic, and what becomes possible when you stop interpreting someone?s ?no? as proof that you?re not enough. Instead of chasing, contorting, or holding on to hope that never turns into reality, Hilary invites you to be honest with yourself: would you want this person if fear wasn?t making the decisions? She shares the shifts that helped her stop abandoning herself in dating, including the seven things she quit while she was single that opened her up to real love. If you?re ready to step out of the spiral and back into self-respect, this episode is your starting place. Episode Highlights: Why unrequited love hits even the strongest women The subtle ways self-abandonment shows up in dating The lock-and-key truth that makes dating cleaner and calmer The questions that reveal whether someone is actually right for you The seven things Hilary quit that opened the door to real love Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Celebrating Women and the Pain of Unrequited Love 03:03 Understanding Self-Worth and Rejection 05:50 The Key and Lock Analogy in Relationships 09:07 Quitting Behaviors That Sabotage Love 17:58 Embracing Your Innate Worthiness  ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Links Cozy Earth: Your New Favorite Blanket Up to 40% off their Bubble Cuddle blanket and more.Use Promo Code: READYFORLOVE at CozyEarth.com

Still single and calling your love life ?fine?? Please. Hilary isn?t buying it, and neither should you. In this episode, Hilary is getting real about the quiet ache that hides behind independence and success. She?s talking about the kind of loneliness that becomes familiar enough to live with, even when it quietly hurts. Maybe you?ve told yourself the timing isn?t right to start dating or to find romance, or that you?re focused on other things. But what if you?ve just gotten comfortable being uncomfortable? This episode pulls back the curtain on what it really means to ?tolerate? being single. Hilary explains how identity, how you see yourself, shapes every part of your love life. Have you started to see yourself as the woman who doesn?t get love? Have you made peace with that story without realizing it? She shares why doing more won?t fix what?s underneath and how shifting your self-concept is the key to creating the love you want. The question is: how long are you willing to keep calling ?fine? good enough? Episode Highlights: The hidden cost of saying you?re ?fine? How comfort zones quietly become cages Why your identity, not your effort, decides what changes The subtle ways women block themselves from love How to start becoming the version of you who gets everything she wants Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Holiday Dilemma of Singleness 02:50 How Tolerating Singleness Keeps You Stuck 06:03 Identity, Self-Perception, and Feeling ?Unlovable? 08:57 Breaking the Cycle of Limiting Beliefs 11:47 Becoming the Woman Who Attracts Extraordinary Love ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Links Cozy Earth: Luxurious Bedding Up to 40% Off + 100-Night Sleep Trial Use Promo Code: READYFORLOVE AquaTru: Ultra-Pure Water You Can Actually Trust 20% Off Your Countertop Purifier Use Promo Code: READY at AquaTru.com

Think you?re ?too much,? ?too independent,? or ?too intimidating? for love? You?re not. You?re just done playing small! In this episode, Hilary Silver sits down with Ready for Love grad Kara Judd, a powerhouse executive who finally got honest about what was really holding her back in relationships. Kara opens up about how she stopped blaming her success, her height, and her ?strong personality,? and started doing the deeper work, rewriting the stories that kept her settling for less. Now she?s in a healthy, equal relationship built on respect, communication, and growth. This isn?t a fairy tale, it?s what happens when you heal your patterns and show up as your real self. Episode Highlights: Why accomplished women still feel insecure in love How subconscious beliefs shape attraction and dating patterns Kara?s process for rewriting old stories and showing up differently What a truly equal relationship looks like after doing the work Why being ?too much? is actually your greatest strength The difference between being chosen and choosing yourself Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Kara?s Love Story and Dating Breakthrough 03:10 How Childhood Beliefs Sabotage Love 05:26 The Wake-Up Moment That Changed Everything 08:45 Attracting a High-Quality Man After Healing 12:30 Boundaries, Space, and Real Connection 15:22 From Self-Sabotage to Self-Worth 18:44 How Confidence Changes Love 21:10 Real Love Starts with Self-Honesty Tune in and find out what really changes when you stop settling and start showing up fully. ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Connect With Kara Judd: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kara-judd-4477a01/ Cozy Earth: Luxurious Bedding Up to 40% Off + 100-Night Sleep Trial Use Promo Code: READYFORLOVE AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer

When a man keeps you half chosen and half confused, the real problem isn?t his hesitation but the part of you willing to wait for it! Ever been strung along by a man who gives just enough to keep you hopeful but never enough to give you certainty? One day he?s all charm and chemistry, the next he?s conveniently unavailable? You start analyzing his behavior like a crime scene. Does he have trauma? Is it timing? Is it me? Hilary calls BS! In this episode, Hilary dismantles the obsession with figuring him out and asks a better question: Why are you waiting for someone who won?t choose you fully? Mixed signals are signals. If it only feels good when he?s present but wrecks your peace when he?s gone, that?s not romance ? that?s chaos dressed as potential. And if you?re tolerating crumbs, playing it cool, or bending your boundaries just to keep him around, you?re accidentally auditioning for the role of ?almost enough.? Hilary?s message is blunt but liberating: stop chasing clarity from him and start demanding consistency for yourself. You don?t need closure, you need standards. So ask yourself, are you in a relationship or just holding space for someone who hasn?t decided? And if you stopped waiting on his decision, what would yours be? Episode Highlights: Why ?understanding him? is just a distraction from reclaiming your own power What mixed signals in dating are actually telling you How pick-me energy sabotages real commitment Signs you?re emotionally unavailable too The mindset shift that ends situationships for good Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Women Stay Stuck in Non-Committal Relationships 01:34 The Trap of Overanalyzing His Mixed Signals 03:18 Emotional Burnout from Chasing Clarity 04:21 How to Evaluate a Relationship Beyond Chemistry 05:24 The Hidden Cost of Self-Betrayal and Pick-Me Energy 07:31 When You?re the One Afraid of Commitment 09:17 Shifting from Waiting to Self-Ownership 10:00 Final Call to Stop Settling ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

When you?ve been single for 13 years, ?I?m fine? starts sounding a lot like ?I?ve given up.? Kimberly was successful on paper, but she was quietly miserable off it. Between perimenopause, work burnout, and pandemic isolation, she?d convinced herself she was too busy (and too jaded) for love. Then she found Ready for Love, and everything shifted.  She thought she was signing up to find love. Happily, she found herself in the process. In this episode, Kimberly gets raw about forgiving herself after an affair, dropping decades of shame, and learning what real emotional maturity looks like. She shares how doing the work helped her move cities, meet her partner (again), and launch her own consulting business with actual self-trust. Now she?s living proof: self-love isn?t a backup plan, it?s the whole plan. Episode Highlights: Why independence can be emotional armor in disguise The real reason self-forgiveness changes everything What ?doing the work? actually looks like when it sticks How loving yourself first changes your love life and your career The secret to attracting love that feels calm, not chaotic Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Finding Love by Loving Yourself First 00:22 13 Years Single and Ready for Change 05:53 Healing Shame and Rebuilding Self-Worth 07:58 How Attachment Styles Impact Relationships 11:40 Meeting Her Partner and Creating Healthy Love 16:02 From Self-Love to Career Confidence 17:50 Why Investing in Yourself Always Pays Off ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you?re a woman who can run circles around most humans ? yet still finds herself scheduling her partner?s appointments, tracking his moods, or generally keeping his life stitched together ? congratulations, you?re unofficially in man-keeping mode. Hilary is calling it out the silent epidemic of high-achieving women accidentally becoming their partner?s project manager instead of their partner. Spoiler: nothing kills attraction faster than turning romance into a daycare. But rather than blaming men, she hands the steering wheel back to us. How much of this dynamic exists because we keep jumping in? What happens if you stop over-functioning and let him rise,  or reveal that he won?t? This episode is a wake-up call for every woman who?s tired of being needed more than she?s cherished. Because you don?t need another job title. You need a partner who carries his own weight without being micromanaged. Episode Highlights: The real reason competent women keep ending up in mothering roles How ?helping? becomes control disguised as care Why boundaries are sexier than over-giving The one-liner that stops you from taking on his ?we should? ideas How to instantly shift the power dynamic without drama or nagging Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is Man-Keeping? 01:09 When You Start Feeling Like His Mom 02:33 The Real Fix: Change Your Own Patterns 06:25 Stop Overfunctioning and Set Boundaries 07:27 Flip the ?We Should? Script 11:08 Love Is Partnership, Not Parenting ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you?ve ever rejected a man because his name annoyed you? this episode is for you.   Hilary sits down with award-winning interior designer and unapologetic former love-skeptic Meryl Stern, who admits she once dismissed perfectly good men for crimes like ?bad vibes? and ?unfortunate first names.? (Her words.) But beneath all that discernment? A woman hiding behind a beautifully curated emotional wall.   Inside Ready for Love, Meryl didn?t just ?work on herself? ? she resigned from decades-old childhood roles, stopped earning love by overgiving, and rewired her identity from martyring do-it-all to woman who actually receives. Now, she runs a luxury design firm with her daughter, just completed a 12,000 sq ft project featured in Architectural Digest, and treats dating the same way she treats client selection: You don?t pick me. I pick YOU.   She?s single, self-possessed, and fully uninterested in settling, which, around here, counts as a success story. Episode Highlights: When ?I?m just independent? is actually code for I don?t trust myself to choose well Why nitpicking men is just fear in fancy clothes The homework assignment that broke her identity wide open How healing self-worth bleeds into business, leadership, and money Dating rule #1: You don?t get picked?you pick   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Meet award-winning designer & RFL alum Meryl 02:00 The moment she realized her ?independence? was actually a wall 05:40 How journaling cracked her open 08:10 The resignation letter that rewired her self-image 12:30 Building a business with her daughter (without killing each other) 16:45 Her three-year AD-featured dream project 18:50 Current relationship status? Selectively single 20:30 The real measure of success: Would the old you tolerate this?   ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else.   ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?    ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass   ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Ever seen those videos promising to ?make him obsessed with you in 5 texts? or ?7 tricks to make a man worship you like a queen?? Yeah? Hilary?s not having it.   This week, she?s calling BS on the toxic, clickbait dating advice flooding YouTube. From ?dark psychology? tactics to straight-up patriarchal conditioning, this advice is designed to manipulate women, keep them second-guessing themselves, and?let?s be honest?get them to buy something.   Hilary breaks down four reasons why these tactics are not just wrong but harmful?and why they?ll never lead to real love. Instead, she gives you the only dating advice you?ll ever need: trust yourself. When you stop twisting yourself into a pretzel to please men, you stop attracting the wrong ones and start naturally attracting the right one.   If you?re tired of playing games and ready to finally show up as the woman you actually are (and be loved for it), this episode is your wake-up call.   Episode Highlights: Why ?clickbait? dating advice is built on manipulation, not empowerment The four major problems with toxic, prescriptive dating tactics How inauthenticity sabotages real connection (and yourself in the process) Why advice centered on him keeps women stuck in patriarchal conditioning The simple, powerful truth: trusting yourself is the only dating advice you?ll ever need   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Worst Dating Advice for Women 01:39 Dark Psychology Tactics in Dating Advice 03:05 How Manipulation Backfires in Relationships 04:20 Prescriptive Advice vs. Trusting Yourself 05:14 Why Man-Centered Dating Advice Hurts Women 06:08 The Only Dating Advice You?ll Ever Need 06:39 Ready for Love?s Authentic Approach   ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?    Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass   Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Lori Young, a Ready for Love alum, decided she was done settling for crumbs of affection, heartbreak, and controlling men. Instead of buying the couch she?d been saving for, Lori put that money into herself?and it changed everything. In this conversation with me, Lori shares how she broke old patterns, stopped confusing drama for chemistry, and learned to ask for what she actually wanted. Today she?s married to a secure, steady partner, thriving in her career, and bold enough to run for city council. If you?ve ever found yourself replaying the same relationship story and wondering why nothing changes, Lori?s story will challenge you to ask: when are you going to stop playing small and finally invest in yourself?   Episode Highlights: The Saturday night moment that pushed Lori to finally say ?enough? Why investing in yourself is smart money The Chinese finger trap metaphor that freed her from control games How to stop chasing fireworks and start choosing safe, steady love   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Meet Lori Young 02:53 The Journey to Self-discovery 05:55 Investing in Yourself 08:52 Lessons from the Ready For Love Program 12:09 Embracing New Opportunities 14:57 Navigating New Relationships 17:49 Finding Authenticity 21:04 Celebrating Growth and Success 23:57 The Power of Community 26:58 Fearless, Unafraid, Unintimidated   ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else.   ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

You can spend thousands on a matchmaker or swipe until your thumbs go numb, but if you keep running into the same disappointing patterns, the real question isn?t ?where are all the good men?? The real question is how are you showing up when you meet them? In this episode, Hilary unpacks why so many smart, successful women struggle in love even when everything looks perfect on the outside. Ghosting, mismatches, and one-sided relationships aren?t the problem themselves?they?re signals of something deeper. When self-doubt, fear, or insecurity color your energy, the wrong men move closer and the right ones step away. So how do you stop chasing quick fixes and instead become the woman who naturally attracts the kind of love you want? Hilary shares why identity work?not dating hacks?is the real key, and what changes when you finally treat yourself as the priority first.   Episode Highlights: Why spending money on a matchmaker rarely fixes the real issue The ?tree? metaphor that explains dating struggles at the root level How self-doubt and fear act like a magnet for the wrong men What high-quality men actually notice (and what makes them turn away) Why identity work is more powerful than any dating tactic   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Matchmaker Myth 01:05 The Real Problem: Who You?re Being 02:31 The Tree Analogy of Dating Patterns 06:01 Why You Attract the Wrong Men 09:09 Identity Work and Self-Worth 10:54 Why Matchmakers Fail 13:00 Becoming Your Future Self   ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else.   ? Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you?ve ever blamed your single status on men being ?intimidated,? it?s time for a reality check. That story might feel good at the moment, but it?s keeping you from the very connection you want. In this episode, Hilary calls BS on the idea that your success is the reason love hasn?t worked out. With 25 years of experience coaching powerhouse women, she breaks down what?s really going on when you hear that ?intimidating? feedback. Spoiler: it?s less about men being scared and more about the energy you?re putting out. Hilary shows how many women hide their softer, more vulnerable sides behind achievements, creating a vibe that feels aloof or unapproachable. The good news? You don?t have to shrink your brilliance to find love?you just need to integrate the strong and the soft so you can be powerful and open.   Episode Highlights: Why ?men are intimidated by me? is a story that keeps women stuck What?s really happening when you hear that feedback on dates How success can become a shield that hides your softer side The vibe that comes across as guarded or unapproachable Why you don?t need to shrink your achievements to attract love The key to integrating strength and vulnerability so connection can grow   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The ?Men Are Intimidated by Me? Myth 01:50 Why Mainstream Advice on Intimidation Misses the Point 03:57 The Tootsie Pop Analogy: Tough Exterior, Soft Inside 04:29 Hiding Behind Success and Achievements 05:41 How to Integrate Strength and Vulnerability 07:15 Breaking Free and Inviting Love In   If you?re tired of hiding behind your résumé and ready to let love in, this episode is your wake-up call. ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

Wanting love and being ready for it aren?t the same thing. You might be on the apps, going on dates, even hiring a matchmaker?but if you keep finding yourself in the cycle of ?hot and heavy? followed by fade and fizzle, the problem may be pacing. In this episode, Hilary unpacks the anxious dating behaviors that push love away and she lays out five concrete ways to date with emotional security rather than a sense of urgency. From keeping your schedule intact, to knowing when to hold back on texting or intimacy, Hilary shows you how to stop spiraling into fantasy and start building real connection?without losing yourself in the process. If you?ve ever skipped Pilates to wait for his call, or decided you were all-in by the third date, this conversation is your reset.    Episode Highlights: Wanting love vs. actually being ready for it ? why they?re not the same The role of pacing and how falling too fast sabotages connection Matching his effort, not his potential, to avoid heartbreak   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Are You Really Ready for Love? 03:27 The Pitfalls of Falling Too Fast 04:52 Five Ways Women Date with Confidence 05:03 Tip 1: Stay Focused on Your Own Life 06:05 Tip 2: Keep Early Dates Short and Intentional 07:08 Tip 3: Match His Effort, Not His Potential 07:51 Tip 4: Delay Physical Intimacy 09:15 Tip 5: Don't Build a Bond Over Text 10:08 Attracting Emotionally Available Men   Healthy, emotionally available men are attracted to confidence, patience, and balance?not eagerness or desperation. Date from security, and you?ll naturally filter out the wrong men while attracting the ones who are truly ready.   ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else.   ? Watch Hilary?s free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass Or apply for a free breakthrough call with her team at https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Most women I talk to over 40, 50, and 60 say the same thing: ?I never thought I?d be here, dating at this stage of life.? And let?s be honest, midlife dating often gets a bad rap. But the truth? It can be the BEST time in your life to find real love? if you know how to approach it. In this episode, we talk about why dating now can be easier, more authentic, and more fulfilling than ever?and how shifting your perspective can change everything.   Episode Highlights: Why dating now can feel easier and more authentic than ever The freedom that comes from wanting?not needing?a partner How showing up as your true self changes who you attract Why self-acceptance is magnetic How trusting yourself shapes every choice you make in love   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Dating Over 50: Why It?s the Best Time for Love   00:53 Meet Hilary  01:47 Midlife Dating Truths   02:07  Reason 1: Maturity & Clarity   03:44 Reason 2: Desire, Not Need   05:08 Reason 3: Authentic Self   07:06 Reason 4: Confidence & Magnetism   08:52 Reason 5: Self-Trust & Boundaries 10:28 Why It?s Never Too Late for Love     Dating now isn?t about chasing chemistry or proving your worth?it?s about finding a true, equal partnership that adds to your already beautiful life.   ? I?m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. ? Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach?time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. ?? Since 2017, we?ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who?ve tried everything else. ? Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass ? Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Blind spots can quietly wreck your dating life long before you realize they?re there. And for high-achieving women, they?re sneaky. You can be doing all the ?right? things on paper and still keep ending up with the wrong men?or no men at all. Hilary?s breaking down the four biggest ones she sees over and over again. Are you sending mixed signals without realizing it? Mistaking career confidence for genuine self-worth? Letting yourself be chosen instead of actually choosing? Or telling yourself you?re ?working on it? when nothing has actually changed? Each blind spot comes with a hard truth and a way forward. And once you see them, you can?t unsee them?which is exactly how you stop getting in your own way.   Episode Highlights: Why mixed signals can repel the kind of partner you actually want The difference between situational confidence and genuine self-worth How ?being chosen? keeps you stuck in relationships that don?t fit The myth that dating is a numbers game (and what really works) Why self-awareness is the fastest way to change your love life   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 How Blind Spots Block Love 01:04 Hilary Silver and Ready for Love 01:36 Blind Spot #1: Ambivalence in Dating 04:15 Blind Spot #2: Low Self-Worth in High Achievers 07:04 Blind Spot #3: Waiting to Be Chosen 09:23 Blind Spot #4: Hoping Love Just Happens 12:22 How to Attract the Love You Want   Ready to stop being your own biggest obstacle?  Apply for a call with Hilary?s team to see if Ready for Love is the right fit for you: hillarysilver.com/apply

He disappears. No explanation, no closure, just gone. And you?re left questioning everything: Did I do something wrong? Was any of it even real? In this episode, Hilary calls out the emotional whiplash of ghosting and gives you three power moves to shift out of helplessness and back into your worth. And no,  it?s not about getting answers from him, it?s about giving closure to yourself. If you?ve ever been left on read and spiraled into doubt, this conversation is your emotional reset.   Episode Highlights: Why ghosting feels like betrayal, even if it wasn?t serious The trap of psychoanalyzing him (and how it keeps you stuck) Three power moves to stop the spiral and reclaim your self-worth How to make peace with the ending, without needing his permission   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Pain of Being Ghosted 02:53 Why Trying to Understand Him Keeps You Stuck 05:11 Power Move #1: Take Inventory Without Self-Blame 06:17 Power Move #2: Detach Your Worth From His Behavior 09:02 Power Move #3: Redefine the Experience and Reclaim Closure 11:20 How to Heal and What Comes Next   Being ghosted doesn?t mean you?re not worthy. It means he couldn?t meet you where you are. And thank God he?s gone before you invested any more of yourself. ? Watch Hilary?s free masterclass:  https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass/ ? Apply for a breakthrough call: http://hilarysilver.com/apply

You?ve got your life together: thriving career, financial independence, emotional intelligence, and yet your love life? A hot mess of emotionally unavailable, underemployed, or unstable men. What gives? In this episode, Hilary calls it like it is: this pattern isn?t about the men. It?s about you. More specifically, your subconscious beliefs, unresolved self-worth issues, and fear of real intimacy. Hilary breaks down 7 brutally honest reasons smart, successful women keep dating down?and how to stop. From choosing men who need you so they won?t leave, to settling for ?projects? instead of partners, she gets to the root of why high-achieving women sabotage their own love lives.   Episode Highlights: Why you freeze (or flee) when a high-quality man actually shows up How caretaking can be a way of earning love when you don?t believe you?re enough The hidden fears that drive you to choose men who feel ?safe? but drain you Why identity work, not another dating strategy, is the real key to change   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Smart Women Keep Dating Down 01:25 What ?Dating Down? Really Means 03:10 Reason #1: Feeling Not Good Enough 05:06 Reason #2: Tying Your Worth to Being Needed 07:03 Reason #3: Fear of Abandonment 10:15 Reason #5: Fear of Real Intimacy 14:29 Reason #7: Dating from Loneliness 16:03 How to Break the Pattern for Good   Hilary doesn?t just name the problem, she offers the way out. Because when you stop outsourcing your worth, everything shifts. Want the kind of love that matches the rest of your success? Start by becoming the version of you who actually believes she deserves it. ? Learn more about Hilary?s Ready for Love program: http://hilarysilver.com/apply

Everyone?s suddenly an expert on attachment styles. Anxious, avoidant, disorganized?it?s all over your feed, and maybe even your therapist?s office. But here?s the truth: if you?re trying to use attachment theory to decode every date and relationship, it?s keeping you stuck. In this episode, Hilary is  breaking down why obsessing over your (and his) attachment style is doing more harm than good, and what actually matters when you?re looking for real love. If you?re a smart, self-aware woman who?s done the work but still isn?t seeing results in your love life, this might be why. Because knowing better doesn?t automatically mean doing better. And the answer isn?t more information?it?s radical self-trust, embodied confidence, and knowing how to assess how a relationship feels instead of overthinking why someone acts the way they do.   Episode Highlights: Why therapy, books, and expert advice often lead to ?knowing better but not doing better? The trap of over-intellectualizing your love life What to look for in a relationship that actually matters How long-term love evolves, and why labels won?t help you grow it   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Are Keeping You Single 02:21 Information Doesn?t Equal Transformation 04:46 The Problem with Overthinking and Intellectualizing Love 06:06 The Danger of Labeling Your Partner (or Yourself) 08:02 What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like 09:16 Stop Fixating on Him, Focus on You   If you're ready to stop psychoanalyzing every text and start showing up as the woman who knows what she wants and how to get it?this episode is for you. ? Watch the free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass/ ? Apply for a call with our team: https://hilarysilver.com/apply/ ? Ready for More Membership Waitlist ? https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/

You?ve got the career, the confidence, the killer heels? so why are all the men you're meeting either emotionally unavailable, totally underwhelming, or gone after two dates? Here?s the hard truth: It?s not about them. It?s about you. Not because you?re broken or ?too much?, but because there?s a disconnect between the woman you look like on the outside and the one you?re being on the inside. And good men? They can feel that.   Episode Highlights: The subconscious beliefs sabotaging your love life (yep, even if you?re ?putting yourself out there?) Why men aren?t intimidated by your success, they?re turned off by your walls The hidden ways your self-talk is killing your vibe And what it really takes to attract a healthy, high-caliber man   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why You?re Not Meeting Good Men 03:04 The Myth of the Secret Place Men Are Hiding 04:17 Reason #1: Limiting Beliefs Are Repelling Love 05:31 Reason #2: Fear of Intimacy and Vulnerability 08:01 Reason #3: Looking High-Value on the Outside, Not Inside 10:08 You Must Become the Woman Who Can Receive Love 11:44 Real-Life Stories: When Good Men Start Appearing 12:26 Stop Searching. Start Showing Up Differently   There?s no underground speakeasy of good men you haven?t been invited to. They?re all around, you just can?t see them until you become the woman who?s ready to meet them. Door #3 is waiting. But first, you?ve got to stop playing defense and start playing real. ? Apply for a breakthrough call: https://hilarysilver.com/apply

Ever feel like you're on date #200, with the same guy? In this episode, Hilary breaks down emotional unavailability for what it actually is: a lack of real intimacy. If you're attracting men who can't go deep, there's a reason. And it may have more to do with you than you think. For high-functioning women especially, this is a sneaky blind spot. You might be warm, flirty, and fun?but still totally guarded. You might talk about your emotions, but not feel them in real time. And that performative intimacy? It?s what keeps real connection out of reach.   Episode Highlights: Why emotional unavailability isn?t just a ?man? problem The two biggest reasons people avoid true intimacy The subtle difference between being expressive and actually being emotionally available How to finally break the pattern by turning inward   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why ?200 First Dates? Is a Red Flag 01:51 What Emotional Availability Actually Means 02:45 Fear of Vulnerability and Rejection 04:19 Emotional Expression Is a Learnable Skill 06:06 Why Surface-Level Connection Isn?t Enough 08:04 How to Break the Pattern for Good   If you?re done settling for surface-level connections?or being the one who always ?catches feelings? first?this is the episode for you. ? Ready to stop the cycle for good? Watch Hilary?s free masterclass for high-achieving women who want real, lasting love ? http://hilarysilver.com/masterclass ? Ready for More Membership Waitlist ? https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/

You saw the red flags. You felt the gut punch. And still, you stayed. If you?ve ever looked back on a relationship and thought, ?How did I miss that??, this episode is for you. Hilary breaks down why smart, high-achieving women override their instincts?not because they?re clueless, but because they want love so badly they talk themselves out of what they already know. The chemistry was strong. The checklist looked good. And he did have potential. So you minimized, rationalized, and convinced yourself it wasn?t that bad? until it was.   Episode Highlights: What happens when logic wins out over emotion (and why that?s not always a good thing) The quiet ways high-functioning women betray themselves in love How ?I see the good in people? becomes a self-sabotaging mantra Why your discomfort is more trustworthy than you think The link between intuition and emotional fluency How to stop brushing off the ick and start paying attention to it   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Recognizing Relationship Red Flags 02:29 Reason 1: Desire for the Ideal Relationship 04:15 Reason 2: Disconnection from Emotions 06:05 Reason 3: Seeing Only the Good in People 08:09 Understanding and Trusting Yourself 09:23 Finding the Sweet Spot in Relationships   Whether you're single and hopeful or already in a relationship, this conversation will challenge how you listen to your instincts, manage discomfort, and define what ?being a good person? actually means. Ready to stop turning the wrong man into the right one? Start by learning how to trust yourself again. Watch Hilary?s free masterclass for high-achieving women who are done ignoring red flags and ready to choose differently.  ? Get it Now! ? Free Masterclass for Single Women ? http://hilarysilver.com/masterclass ? Ready for More Membership Waitlist ? https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/  

If you?ve been told to "just be more feminine" to attract a high-quality man?this episode is your permission slip to roll your eyes and delete that advice forever. In this episode, Hilary unpacks the real meaning of feminine energy for strong, high-functioning women who are tired of being told to play small. She?s calling BS on the idea that you need to be more ?demure,? wear more pink, or act helpless so a man can feel useful. (Spoiler: You don?t.)   Episode Highlights: Why the ?let him take the lead? narrative is secretly sabotaging your love life What feminine energy actually looks like when you?re powerful, grounded, and self-sourced The childhood beliefs that locked you into over-functioning and under-receiving One 30-second shift to move from drive into flow (no crystals required) Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Feminine Energy Myths 01:37 Misconception #1:You need to Let Men Help You 02:15 Misconception #2:You Need to be Demure 03:31 The Deeper Truth About Feminine Energy 05:20 Becoming Magnetic in Love 06:36 Queens Don?t Chase   Ready to stop playing damsel and start sitting on your damn throne?  ? GET STARTED: ? Free Masterclass for Single Women ? http://www.hilarysilver.com/masterclass ? Ready for More Membership Waitlist ? https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/ ? Watch Next: The Over 40 Glow Up ? https://youtu.be/9tcA0E1uFAE

They run companies, manage households, juggle a million responsibilities?and still find themselves accepting the bare minimum in love. Why? In this Summer of Love kickoff, Hilary calls out the quiet epidemic of high-achieving women settling for less in their relationships. From doing all the emotional labor to accepting the bare minimum in return, Hilary spells out what ?crumbs? really look like, and why so many women accept them without even realizing it. The truth? Starving women eat crumbs. If you?ve spent a lifetime feeling emotionally underfed, even the smallest scrap of affection can feel like a meal. But that won?t get you the love you want, and it?s not your fault. The fix? Stop looking outward, and start filling yourself up from within. If you?re ready to quit the chase and start receiving real love, this episode is your wake-up call.   Episode Highlights: The subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs you're accepting crumbs Why blaming men misses the point entirely How emotional deprivation starts early?and shows up in dating The difference between chasing love and attracting it What it actually takes to become the woman who won?t settle   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Strong Women Settle for Crumbs in Love [00:56] Signs You're Settling for Less in Relationships [02:10] How It Feels When You Accept Less Than You Deserve [03:01] The Real Problem Isn't Him?It's You [04:07] How Early Experiences Shape Your Standards [05:32] The Solution: Heal, Fill, and Stop Settling [07:10] Learn How to Get What You Want   Stop chasing scraps and start receiving the whole damn cake. Hilary shows you how to go from starving to self-fed?and why you are the only one who can do it. ? Ready to quit settling and attract real love? Grab Hilary?s free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass

Think you're doing all the work but still stuck? This episode might explain why. Hilary breaks down the book that changed everything for her ? and no, it wasn?t a psychology textbook, a trauma certification, or another high-ticket coaching program. It was an 85-page book from 1910: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles. It?s not about money. It?s about mastering your mind, and understanding how your thoughts are either creating what you want... or reinforcing what you don?t.   Episode Highlights: Why therapy, mindset work, and affirmations didn?t create lasting change What ?thinking truth regardless of appearances? really means (and why it?s so hard) How to stop being a passive observer of your life and start becoming the architect The real reason action without belief keeps you stuck Why making the most of yourself is not selfish ? it?s your responsibility   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Science of Getting Rich: What You?ve Been Missing [01:14] Hilary?s Journey With the Book That Changed Everything [03:54] How Your Thoughts Become Your Life [05:52] Why Belief Must Come Before Proof [07:27] Embodying the Version of You Who Has It [08:41] Why Personal Growth Is Non-Negotiable [11:10] Your Mind Is Your Greatest Asset [12:14] Learn More + Work With Hilary   This is the episode to press play on if you?ve been ?doing the work? but not seeing the results. ? Resources:  ? Apply for Ready for Love: https://readyforloveinc.com/program/  ? Watch the free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/  ? You?ll also enjoy Listening To: How I Changed My Brain in 90 Days   ? Read the book: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles

Ever wonder why some women seem to have a magnetic pull for love, success, and good fortune? It?s not luck, it?s energy. In this episode, Hilary Silver breaks down the prosperity codes high-vibe women live by? and the 7 low-vibe habits you need to drop like yesterday?s leftovers if you want to get everything you say you want.   Episode Highlights: Why complaining without action drags you down The ego trap of blame and excuses What victim energy really sounds like?and how to rise from it How to stop chasing approval and own your worth The entitlement trap vs. empowered action What happens when you keep avoiding hard conversations The quiet control of unsolicited advice (and how to drop it)   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:17] Importance of High Vibe Behaviors [01:48] Prosperity Code #1: Don't Complain Without Action [03:03] Prosperity Code #2: Avoid Blame, Excuses, and Defensiveness [04:07] Prosperity Code #3: Don't Live in Victim Energy [06:02] Prosperity Code #4: Don't Seek External Validation [07:06] Prosperity Code #5: Avoid Entitlement [09:14] Prosperity Code #6: Don't Avoid Conflict [11:13] Prosperity Code #7: Don't Offer Unsolicited Advice [13:40] Embrace High Vibe Behaviors Without Judgment [14:01] Conclusion If you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors, good. Awareness is the first step. Now let?s shift into the energy of your next-level self. ? Want a free energetic reset? Grab Hilary?s mini video training, This Changes Everything, and start rewiring your vibe to match the life you actually want: https://hilarysilver.com/subscribe/ 3 High Vibe Habits That Upgraded My Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU-_3lZEqcg

You don?t need a new serum, a new diet, or a new man to glow up this summer?you just need you. In this episode, Hilary  is handing out the keys to radiance, and spoiler alert: they?re all about your energy, not your eye cream. Because glowing up has almost nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you feel. From slowing down your pace to indulging in what actually lights you up, Hilary walks you through the internal shifts that make you magnetic. We?re talking presence over appearance. Being rather than doing. Feminine flow instead of frazzled hustle.   Episode Highlights: Trade burnout for slow, sensual mornings Choose desire over duty (yes, you can buy the sundress just because you want to) Fill your calendar with you before it fills up with everyone else Eat and drink like a woman who loves herself   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Rediscover Your Spark [01:24] How to Have a Summer Glow Up [01:35] Slow Down and Embrace Feminine Energy [03:10] Let Yourself Receive and Indulge in Desire [05:07] Prioritize Yourself and Fill Your Days with Intention [07:07] Eat and Drink Like You Love Yourself [08:49] Create a Powerful Morning Mindset Ritual [11:06] Glow From Within: Presence Over Appearance Because turning heads isn?t about getting attention?it?s about owning your presence so fully that people feel you walk in the room. ? Want to lock in the mindset that makes all this magic possible? Grab Hilary?s Daily Journal?it?s the exact method that?s helped thousands of women (herself included) rewire their brains and live from that grounded, glowing place every day: hilarysilver.com/journal

We talk a lot about the regrets people have when they're dying, but what about the regrets we carry every single day? In this episode, Hilary Silver, former therapist and master coach of 25 years, shares the four most common regrets she hears in her work with high-functioning women. These are micro-regrets that quietly erode your confidence, peace, and sense of self. From staying silent when you should?ve spoken up, to ignoring your intuition, to being too critical of your appearance, Hilary unpacks the everyday ways we abandon ourselves, and how to stop.   Episode Highlights: What self-abandonment really looks like (and how it shows up) Why burnout keeps you from showing up as your best self How to stop dismissing your inner voice The sneaky regret most women have about their bodies?and how to stop repeating the cycle   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why We Regret What We Do (and Don?t Do)   [01:47] Regret #1: Self-Abandonment in Relationships & Life   [04:36] Regret #2: Not Being Your Best Self   [06:33] Regret #3: Ignoring Your Intuition   [07:46] Regret #4: Being Too Hard on Yourself   [09:33] How to Learn from Regret Without Shame     Regret can either weigh you down or wake you up. This episode is your reminder to choose differently, starting now. ? Want more? Sign up for Hilary?s free weekly newsletter, Self-Centered, where she shares mindset shifts and lifestyle favorites: https://hilarysilver.com/newsletter/

Still following the fitness rules from your 30?s and wondering why they aren?t working anymore? Hilary is here to tell you: It?s time to break up with the punishing workouts, the rigid food rules, and the guilt-tripping voice in your head. At 52, Hilary is in the best shape of her life. She?s leaner, stronger, and more energized than ever, and she?s doing it without tracking macros, counting calories, or wrecking her body with HIIT workouts. In this refreshingly real episode, Hilary breaks down the five shifts that helped her finally get the results she wanted, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally too. From unlearning outdated fitness ?rules? to adopting a mindset rooted in self-devotion (not self-discipline), she shares how tuning out the noise and tuning into her own body changed everything. You?ll hear about her exact lifestyle habits, how she makes working out something she actually enjoys, and why flexibility matters just as much as strength. No shame, no extremes, no performative BS, just smart, doable shifts that honor where you are now.   Episode Highlights: The real reason your old routines aren?t working anymore Why pushing harder might be hurting more than helping The mindset shift that changed Hilary?s entire approach to fitness Her go-to workouts, food philosophy, and everyday habits How to prioritize yourself unapologetically?at the gym and everywhere else Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Fitness Wake-Up Call [01:44] Listening to Your Body [03:10] From Punishment to Self-Devotion [06:10] Defining Strength + Health on Your Terms [07:12] Habits That Actually Support You [10:11] Prioritizing Yourself [11:14] Making Fitness Enjoyable [15:26] Self-Devotion > Self-Discipline   Ready to break the rules and feel amazing in your body again? Let this episode be your permission slip. Want to go deeper? Check out Hilary?s Self Devotion program to turn this mindset into your everyday way of being. [https://hilarysilver.com/self-devoted/]

Hot flashes aren?t the problem?gaslighting is. Hilary takes aim at the menopause conversation and asks the question no one else is asking: What if this isn?t your downfall, but your awakening? In this episode, she breaks down the cultural scripts, conditioning, and quiet misogyny wrapped in every ?crazy menopausal woman? meme, and replaces it with truth, clarity, and power. This is not a hormonal crisis. This is your moment.   Episode Highlights: Why blaming hormones keeps women stuck The myth of the ?crazy menopausal woman? What really causes women to question their marriage at midlife Why losing your cool isn?t the issue?losing yourself is The gift of finally putting yourself first (and meaning it)   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Challenging the Menopause Narrative [01:05] The Gaslighting of Women's Health [02:10] Menopause and Divorce: What?s Really Going On [05:05] Midlife Awakening vs. Hormonal Blame [07:04] Cultural Conditioning and Losing Ourselves [08:06] Why the ?Crazy Menopausal Woman? Trope is So Dangerous [11:11] Menopause Isn?t a Crisis?It?s a Revolution [12:32] Reclaiming Your Power in Midlife   ? Midlife isn?t the end. It?s the turning point. Ready to stop tolerating and start owning it? Hit play. ? Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 ? Grab Hilary?s FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!): https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ ? Follow Hilary on Instagram: @hilarysilver ? What?s been your biggest midlife realization? Drop it in the comments!

If you're tired of second-guessing yourself, overthinking everything, and dragging around a perfectionist inner critic, this episode is the wake-up call you didn?t know you needed. Hilary Silver breaks down exactly how to rewire your brain?yes, literally?so you can stop the mental spiral and start thinking thoughts that actually serve you. The truth? That nagging voice in your head? You learned it. And now it?s time to unlearn it.   Episode Highlights: Why 95% of your thinking is subconscious (and why it matters) How your inner critic formed, and how to shut it down The 3-step neuroscience-based process to create better thoughts Why flimsy affirmations don?t work, but powerful declarations do The role of repetition in changing your brain (hint: neuroplasticity is your superpower)   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] How To Rewire Your Brain To Think Thoughts That Serve You [01:08] How the Subconscious Shapes Your Beliefs [03:15] How to Stop Your Self-Sabotage [04:18] Interrupting Negative Thought Patterns [05:23] Replace Affirmations with Declarations [06:27] Train Your Brain with Neuroplasticity [07:53] Your Daily Journal Practice [08:15] 3 Steps to Rewire Your Brain Whether you?re battling self-doubt, perfectionism, or just sick of feeling like your own worst enemy, this is your permission slip to think better, feel better, and be better. No fluff. Just straight-up science-backed self-worth. ? Want the daily tool Hilary used to rewire her own brain? The Daily Journal is the how-to for everything she shares here: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/

The world feels like a mess?politics, the economy, your dog's surprise barf during Zoom meetings. And while you can?t control any of it, you can control you. In this powerful episode, Hilary breaks down the five mindset shifts that keep you grounded, centered, and sane, no matter how wild life gets. This isn?t about toxic positivity or pretending everything?s fine. It?s about taking radical responsibility for your thoughts, choices, and energy so you can stop spinning out and start leading your life with confidence and clarity.   Episode Highlights: Why you're both the problem and the solution (yes, really) How to stop being the last person you consider in your own damn life The truth about identity (spoiler: it?s not what your high school yearbook said) Why self-leadership isn?t selfish, it?s the whole point How to create unshakable inner peace, no matter what the headlines scream   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why the World Feels Unstable Right Now   [01:14] Meet Hilary Silver    [03:21] Truth #1: You?re the Problem *and* the Solution   [06:00] Truth #2: Yes, the World *Does* Revolve Around You   [07:14] Truth #3: Prioritize Yourself, Always   [09:00] Truth #4: Identity Is a Daily Choice   [11:19] Truth #5: The Outcome You Seek Is Internal   [14:08] The Paradox of Letting Go [15:01] Be the Constant in an Uncertain World   If you?ve ever said, ?I just need things to settle down so I can breathe,? this episode is your wake-up call. You?re the calm. You?re the guarantee. You?re the damn center of your own universe. ? Ready to become unshakable? Watch Hilary?s free training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/subscribe/ ? To take advantage of Hilary's exclusive 40% savings on sheets, towels, pajamas, and more, visit www.cozyearth.com and use the Promo Code:  HILARY ???? Share this episode with the woman in your life who needs a little more peace and a lot more power.

Ever wonder how some women just always get what they want? It?s not luck, it?s not hustle, and it?s definitely not because they?re better than you. It?s because they?re moving through the world differently. Hilary breaks down the 8 micro habits of women who seem to have it all: love, money, success, and opportunities. In this episode, she gives you the cheat codes you can adopt for yourself!  From keeping your word (especially to yourself) to protecting your energy like it?s your job, this is your no-BS guide to becoming magnetic to what you want. We?re talking about unapologetic boundaries, unshakable self-trust, high-vibe thinking, and what it actually means to take radical responsibility for your life. And the final habit? It?s the secret sauce. The one most people miss?but once you get it, everything changes.   Episode Highlights: Saying no without an apology Keeping promises (especially the ones you make to yourself) Radical responsibility (no more waiting to be saved) Embodying abundance like it?s a lifestyle, not a mantra And the real magic: acting like you already have it all   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Some Women Always Get What They Want 01:59 Habit 1: Protect Your Energy 05:34 Habit 2: Speak with Clear Boundaries 07:09 Habit 3: Own Your Worth 10:20 Habit 4: Focus on What You Do Want 13:19 Habit 5: Keep Promises to Yourself 15:38 Habit 6: Radical Self-Responsibility 19:08 Habit 7: Embody Abundance 24:34 Habit 8: Be Her Now 29:09 Practicing Receiving What You Want 30:02 How to Start Getting What You Want Today Ready to stop spinning in self-doubt and start showing up like the woman who already has what she wants? Then hit play. ? Want to do the identity work Hilary mentions? Check out her Daily Journal: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/ To take advantage of Hilary's exclusive 40% savings on sheets, towels, pajamas, and more, visit www.cozyearth.com and use the Promo Code:  HILARY

This one?s for every woman who didn?t get the guidance she needed growing up?and every mother who?s trying to do better. In this bold and deeply personal episode, Hilary Silver pulls back the curtain on the five lessons she?s deliberately teaching her kids, especially her daughter. These aren?t fluffy Pinterest quotes?these are the things that took Hilary decades to learn the hard way. Now she?s handing them down with intention, clarity, and zero apology. She?s teaching her daughter to know who she is. To trust herself without second-guessing. To stop asking for permission and start asking for what she needs. To see herself clearly, speak up boldly, and never?ever?abandon herself to make others comfortable.   Episode Highlights: The truth about self-trust (and why it matters more than approval) What it looks like to be your own best advocate How to stop outsourcing your happiness Why being self-centered is the most responsible thing you can do How to model the kind of woman you hope your daughter becomes   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [00:33] Meet Hilary Silver [01:05] Parenting Imperfections [01:26] Teaching Self-Identity [04:05] Trusting Inner Wisdom [05:30] Developing Self-Trust [07:04] Self-Advocacy [08:40] Personal Responsibility for Happiness [10:03] Be the Woman You Want Her to Become Raising kids or not, these lessons are for every woman who?s done bending, shrinking, and shape-shifting just to keep the peace. You don?t need to ask for permission. You just need to show up for yourself. ? Let?s be the kind of women we needed when we were younger. Starting now.

For too long, women have been told that power belongs to men. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary Silver flips that script and names the truth out loud: women already hold the power?society just taught them to forget. Centered around a bold, taboo-breaking metaphor, Hilary dives deep into how patriarchy was built to control what it couldn't fully possess: female power, autonomy, and sexuality. Drawing from over 6,000 interviews with women over 40, she exposes how even the most outwardly successful women are still battling invisible chains of unworthiness and self-sacrifice.   Episode Highlights: What men really want more than money or power How patriarchy is built on controlling what it can?t possess Why high-achieving women often secretly struggle with self-worth The emotional labor and silence women have been conditioned to accept The first steps to reclaim your worth?without asking for permission Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:57] The Power Women Forget They Have [04:15]  How Girls Are Taught to Shrink [06:12] When Success Masks Low Self-Worth [09:24] Women?s Sacred, Untapped Power [10:06] Stop Seeking Approval and Start Owning It [10:27] How to Reclaim Your Power, Starting Now [12:03] Join the Self-Centered Movement This isn?t about blame?it?s about reclaiming. Hilary calls on women to stop asking, stop apologizing, and stop shrinking. Instead, she challenges listeners to rise, lead, and live unapologetically, with power and presence. Because pussy power? It?s real. And it?s time women stopped pretending it isn?t. ? Want in on the movement? Tap the link in the show notes to get Hilary?s free video training and step into your self-centered era?for real this time.

If you?ve ever been told you?re too loud, too confident, too opinionated, or too ambitious?this episode is for you. Hilary?s not here to help you soften your edges. She?s here to remind you why you grew them in the first place. In this unapologetic episode, she calls out the centuries-old conditioning that taught women to shrink, stay agreeable, and prioritize everyone else?s comfort over their own truth. Spoiler: you?re not ?too much.? You?re just too powerful for the people who benefit from you being less. Hilary shares the signs that you?ve internalized the myth of ?too much? and breaks down the shift that happens when you stop minimizing yourself and start standing fully in your power. This episode isn?t about being polite. It?s about being self-centered?and no, that?s not selfish. It?s revolutionary.   Episode Highlights: How "too much" is just rebranded control Why being self-centered is your power move?not a personality flaw What happens when you stop dimming your light for someone else's comfort 3 shifts you can make today to stop apologizing and start expanding   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Myth of Being ?Too Much? [00:54] Why Women Shrink Themselves to Fit [02:06] The Real Cost of Playing Small [03:42] You?re Not Too Much?They?re Just Uncomfortable [04:24] What It Really Means to Be Self-Centered [05:28] How to Break Free from People-Pleasing [06:31] Stop Apologizing. Start Leading. [07:35] Who Would You Be If You Weren?t Shrinking?   ? Ready to stop chasing approval and start living for you? Watch Hilary?s free training This Changes Everything?linked in the show notes.

You?ve spent your whole life making sure everyone else is okay?but what about you? This episode is for the women who are exhausted, overextended, and quietly wondering when it?ll finally be their turn. Hilary is breaking down the deep conditioning that taught us to believe being selfless equals being worthy, and why that?s total BS. If you?ve ever felt guilty for wanting more, for needing space, or simply saying no? this one?s going to hit. Because the truth is, no one is going to magically give you permission to rest, breathe, or be a priority. You have to choose it. And when you do? Everything changes.   Episode Highlights: Why self-sacrifice won?t earn you the love or respect you deserve The hard truth about how you?re teaching people to treat you The 3 steps to stop people-pleasing and start living for you How to be self-centered (in the best possible way) And why this shift is your ticket to freedom   Episode Breakdown: [00:00]  How You Were Conditioned to Be Selfless [01:32] Why You Feel Undervalued and Exhausted [02:03] The Guilt of Prioritizing Yourself [03:06] The Truth About Self-Sacrifice [04:00]  Setting Boundaries: Teaching Others How to Treat You [05:04] What It Means to Be Self-Centered [05:57] 3 Steps to Start Prioritizing Yourself [07:01] What to Expect When You Start Saying No [07:22] Why You Need to Choose Yourself Now [07:54] Start Living for You Nobody?s coming to save you. It?s your turn?right now. Tune in, then grab Hilary?s free video training This Changes Everything to start making yourself a daily priority without apology. You?ll never look back.

She?s successful, impressive, accomplished? and secretly miserable. If that hits a little too close to home, this episode is for you. Hilary is calling out the high-achieving hamster wheel that so many women are stuck on?working their asses off, racking up accolades, and still feeling like something?s missing. Sound familiar? That?s because you?ve been chasing a version of success that was never meant to satisfy you, just the people clapping from the sidelines. In this episode, Hilary breaks down the real reason success isn?t scratching the itch?and why being self-centered (yes, self-centered) is the antidote. Not the selfish kind. The sane, grounded, peaceful, fulfilled kind.   Episode Highlights: The lie high-achieving women are sold (and why it keeps you stuck) How to recognize when you?re chasing validation instead of real joy The myth of ?I'll be happy when...? and how to break it 3 real steps to start living life on your terms?today   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why High-Achieving Women Still Feel Empty [02:06] How to Break the Burnout Cycle  [03:54] Two Choices: Keep Performing or Prioritize Yourself [04:15] What Self-Centered Really Means [05:30] Step 1: Audit Your Life [06:24] Step 2: Redefine Success for You [06:55] Step 3: Start Making Self-Centered Decisions [07:37] Why People Might Not Like the New You (and That?s Fine) [08:09] Choose to be happy, NOW. If you're tired of being exhausted, overextended, and secretly questioning if this is all there is?Hilary?s here to say: hell no, it?s not. It?s time to stop chasing and start choosing you. Because you?re not too much. You?ve just been aiming at the wrong finish line. Hit play. It?s time for a self-centered glow-up.

Let?s get one thing straight: aging isn?t something to fear?it?s when the real magic begins. In this unapologetically honest episode, Hilary drops the five signs that you?re officially stepping into your Wise Woman Era?where your confidence is unshakable, your boundaries are bulletproof, and your ?no? comes with zero explanation. After 25 years working inside the minds of ambitious, accomplished, but still unfulfilled women, Hilary?s here to tell you: the glow-up you?re craving doesn?t come from the outside. It comes when you stop shrinking, apologizing, and people-pleasing?and start trusting, honoring, and liking yourself. Wild concept, right?   Episode Highlights: Why confidence that depends on applause is fake confidence The quiet power of making your time, peace, and energy non-negotiable How to stop apologizing for existing (seriously, stop it) What happens when you finally stop waging war with your reflection The surprising key to becoming unshakably magnetic   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Wise Woman Era [00:44] Sign 1: Shifting Confidence from External to Internal [02:10] Sign 2: No Longer Negotiating Your Time, Peace, or Power [05:09] Sign 3: Stopping Apologies for Taking Up Space [06:02] Sign 4: Embracing Your Appearance and Energy [08:00] Sign 5: Developing a Loving Relationship with Yourself [09:46] The Power of Being Self-Centered [10:28] What Will You Do Differently? This isn?t about becoming someone new?it?s about returning to who you were before the world told you to be polite, quiet, small, and nice. So let?s burn the rulebook, reclaim your place at the center of your life, and make ?wise? the new sexy. ? Ready to stop performing and start leading? Hit play. Your era has arrived.

Are you the fixer? The one who always steps up, saves the day, and keeps everything running smoothly? Yeah, that might sound noble, but here?s the truth?you?re not helping. You?re enabling. Hilary is here to break down why over-functioning is actually a trap?for you and everyone around you. You think you?re keeping things together, but what you?re really doing is creating dependence, burning yourself out, and blocking others from stepping up. And let?s be real?you kind of love being the one everyone relies on, don?t you? ?   Episode Highlights: Why ?helping? is keeping everyone stuck (including you) How over-functioning leads to exhaustion, resentment, and crappy relationships The sneaky reason you can?t stop fixing everything How to back off without guilt and let people handle their own mess The magic of actually receiving for once (yes, you deserve it)   Episode Breakdown: ??00:00 Are You Over-Functioning? 02:00 Five Reasons Over-Functioning is Bad 02:32 Reason 1: Training People to Rely on You 03:24 Reason 2: Robbing Others of Their Wins and Lessons 05:08 Reason 3: Getting Something Out of It 08:08 Reason 4: Hogging the Joy of Giving 09:53 Reason 5: Blocking the Flow of Reciprocity 12:22 The Hard Truth & Simple Fix It?s time to drop the superhero cape and let people solve their own damn problems. Because the less you do, the more you actually get. ? Listen now & start unburdening yourself! ? Subscribe to Hilary?s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 ? Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ ? Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver ? Which one is harder for you?saying ?no? or asking for help? Spill in the comments!

Starting over? Again?! If the thought of making a major life change sends you spiraling, it?s time for a reality check?starting fresh isn?t scary, staying stuck is. Hilary shares the six biggest lessons she?s learned from reinventing herself?multiple times. She?s built and walked away from thriving businesses, started fresh, failed fast, and bet on herself?again and again. And now? She?s giving you the real talk on what it actually takes to start over (and make sure it pays off).   Episode Highlights: Get clear on what you actually want (spoiler: most people aren?t). Why being half in, half out is a guaranteed way to stay stuck Failure isn?t a thing. Not trying? That?s the real failure. Why betting on yourself is the safest investment you?ll ever make   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Starting Over Feels So Hard [03:52] The #1 Mistake People Make When Reinventing Themselves [05:06] How to Fully Commit to Your Next Move [07:04] The Power of Mindset [09:55] Burnout, Fear & the Power of Letting Go [12:13] Redefining Failure: What You?ve Been Getting Wrong [14:08] Betting on Yourself is the Secret to Lasting Success [16:14] Starting Over (Again) & Why It?s Worth It [19:25] You Have Nothing to Lose ? Ready to bet on yourself? Hit play.   ? Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 ? Grab Hilary?s FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!): https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ ? Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver   ? What?s your biggest reinvention lesson? Drop it in the comments!

Being your best self sounds great, but what does that actually mean? In this episode, Hilary calls out the vague, feel-good self-help fluff and lays out five daily habits that actually move the needle. If you?ve been winging personal growth and hoping for the best, it?s time to get intentional. Hilary breaks down how to define your ideal self, bridge the gap between who you are now and who you want to be, and make small shifts that add up to massive transformation. Plus, she?s sharing the one magic question that will help you make better decisions, stay aligned, and step into your power every day.   Episode Highlights: Why your ideal self isn?t a finish line?it?s a way of being The power of sacred morning time (no chaos, no distractions?just you) How movement, music, and self-check-ins shape your energy and mindset The one magic question that will keep you aligned and making better choices   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Being Your Best Self [05:04] Habit 1 [06:00] Habit 2 [08:08] Habit 3 [10:08] Habit 4 [11:55] Habit 5 [13:20] The Magic Question   ? Ready to embody your best self? Let?s make it happen. ? Listen now & start the shift! ? Get my curated playlist: hilarysilver.com/playlist ? Follow me on Instagram: @hilarysilver ? Watch my Five Core Concepts of the Self-Centered Movement playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0RHQvSfQrdhYziTx1PqymciC0EQLC9cl ? Comment below: What?s one habit that helps you show up as your best self?

Everything you?ve been told about managing anxiety? It?s probably making it worse. In this episode, Hilary is tearing up the mainstream advice playbook?because counting backwards, meditating through a full-blown panic spiral, or just ?getting more sleep? isn?t going to cut it. Anxiety isn?t the real problem?it?s a symptom. A flashing red warning light. And until you fix what?s actually going on underneath, you?ll be stuck dealing with it forever. The good news? You are both the problem and the solution. Which means you don?t have to keep living with this.   Episode Highlights: Why symptom-focused anxiety hacks don?t work (and what does) The real root cause of anxiety that no one talks about How self-betrayal, avoidance, and ignoring your gut are fueling your anxiety The mindset shift that will actually eliminate anxiety for good A simple but powerful way to turn anxiety into self-trust and inner peace   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Everything You?ve Heard About Anxiety Is Wrong [04:48] The Real Cause of Anxiety (Hint: It?s Not What You Think) [09:02] Game-Changing Questions to Calm Anxiety Instantly [09:55] How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust & End Anxiety for Good   This isn?t about managing anxiety?it?s about eliminating it at the source. No fluff, no gimmicks, just the truth that no one else is telling you.   ? Listen now & step into your power! ? Subscribe & watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 ? Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ ? Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver ? Want more? You?ll love the Five Core Concepts of the Self-Centered Movement playlist ? https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0RHQvSfQrdhYziTx1PqymciC0EQLC9cl&feature=shared   ? Drop a comment: What?s the worst piece of anxiety advice you?ve ever heard? Let?s laugh (and unlearn) together! ??

You want love, success, confidence, the dream body?because obviously. But what if I told you that the way you?re going after it is exactly why it keeps slipping through your fingers? Yeah, it?s not the goal that?s the problem. It?s how you?re wired to chase it.   In this episode, Hilary drops the truth bomb you didn?t know you needed: The constant grind for external validation?whether it?s from a relationship, your bank account, or the number on the scale?only reinforces the idea that you?re not enough without it. And that? That?s keeping you stuck.   Episode Highlights: Why your biggest desires might be rooted in old insecurities (Hint: Your childhood is probably involved.) The exhausting cycle of proving your worth (and how to break it) Why desperate energy pushes away exactly what you want How shifting your mindset flips the script on love, success, and happiness The magic of deciding you're already worthy?before you have the ?proof?   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:16] The Belief-Proof Paradox [03:03] The Powerlessness of External Validation [06:04] The Addiction to External Proof [07:07] High Achievers and the Need for Approval [09:03] The Inherent Nature of Self-Worth [10:06] Choosing to Believe in Yourself [11:19] Worthiness Precedes Achievement [12:00] The Importance of Self-Relationship [12:32] Conclusion   This isn?t about sitting back and manifesting your dream life with good vibes alone. It?s about rewiring your beliefs so that you stop blocking yourself from everything you?re meant to have.   ? Listen now & step into your power! ? Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 ? Grab Hilary?s FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!): https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ ? Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver   ? What?s one belief about success or self-worth that you?re ready to let go of? Drop it in the comments! ??

They told us aging meant fading into the background?HA, not a chance. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary is flipping the script on what it really means to be a powerful woman over 50. After her viral episode ?How I Turn Heads Over 50?, the internet had a lot to say?some women embraced the message, others questioned the need for attention, and plenty misunderstood the real point. But she?s here to set the record straight: this isn?t about validation, and it?s definitely NOT about seeking male attention.   Episode Highlights: The straight-up LIES you were fed about aging, beauty, and self-worth Why your value has NOTHING to do with male attention (seriously, let?s retire that nonsense) The myth of the ?invisible woman? and why YOU get to decide if you fade into the background How to walk into any room like the queen you are?without seeking validation from anyone The three mindset shifts every badass woman over 50 needs to make yesterday   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [03:19] External Validation and Self-Worth [04:01] Aging and Societal Perception [05:57] Claiming Personal Power [07:01] Becoming Rejection-Proof [09:09] Turning Heads with Energy Referenced Episode: ?Forget Invisible Woman Syndrome - How I Turn Heads Over 50? : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000676193898   Hilary is dropping truth bombs, dismantling outdated beliefs, and handing you the permission slip to become the most magnetic, self-assured version of yourself?on your terms.   Ready to ditch the old narratives and claim your space? Listen in, take notes, and start showing up like the powerhouse you were born to be.   ? Listen now & step into your power! ? Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 ? Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!) at : https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ ? Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver ? What?s one outdated belief about aging you?re DONE with?

People are shocked when they find out Hilary is 52. They see the abs, the energy, and the glow, and immediately want to know the secret. Well, in this episode, she?s spilling it all?the workouts, the mindset, the aesthetics, and yes, the cosmetic procedures she?s done (and proud of). Because here?s the deal: taking care of yourself isn?t vain, it?s self-respect.   This is not about fighting aging?Hilary loves getting older. But embracing aging doesn?t mean just rolling over and accepting every wrinkle and change if it doesn?t feel good to you. It?s about choice. Confidence. Owning what makes you feel powerful. And not giving a damn about what anyone else thinks.   Episode Highlights:  Why loving yourself and getting cosmetic work aren?t opposites The truth about Botox, fillers, and why she stays very picky The brutal reality of post-baby body changes?and the surgeries that changed everything Why cruelty-free skincare is a must (no excuses) The real key to looking and feeling amazing at any age?spoiler: it?s not just lasers and serums   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [02:09] Loving Aging and Self-Confidence [03:02] Pro Being Your Best, Not Anti-Aging [05:09] Making Choices for Yourself [06:02] Self-Love and Cosmetic Procedures [07:39] Personal Transformation Journey [08:00] Pregnancy and Body Changes [12:02] Physical and Emotional Impact [14:08] Non-Surgical Maintenance [14:28] Botox and Fillers [15:10] Invisalign and Dental Care [16:14] Skincare and Animal Cruelty-Free Products [17:17] Lasers and Microneedling [17:39] The Real Secret to Looking and Feeling Your Best [18:00] Conclusion   So whether you?re Botox-curious, all-natural, or somewhere in between?this episode is a reminder that it?s your face, your body, your rules. Do what makes you feel amazing and own it unapologetically.   ? Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/w81LQ0cqSqQ ? Comment: What?s one beauty or self-care choice you?ve made just for you? ? ? Grab my free training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

Hilary is diving into your questions, and as always, she?s keeping it real. In this Q&A episode, she tackles some of the biggest struggles high-achieving women face?from owning your confidence to battling that nagging loneliness even when your life looks great on paper. If you?ve ever felt unseen, stuck, or just plain over it, this episode is your wake-up call.   Episode Highlights: Confidence isn?t about approval, it?s about presence. When you feel valuable, you become magnetic?no validation required. Overwhelmed by personal growth? Forget the mile-long to-do list. Master your thoughts first, and everything else will follow. Loneliness isn?t always about being alone. It?s about whether you?re truly seen in your relationships. Here?s how to deepen the connections you already have.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction and Listener Questions [00:47] Turning Heads Over 50 [01:41] Addressing Male Attention Assumptions [05:56] The Importance of Being Self-Centered [07:09] Managing Your Mind and Thought Patterns [08:24] Feeling Lonely Despite Having It All [10:00] Situational vs. Existential Loneliness [12:21] Authenticity and Deepening Connections   Ready for real transformation? Start reprogramming your thoughts with Hilary?s Daily Journal: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/ ?a simple but powerful tool designed to shift your mindset and attract the life you actually want.   ? Got a question? Send it in for a future episode! And don?t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

So, you?ve hit a new phase in life?kids don?t need you as much, work feels like a never-ending rerun, and suddenly, you?re left with space. But instead of feeling free, you?re stuck wondering, "What the hell do I actually want?" Don?t worry, Hilary is here to drag you out of the ?what now?? spiral and help you find your spark again.   In this episode, Hilary tackles that ?I don?t even know what I want? dilemma with practical tools and a hefty dose of real talk. If you?ve been so busy playing all the roles?mom, career badass, caretaker?that you?ve forgotten who you are outside of them, this one?s for you.   Episode Highlights: Jealousy isn?t a vibe killer; it?s a clue. Start paying attention to what makes you envious?it?s pointing you toward your desires. You don?t have to overhaul your life in one go. Experiment, try stuff, and ditch what doesn?t fit (looking at you, Airstream). Forget practicality for a second?what would you do if you had no limits?   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Finding What You Truly Want [03:11] Exercise 1: Become a Master Observer of Yourself [05:17] Exercise 2: Use Jealousy and Envy as Clues [06:00] Exercise 3: The Magic Wand Question [07:14] Exercise 4: Experiment Without Commitment [08:27] Exercise 5: The Life Zone Exercise [09:31] Exercise 6: Focus on Your Feelings [10:55] Honoring Your Feelings in Daily Life [12:10] Self-Satisfied Program and Conclusion   Ready to put yourself back at the top of your priority list? Check out Hilary?s Self-Satisfied Program: https://hilarysilver.com/shop/ for guided exercises (like the life zone!) and actionable steps to reclaim your time and energy.   ? Subscribe, rate, and share this episode with someone who?s also stuck asking, "What do I want?"

Think manifesting is just for the hippie crowd? Think again. In this episode, Hillary  breaks down the science behind manifesting and shows you why it?s not magic?it?s mindset. From neuroscience to universal laws, Hillary reveals how to stop blocking your blessings and start becoming an unstoppable magnet for everything you want. No crystals or vision boards required (unless you?re into that).   Episode Highlights: Why manifesting works (and why you?ve been doing it wrong). The two universal laws that govern manifesting?and how to hack them. How your thoughts, beliefs, and energy shape your reality. The sneaky ways you?re subconsciously sabotaging your desires. Five simple, practical steps to become a manifesting powerhouse.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:35] Universal Laws of Manifestation [02:07] The Law of Vibration [06:00] The Law of Attraction [08:28] Conscious and Subconscious Thoughts [10:26] Neuroscience and Universal Laws [15:01] Visualization Techniques [15:56] The Daily Journal Tool   Ready to Manifest Like a Boss? If you?re tired of wishing and ready to start receiving, grab The Daily Journal, Hillary?s signature tool that combines neuroscience and manifesting practices to rewire your brain for success.   Hit play, vibe high, and start creating the life you actually want. Let?s do this. ?   ? Subscribe to Hillary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 ? Get The Daily Journal at https://hilarysilver.com/journal/ ? Follow Hillary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver

Resentment is toxic AF. It?s the sneaky little emotion that quietly poisons your mood, relationships, and maybe even your skin. In this episode, Hillary peels back the layers of resentment, exposing it as the blend of hurt, anger, and judgment that keeps you stuck in victim mode. Feeling overlooked or undervalued? It?s time to face the real truth: resentment is a YOU problem. It?s time to stop blaming others, own your role, and set yourself free from the soul-sucking cycle of stewing and simmering.   Episode Highlights: The toxic cocktail of emotions that make up resentment?and why it?s a joy killer. The uncomfortable but liberating truth: you?re responsible for your resentment. How passive-aggressive behavior is resentment?s messy, toxic cousin. Hillary?s no-BS three-step process to let it go, for good. Why being unapologetically self-centered is your ultimate superpower against future resentment.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Resentment [00:30] Meet Hillary! [01:05] Understanding Resentment [02:09] The Insidious Nature of Resentment [04:05] Why We Hold On to Resentment [05:55] The Harsh Truth About Resentment [07:07] Taking Responsibility for Resentment [09:03] The Power of Authenticity [10:48] Three-Step Process to Release Resentment [13:15] Moving Forward and Letting Go [14:07] Conclusion   ? Ready to become Self-Devoted, Self-Satisfied, and Self-Made? Check out Hillary?s new programs: hilarysilver.com/shop.

Tired of your own BS thought loops? Let?s fix that. In this episode, Hilary reveals the game-changing power of thought habits?the deeply ingrained patterns of thinking that shape your actions, your mindset, and ultimately your success.  Drawing from her personal journey of reprogramming her mind, Hilary spills the tea on how she rewired her own mindset to become a more positive, unstoppable, self-led powerhouse?and how you can too. Trust us, adopting even ONE of these high-vibe thought habits will level up your life faster than your morning coffee.   Episode Highlights: Discover why thought habits are the secret sauce to shaping your life. Learn how the "rule of the golden nugget" transforms disappointments into growth moments. Celebrating small wins daily is a game-changer for staying motivated. Unlock the magic of believing "everything always works out in my favor" and how it can quiet your anxiety.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00]  Introduction to Thought Habits [01:55]  Personal Transformation Journey [03:09]  Self-Leadership and Empowerment [03:31]  Forming New Habits [05:07]  The Rule of the Golden Nugget [09:13]  Celebrate Every Day [12:01]  Everything Always Works Out in My Favor   Hillary?s not just teaching theory here?she?s sharing the exact thought habits that turned her life around, from rewiring her brain to becoming a fearless leader in every area of her life. Ready to try them for yourself? Pick one habit and make it yours.   ? Ready to become Self-Devoted, Self-Satisfied, and Self-Made? Check out Hillary?s new programs: hilarysilver.com/shop.