In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Mike get into the often misunderstood concept of family accommodation. What happens when parents unintentionally reinforce their child's inflexibility and anxiety? Can accommodating behaviors actually make things worse for both the child and the family dynamic? As they explore practical strategies to reduce these accommodations, they pose critical questions: How can parents reclaim their authority without sacrificing connection? What role do supporters play in this transformative process?

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:28] Family accommodation and its effects.

[00:03:43] Family accommodation and ADHD behaviors.

[00:09:10] Family accommodation and emotional dysregulation.

[00:12:04] Authoritative parenting benefits.

[00:15:05] Enlisting supporters for children.

[00:19:49] Parenting strategies for ADHD children.

[00:21:12] Parenting shifts and control loss.

[00:24:12] Reducing family accommodation anxiety.

[00:27:45] Mailbag episode - questions welcome.

In this episode of the ADHD Parenting Podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with guest Emily Cherkin, the Screentime Consultant. They delve into the paradox of technology in education?does it truly enhance learning, or is it hindering essential skills? As schools increasingly rely on devices like Chromebooks, how can parents navigate the challenges of screen time and its impact on their children's social skills? What strategies can families employ to opt out of excessive tech use in schools? Tune in to discover the answers and empower your parenting journey!

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:00:11] Friction and learning in technology.

[00:06:16] Tech intentional vs. EdTech failure.

[00:08:39] Chromebook homework battles.

[00:11:45] Technology's impact on social skills.

[00:15:11] Skills before screens.

[00:19:40] Technology's role in education.

[00:21:43] Opting out of digital learning.

[00:24:30] Opting out of school screens.

[00:28:20] Navigating 504 plans and IEPs.

[00:30:45] Digital distractions in classrooms.

[00:35:40] Power in numbers for parents.

[00:38:10] Low demand parenting misconceptions.

[00:41:58] Unplug EdTech Toolkit.

In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael engage in a thought-provoking discussion with Dr. Camilo Ortiz, the creator of Independence Therapy. They explore the alarming rise of anxiety in children and the surprising role of parental overprotection. What are the hidden dangers of micromanaging kids? Can fostering independence actually reduce anxiety? As they delve into the innovative approach of Independence Therapy, listeners will discover how discomfort, risk, and the "4 D's" can empower children.

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:03:57] Kids' independence and anxiety.

[00:06:09] Overprotection and child anxiety.

[00:09:25] Risks of child independence.

[00:12:39] Permissive parenting and anxiety.

[00:16:35] Mega doses of independence.

[00:22:32] Independence and grit in children.

[00:23:32] Getting out of comfort zones.

[00:28:22] Reducing family accommodation in ADHD.

[00:32:19] Pseudoscience in neurodiverse parenting.

[00:36:10] Eliminating demands parenting consequences.

[00:39:03] National licensure for telehealth.

Ryan and Mike discuss the critical topic of prioritizing long-term goals for children with ADHD. They explore the challenges of time blindness and the importance of fostering self-awareness and accountability in young adults. Are parents inadvertently over-accommodating their children, and how does this impact their future independence? What practical strategies can parents implement to ensure their kids develop essential executive functioning skills?

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:00:39] Long-term goals for ADHD children.

[00:03:48] ADHD and self-awareness challenges.

[00:08:25] Accountability in IEPs.

[00:10:25] IEPs and long-term accountability.

[00:15:01] Feel-good parenting on social media.

[00:19:10] Social media and parenting narratives.

[00:20:35] ABA vilification and misconceptions.

[00:24:33] Anti-science movement in mental health.

[00:27:36] Expectations for children with ADHD.

[00:30:53] Cultivating flexibility in children.

[00:34:15] Realistic future conversations with teens.

[00:36:49] Executive functions and success.

Ryan and Michael discuss their top tips for a successful school year for children with ADHD. They cover the importance of not tainting the parent-child relationship over homework, the benefits of enlisting supporters, and the significance of letting children communicate with their teachers independently. They also touch on the impact of written agendas, setting limits on Chromebook usage, and the value of realistic IEP goals. The guys emphasize the need for a good relationship with teachers and offer insights on navigating school challenges.

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:08] Do not toxify homework relationship.

[00:04:09] Homework strategies for ADHD children.

[00:08:17] Kids' Homework Communication with Teachers.

[00:11:47] Learned helplessness and self-advocacy.

[00:15:03] Importance of school activities.

[00:17:43] Therapy oversaturation in children.

[00:19:41] Kids are anti-fragile.

[00:22:08] Incorporating agendas for homework.

[00:26:02] Managing homework distractions.

[00:29:27] Teacher training challenges.

[00:32:20] Executive functioning challenges in schools.

[00:36:53] Unstructured play at school.

[00:39:16] Non-sporty kids and alternative activities.

[00:42:29] Maintaining positive teacher relationships.

[00:45:36] ADHD kids and accountability.

[00:48:57] Resiliency and dealing with challenges.

[00:50:47] Negative teacher talk repercussions.

[12:45:22] Mental health conditions.???

The ADHD Guys welcome their very first guest on the podcast, Dr. Katie Davis, to discuss the difference between diagnoses, labels, and educational classifications. They get into the confusion surrounding these terms and explore the impact of social media on parenting kids with ADHD.

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:01:49] Substack and maternity leave project.

[00:04:28] Difference between diagnosis and label.

[00:09:50] Educational Classifications and Stigma.

[00:14:10] Misdiagnosis and treatment implications.

[00:15:29] Social media pressure on parents.

[00:19:55] Labels and confusion in diagnosis.

[00:24:51] Sensory processing disorder label.

[00:29:29] Oppositional Defiance Disorder in ADHD.

[00:31:29] ADHD as a evolving spectrum.

[00:36:42] Self-diagnosing through online communities.

[00:39:07] Benefits of authoritative parenting.

[00:41:57] ADHD resources and services.

In this episode, Ryan and Michael dive into concerning trends in parenting social media, uncovering misinformation and pseudoscience that may be impacting families. They discuss topics like the rise of ADHD influencers, the dangers of self-diagnosing, and the controversial idea that screens help kids self-regulate.

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:40] Self-diagnosing social contagion of PDA.

[00:06:20] Pathological Demand Avoidance.

[00:07:20] Self-diagnosing children with PDA.

[00:10:50] Fear mongering in parenting.

[00:16:20] Planned Ignoring for Better Behavior.

[00:17:20] Sensory-seeking behaviors in children.

[00:21:56] Misunderstandings about ADHD.

[00:24:17] Neurodiverse affirming.

[00:30:04] Lived experience vs. education.

[00:31:53] Kids do well if they can.

[00:36:50] Parental authority and discipline.

[00:37:43] Warped social relationships and parenting.???

In this episode of the ADHD Guys podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael discuss the three zones of executive functioning: home, school, and social. They challenge the traditional view of executive functioning, exploring the internal skills that are often overlooked. Listen to uncover the secrets behind successful executive function development and the impact on a child's overall success.

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:35] Academic executive function skills.

[00:05:50] Academic challenges in ADHD.

[00:07:55] Writing struggles in students with ADHD.

[00:10:16] Supporting oral storytelling for kids.

[00:14:28] Cognitive flexibility.

[00:19:16] Time management in ADHD.

[00:22:13] Social executive functioning.

[00:25:05] Perspective taking in social skills.

[00:28:36] Social executive functioning and awareness.

[00:31:59] Executive function coaching without parents.

[00:34:43] Improving behavior at home.

[00:36:25] ADHD educational content.

In this episode, Ryan and Michael take on the complex topic of learned helplessness in children with ADHD. They explore how this behavior is developed, the impact it has on a child's independence and self-esteem, and the dangers of enabling it.

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:01:24] Learned helplessness in kids with ADHD.

[00:03:48] Learned helplessness in children.

[00:08:18] Helping Kids with Learned Helplessness.

[00:11:22] Parental involvement in education.

[00:14:41] Importance of authoritative parenting.

[00:17:41] Learned helplessness in education.

[00:21:31] Enable independence with visual timelines.

[00:24:54] Emotional manipulation.

[00:27:27] Importance of self-confidence in parenting.

[00:29:48] Learned helplessness in social media.

Join Ryan and Mike as they talk about children's use of "noise", exploring how kids with ADHD often resort to complaining and negative talk to avoid tasks. They discuss the fine line between validating feelings and reinforcing negative behavior, touching on the importance of not giving attention to noise. How can parents navigate emotional manipulation and help their children develop resiliency? Tune in to discover the proactive strategies parents can employ to empower their children and foster growth.

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:00:15] The use of noise.

[00:06:15] Overcoming negativity in sports.

[00:08:29] Overcoming child's resistance to change.

[00:11:43] Noise leading to emotional manipulation.

[00:13:26] Kids and emotional manipulation.

[00:19:21] Emotional dysregulation in parenting.

[00:22:09] Brain voice vs. brain coach.

[00:24:47] Negative effects of talk therapy.

[00:29:20] Kids and anxiety resilience.

[00:32:35] Fishy for the negatives.

[00:33:57] Holding high standards for clients.

Join Ryan & Mike for the first mailbag episode where they directly answer YOUR questions! This round they explore topics such as managing inattentiveness in social settings, handling lying behaviors, and addressing aggression towards siblings. Are screens impacting behavior? How can parents navigate grumpy phases effectively? And what does it truly mean to be neurodiversity affirming? Tune in to uncover their strategies and perspectives on these crucial issues!

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:35] Social successes in ADHD teens.

[00:04:39] Social executive functioning tied into one.

[00:09:07] Screen time struggles and control.

[00:11:14] Unplugging screens for behavioral improvement.

[00:14:44] Controlling screen time for kids.

[00:19:07] Dealing with constant lying.

[00:22:35] Dealing with children's lies.

[00:26:35] Armchair therapist role.

[00:29:32] Dealing with aggressive behavior.

[00:33:17] ADHD and neurodiversity affirming.

[00:36:00] Independence and life skills.

[00:40:30] Neurodiversity-affirming approach.

[00:42:37] Emotional support stuffed animals.

[00:45:14] The importance of social acceptance.

[00:48:35] ADHD resources and support.

In this episode, Ryan and Michael delve into the intricate world of social perspective taking, uncovering the crucial role it plays in social interactions. They explore the misunderstood concept of social executive functioning, shedding light on why perspective taking is a foundational skill.

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[00:00:00] Start

[00:01:41] Social executive functioning skills.

[00:06:11] Social attention-seeking behaviors.

[00:09:08] Social executive functioning ADHD.

[00:11:12] Lack of social perspective taking.

[00:15:37] The importance of varied experiences.

[00:17:27] Boys need real friendships.

[00:21:04] Social perspective taking.

[00:23:56] Lack of perspective in adulthood.

[00:28:32] Lack of empathy and perspective taking.

[00:32:38] The effectiveness of social skills groups.

[00:35:15] Social skills groups for ADHD.

[00:37:52] Teaching perspective taking strategies.

[00:41:42] Teaching social competency.

[00:45:07] Social perspective taking.

[00:46:34] General informational and educational purposes.

Stop trying to partner with your kids in parenting! In this episode, Ryan and Michael delve into the concept of authoritative parenting, challenging the idea of children masking their true selves due to ADHD. They explore the importance of pushing children out of their comfort zones and discuss practical strategies for effective parenting. What are the three key parenting rules shared by a pediatric emergency doctor? How can parents model emotional regulation for their children?

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[00:00:00] Start
[00:01:51] Children's role in parenting.
[00:06:16] Pushing children out of comfort.
[00:09:06] Boys and therapy resistance.
[00:11:00] Resilience and Anti-Fragility.
[00:15:54] Parenting challenges and decisions.
[00:19:18] Building self-confidence in children.
[00:21:33] Varied experiences for child development.
[00:25:41] Strategies for handling child's resistance.
[00:28:47] Clutch and cringe video segment.
[00:32:27] The negative impact of masking.
[00:36:32] ADHD masking on social media.
[00:38:08] Parenting rules and discipline.

In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael delve into the intricate world of social executive functioning skills in children with ADHD. They explore the difference between social skills and social executive function skills, highlighting the challenges faced by kids with ADHD in social interactions. With a focus on perspective taking and cognitive flexibility, the hosts provide insights into how parents can support their children in navigating social situations. Tune in to discover the crucial role of front-loading information and the impact of social relationships on long-term success.

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00:00:00 Intro

00:01:22 Social executive function skills.

00:03:27 Differences between ADHD and autism.

00:07:15 Disorder of self-awareness in ADHD.

00:10:41 Difficulty with perspective taking.

00:15:01 Social challenges in ADHD.

00:18:38 Social executive functioning challenges.

00:22:19 Social executive function challenges.

00:24:18 Social impact of ADHD behaviors.

00:26:14 Male youth development.

00:29:19 Social relationships and success.

00:34:17 Teaching social perspective taking.

00:36:26 The ADHD parent.

00:40:22 Front loading for social skills.

00:43:26 Pushing kids out of comfort zones.

00:45:26 Parenting through discomfort and anxiety.

00:50:00 Social dangers of Discord.

00:50:48 Social executive functioning groups.

The ADHD Guys podcast hosts, Ryan and Michael, delve into the lack of men in the mental health and speech language pathology fields, discussing the challenges and implications of this imbalance. They explore the impact on boys' social development, highlighting the importance of natural social interactions over structured groups.

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00:00:00 - Start

00:01:48 - Lack of men in respective fields.

00:06:26 - Men in speech-language pathology.

00:07:25 - Speech pathology misconceptions.

00:11:30 - Creating a welcoming environment.

00:15:32 - Social skills and speech-language pathologists.

00:16:47 - Neurodiversity affirming therapists.

00:20:48 - Social pragmatic language groups.

00:23:10 - ADHD and social executive functioning.

00:28:00 - Social skills groups for boys.

00:31:00 - Cultivating and sustaining friendships.

00:33:31 - Male loneliness epidemic.

00:36:24 - Social activities for skill development.

00:41:35 - Stark differences between boys and girls.

In this episode of the ADHD Guys podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael delve into the crucial topic of emotional dysregulation in kids with ADHD. They challenge traditional views on executive functioning, emphasizing the importance of self-regulation and cognitive flexibility. How can parents navigate emotional outbursts without falling into the trap of parental accommodation? What strategies can help children develop better emotional regulation skills at home? Tune in to discover the evidence-based treatments recommended for kids with ADHD and learn how to empower your child through effective parenting techniques.

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00:00:00 Start

00:02:09 Cognitive flexibility and emotional dysregulation

00:03:34 The power of attention

00:08:24 Ignoring negative behaviors

00:10:22 Affective calmness

00:15:16 Parenting and child's discomfort

00:19:36 Brain breaks for self-regulation

00:23:12 Developing self-regulation skills

00:24:16 Less language for better parenting

00:27:10 Teaching kids emotional regulation skills

This episode delves into the challenges parents face in pushing their children out of their comfort zones. They explore the concept of the "ADHD comfort zone" and discuss the importance of exposing kids to new experiences to build resilience. How can parents navigate emotional manipulation and noise from their children? What strategies can be employed to help kids develop self-awareness and overcome anxiety? Tune in to discover the answers, plus how episodic memory plays a crucial role in shaping a child's perspective and decision-making.

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References & Links: 

Get comfort zone image Mike references HERE.

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[00:00:00] Start
[00:01:19] The ADHD comfort zone.
[00:06:50] Shifting Parenting Trends.
[00:10:48] Temporary discomfort versus trauma.
[00:12:43] Parenting Expectations vs. Choices.
[00:17:13] Emotional manipulation and noise.
[00:19:16] Negative attention-seeking behavior.
[00:22:29] Emotional manipulation with screens.
[00:27:10] Controlling the home environment.
[00:30:31] Building resilience through exposure therapy.
[00:34:18] Memory and positive experiences.

Hosts Ryan and Michael debate the controversial topic of screen use in children with ADHD, and whether it should be treated like an addiction. They explore the impact of screens on the developing brain, discussing the correlation between ADHD and addiction. Are screens truly addictive, or is it just compulsive use? How do screens affect executive functioning skills and social interactions? Tune in to discover their nuanced opinions and recommendations for parents struggling with screen time limits and the potential consequences of excessive screen use on a child's future success.

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[00:00:00] Start
[00:01:35] Screen addiction in ADHD.
[00:07:01] Screen addiction and gambling comparison.
[00:08:05] Screen time and child behavior.
[00:14:37] Screen time limits for ADHD.
[00:18:09] Managing video game usage.
[00:22:16] Screens and refusal to brush.
[00:24:18] Screen time impact on children.
[00:27:13] Video games and social skills.
[00:32:37] Big tech concerns and parenting.
[00:36:51] Visual time management for kids.
[00:40:33] Importance of varied experiences.

In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael delve into the world of evidence-based treatment recommendations for kids with ADHD. They explore the common misconceptions surrounding therapy and coaching for children with ADHD, questioning the effectiveness of traditional approaches like cognitive training and social skills groups. Are these methods truly helping children make real-world progress, or are there more proactive and impactful strategies to consider? Tune in to discover the key concepts and insights shared by the hosts, as they navigate through the complexities of supporting children with ADHD.

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[00:00:00] Start
[00:00:32] Evidence-based treatment recommendations.
[00:04:25] Treatment recommendations for kids with ADHD.
[00:10:45] Social skills training for ADHD.
[00:11:57] Requirements for social skills groups.
[00:15:40] Ineffective school support systems.
[00:19:39] Neurofeedback training pros and cons.
[00:24:02] Parent behavior training programs.
[00:26:38] Parenting challenges with ADHD.
[00:31:44] Behavioral peer interventions.
[00:34:18] Executive Functioning Coaching Importance.
[00:39:27] The red countdown timer
[00:43:20] Shifting focus to real-world progress.

In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael delve into the rising trend of late autism diagnoses and the implications for parents and children. They question the surge in inaccurate diagnoses and discuss the importance of looking beyond labels to focus on a child's unique needs and potential. What is behind professionals teaching fragility and how does that impact children's development? How can parents navigate through questionable diagnoses and prioritize their child's quality of life? Tune in to discover the answers and gain valuable insights into supporting children with ADHD.

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[00:00:00] Start
[00:00:00] Rise in mental health fragility.
[00:06:25] Social struggles in ADHD.
[00:08:36] Misconceptions about autism.
[00:11:33] Autism and ADHD misconceptions.
[00:15:03] Label obsession in child diagnoses.
[00:20:48] Teaching independence and resilience.
[00:23:16] Three areas of focus: home, academic, social

In this episode of the ADHD Guys podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael delve into the misconceptions surrounding ADHD evaluations and treatments. They challenge outdated recommendations and emphasize the importance of parent coaching in strengthening executive functions. Do therapy and social skills groups really help kids with ADHD? How can parents navigate the overwhelming evaluation process to ensure effective support for their children? Tune in to uncover the truth behind ADHD treatments and discover the key to fostering growth in children with ADHD.

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[00:00:00] Start
[00:00:36] Misunderstanding of ADHD treatments.
[00:04:50] Evaluations for ADHD diagnosis.
[00:07:52] Executive functioning and success.
[00:12:34] Executive functioning and behavior therapy.
[00:15:10] Misconceptions about therapy.
[00:20:29] Parent coaching in executive functioning.
[00:23:18] Ineffective social skills groups.
[00:26:10] Kids thriving without phones.

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