I was lying in bed one morning, and all of a sudden it hit me?
If I ever want to be truly happy, I have to stop doing THIS.
So do you.
What is this thing we need to stop doing?
I call it the ?Campaign of Misery.?
In the background of your mind, there?s a campaign of misery running on a loop. And until you stop it, you will never experience the happiness, joy and contentment you deserve.
I promise you - it is there. In the background - talking to you all the time.
This is the missing piece to true happiness.
When you remove the campaign of misery, you create room for joy.
I recorded this episode the same morning I had this profound insight. What you're about to hear is a conversation with me and two friends and colleagues, Amy and Jessie. Pull up a seat at the kitchen table; I want you to hear me unpacking this breakthrough about happiness in real time.
My two friends saw their ?campaign of misery? immediately and started describing in detail the ridiculous ways they torture themselves. You?ll laugh, you?ll nod along, and you might even cry a little. We sure did.
Because when you realize how much you rob yourself of the happiness you deserve, it is sad.
I always say, this isn?t just a listening podcast, it?s a doing podcast. So by the end, there?s something specific I will be asking you to do with us while you listen.
In three simple steps, you will join us as we put down the sword, grab a book of matches, and pick up the pen to write new default programming into our minds.
Don?t worry, I?ll explain why you need matches near the end of the episode.
And you?ll be so happy that I did.
You have the power to change the way you think and the way you talk to yourself. You have the power to stop seeing all the reasons your life is hard and teach yourself to see how this could be easier.
Yes, you can be happy.
You can be content.
But first, you have to stop making yourself miserable. Let?s support one another on this.
If we fight this battle for happiness together, side-by-side, I am certain we will win.
In this episode, you?ll learn:What happens when you get caught up in your storiesMy profound breakthrough around the importance of mindfulnessHow to start celebrating yourself right now, no matter your mindsetThe 3 incredibly powerful mindset hacks I did with my friends and colleagues, Amy & Jessie
Do you want to create a better morning routine? Join my free 5-day Wake Up Challenge and I?ll coach day by day on setting your day up for success here.
Morning Pages inspired by Julia Cameron: The Artist?s Way
For complete show notes, click here.
Buckle up and get ready to take notes because this episode is a masterclass.
The tools you?re about to learn will help you become more confident, influential, and even make more money.
Today, we?re talking about The ?It? Factor.
Some people just seem to have IT, right?
When I think of The It Factor, people like Oprah, The Rock, Taylor Swift, the Dalai Lama, and Martin Luther King, Jr. come to mind.
These people make you want to lean in, join in, and learn more.
So today we?re asking?
What is ?It? that some people have that makes us automatically trust and like them?
And, more importantly, how can you get it?
Here to answer that question is Vanessa Van Edwards, a best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the behavior lab The Science of People.
I cannot wait for you to dig into what she has researched.
Turns out The It Factor has another name: charisma.
And the good news?
YOU can learn how to have charisma, starting today.
You?re going to want to. Research finds that charismatic people are more influential, earn a higher income, and have a bigger impact at work, in their communities, and in their relationships.
The secret to hacking it? Social cues, like body language and the way you speak.
That?s why today?s episode is a masterclass.
You?ll learn?Shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up3 things you must do in the first 10 seconds of a Zoom callTips for nailing an interviewThe major mistake you?re making as you speakHow to ask for a raiseA simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you areWhy you never want to fake a smileTips for charisma for introvertsWhy a second impression is as important as the first
That?s just the tip of the iceberg. Today?s episode is jam-packed with simple, tactical research and tools that will help you and anyone you care about develop the skill of charisma.
And you deserve that.
Join the free 5-day Wake Up Challenge with me and master your morning routine here.
All show notes for this episode can be found at melrobbins.com/podcast
Check out the video version of this podcast on my YouTube channel here.
Whatever you're doing right now, stop and make time for this conversation.
Every single day, I get questions from listeners about self-love, self-hatred, and what it actually means to like yourself.
I understand why it?s confusing.
The topic of self-love is so broad, and there is very little actionable advice on how exactly you learn to like yourself, especially if you?ve spent your whole life being hard on yourself.
So don?t worry, I?ve decided to attack this topic of self-love in a completely unique, surprising, and tactical manner. This is also one of the most personal episodes I?ve released because I?m inviting you to join a conversation I?m having with our 17-year-old son, Oakley.
This is not a ?podcast interview.? This is an intimate conversation between a mother and a son about the most important topic you could discuss: self-love.
When Oakley was in middle school, he hated himself, and as his mom, it was awful to see him so lonely and sad. In today?s conversation, he shares things with me about this time in his life that I never knew.
And more importantly, we unpack the moment he had an epiphany that changed everything.
You will absolutely relate to everything he shares and his reflections about it.
I?m so proud to share this conversation with you. You will be blown away because you?ll not only feel like you?re part of our family, but we?re also welcoming you into our hearts.
You will laugh out loud, even though your heart might break a little. And by the end of it, you?ll have not only wisdom, but also a couple of simple tools to help you learn how to like yourself a little more.
This conversation is a must-listen for EVERYONE in your life. And especially for young adults because when they hear these insights from someone their age, it?s way more compelling than getting advice from an adult.
I do want to be up front about one thing: Oakley is 17 and like most 17-year-olds, whether they do it in front of you or not, he has a case of the F?s, meaning he drops the F-word a fair number of times, and I made a decision to record it as is and allow him to speak freely.
And, I just can?t emphasize enough how much insight this is going to give you into your own relationship with yourself.
I hope you will make the time to spend a half hour with the two of us, because I know you will leave feeling seen, understood, and liking yourself a little better.
I cannot wait to hear what you learn.
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com
I want you to get serious about inserting fun back into the holidays this year.
It might seem odd to have an entire conversation about fun. But here?s why we have to: most of us aren?t having any.
In fact, it?s gotten so bad that researchers have a term for it: ?a fun drought.? You?re not alone ? 97% of people want to have more fun.
And wouldn?t it be fabulous if you had an absolute blast with your family this holiday season?
It is possible. And you?re just the person to make it happen.
On the topic of family, I find it interesting that most of the advice out there is focused on toxic family dynamics and boundaries. If your family is that toxic, the only thing you need to do is make other plans. You?re not required to spend time with them.
But? if you are planning to spend time with family during the holidays, make this the year you bring the fun.
Fun breaks up old dynamics, fun draws people out of their shells, and fun gives you something to talk about other than the weather and how the school year is going.
And laughter is not only great medicine, but it also makes you happier and strengthens your relationships with those you?re having fun with!
Today you and I are getting serious about fun.
In this episode, you?re going to learn the 3 things that get in the way of you having fun ? the biggest one being that you don?t plan for it.
So, we are going to discuss how to plan for and have more fun, and I?ll give you all kinds of ideas to consider.
This is the perfect episode to listen to with your family if you?re traveling. It?s appropriate for all ages.
So shake off the dread and pull out the party hats. I?m on a mission to inspire you to have more fun.
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com
I used simple research from Harvard Business School and UCLA to tame my fear of public speaking and become one of the most successful keynote speakers in the world.
I used this same tool to overcome my fear of flying.
If nerves or fear are holding you back from applying for that promotion, asking someone on a date, speaking up at a meeting, or traveling to another part of the world, this brain hack will change your life.
Your fears make your life small. Your nerves limit your potential. Your anxiety robs you of happiness and confidence.
Today on the podcast, you?ll hear me coach someone through one of her biggest fears.
You?ll hear the hilarious ways I used to cope with my fears and you?ll also learn why telling someone to calm down never works.
You?ll leave this episode with a 4-step tool that you can apply to your life the moment you learn it.
Stop letting your fear make your life small.
Board that plane, step onto that stage, apply for that promotion, and never let your nerves stop you from living your life the way that you want to again.
And please, share this episode not only with people you love, but particularly with all the young adults in your life, because research shows that this tool not only helps you tame your anxiety ? it also helps you perform better on tests, be a better athlete, and compete at a higher level in academic competitions.
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com
What if you could show up in any relationship feeling secure, exactly as you are?
You didn?t have to overthink every text you sent.
You wouldn?t have to play the dating games.
If somebody ghosted you, it wouldn?t be the end of the world.
Well I?m here to tell you today that you CAN be that person.
Meet the phenomenal Dr. Marisa Franco, New York Times bestselling author of ?Platonic? and expert on attachment theory.
Today, we?re shining a light on your attachment style.
What is an attachment style?
Simple. It?s a framework backed by decades of research that will help you understand how you show up in relationships.
There are 4 attachment styles, and whether you?re aware of it or not, you default to one of them.
If you have a hard time setting boundaries with family members?
If you keep dating the same kind of people?
If you cling to relationships that have long expired?
Or if you?ve never been able to connect with someone on a deeply emotional level.
Blame your attachment style.
And here?s the good news: when you understand attachment theory, you can change your default attachment style and become more secure, which leads to happier and healthier relationships.
You deserve that, which is why this episode is for you.
Today, Dr. Franco breaks down the 4 attachment styles that make or break your relationships, AND the powerful tools you can use to improve them.
Once you understand your attachment style, you?ll have a lens through which to improve absolutely every relationship, especially the one you have with yourself.
Because at the deepest level, becoming more secure is about allowing love in.
PS: One way to let more love in is to get in touch with your big dreams. Let me help you with a free journal guide: melrobbins.com/dreambig
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com
According to neuroscience research, there are four major mistakes you make when it comes to manifesting.
Done correctly, manifesting is a mindset tool that elite athletes and the world?s most successful people use to perform at the highest levels and achieve remarkable goals.
Today, I?ll reveal those mistakes and more importantly, teach you how to manifest the right way.
This episode is all about the HOW.
If you love takeaways and tools, you?ll eat this up.
Today I?ll lay it all out for you, step by step.
You?ll learn the 4 things you need to do every day if you?re serious about achieving your goals and dreams.
So wherever you stand on the topic of manifesting, this episode is a masterclass in both the science and art of doing it.
For all my cynics and skeptics, this isn?t what you think it is. This is tactical and based in research.
And if you already love vision boards, you?re probably going to have to rip yours up and create a new one once you learn the research related to what works and what doesn?t when it comes to visualization.
I promise you are not going to want to miss this one.
To get the free download mentioned in the episode that helps you get in touch with your dreams, go to MelRobbins.com/dreambig
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com
THIS is the pep talk you need to hear right now.
I?m showing up with a level of intensity in a way you?ve never heard me before.
We are talking about you and your big dreams.
No matter what you're going through in life, your dreams are alive and well and they are waiting for you to wake up and turn toward them.
If you?re not ready for some Mel Robbins inspirational firepower, bookmark this for another day. Because I?m not f?ing around today.
If you?re done with feeling like you?re doing the same sh*t day in and day out?
If you?re tired of your excuses?
Or if you're like Barbara, who you will meet in this episode, and you have given up on your dreams because they haven?t materialized yet?
This may be the most important 50 minutes of your life.
There is a flame inside of you that is still flickering.
Today, we are going to throw gasoline on and reignite that fire.
You?re ready for this today. I know you are.
And more than any other episode, I can't wait to hear how you?re feeling and what you?re doing after you listen to this one.
P.S. A lot of you keep asking how you can motivate the people that you love ? your kids, spouses, family members, colleagues. Just share this episode with them and I?ll take care of it.
P.P.S. When you?re done listening, you?re going to feel like you?ve been shot out of a cannon and want to know how to level up. A great way to start is jumping into The Wake Up Challenge so I can support you in getting your mornings off to a great start for five days in a row, which is exactly the kind of structure you?re going to need to get started on your dreams.
This is the inspiration and wisdom you need to hear today.
It?s been quite a week and it?s only Monday.
I woke up yesterday and was so sick, I had to cancel some really important work and personal commitments.
Cue: the disappointment, the anxiety of upsetting others, and my own sadness that life was not going as I had planned.
This is one of those episodes that I recorded for myself and for you. Even when things are really upsetting, you still have the power to face them and take control.
Join me in learning one simple, powerful tool. I?ll not only explain it ? I?ll also have you practice it with me.
I already feel better, and so will you.
How do I know if I?m in a relationship with a narcissist?
Are certain personalities more drawn to narcissists?
Can I heal if I was raised by a narcissist?
How do I handle narcissists at work?
Why do I keep attracting narcissists into my life?
How can I keep a narcissist in my life? and not go crazy?
And, most of all:
What EXACTLY do I do to cope with narcissists?
You have been flooding my inbox with questions since Dr. Ramani Durvasula, the world?s leading expert on narcissism, spoke about it on the podcast.
You asked to bring her back and I?m listening: Dr. Ramani is here with answers to all of your questions.
This episode is for you if you?
Have no idea what narcissism isWere raised by a narcissistAre married to a narcissistThink you might be dating a narcissistWork with/for a narcissist Want to know the telltale red flags so you?re better preparedAre afraid you?re a narcissist
Today you get:
Two important tools to help you start your own healing and create boundariesKey takeaways to help you move forwardOne solid truth that will ground you in your confidence
You?ll also learn:
What you can do today to begin your own healingHow to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and maintain your sanityThe signs to watch for to know if you?re with a narcissistWhat gaslighting looks like in real lifeThe situations that make you more susceptibleHow to coach your friend who?s dating a narcissistIf you?re more prone to attracting narcissistsWhy you ditch the ?good ones? for the ?bad ones?About ?trauma bonds? The signs of ?love bombing?About the ?Golden Goose? phenomenon in the workplaceWhat yellow rocking and gray rocking are
Listen in on today?s conversation. You will not only be glad you did ? you?ll also leave armed with the knowledge, tools, and resources you need to diffuse the impact of a narcissist, get your power back, and know that whatever it is that this person says or does ? it?s not your fault.
PS: Once you?re done with this one, if you haven?t had a chance to listen to Dr. Ramani?s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast, absolutely spend some time listening to it: ?5 Signs You?re Dealing With a Narcissist & How To Protect Yourself?
A survival guide to adult friendship: how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult.
This is the topic you and everyone else are thinking about.
From making new friends to staying connected to your old ones, to the thing that?s really hard: what do you do when your friendships start to fade?
This is something I?ve been dying to talk to you about because I am right here, shoulder to shoulder with you, feeling lonely, left out, and wondering?
Where did all my friends go?
I know I?m not the only one because when I do see my friends or meet someone new, everyone is talking about how they never see their friends anymore.
Let?s fix that.
I spent a lot of time reflecting on the things that I?m doing that keep me from putting myself out there (which I know I need to do) and did extensive research on the topic.
What I discovered is both comforting and empowering. I can?t wait to share it with you.
I can boil all of this research down to the 5 lies you and I tell ourselves about friendship.
These lies are keeping you from having the best relationships of your life.
That?s why you need to hear them.
So did I.
You also need to hear the truth bombs I?m dropping and the smarty pants research I found to back it all up.
Because once you stop repeating these lies, your life will open up again.
You?ll have an easier time finding, making, and strengthening your relationships with friends.
And most importantly, your friendships will align with who you really are and what you really want in this chapter of your life.
Today it?s just you and me, friend to friend, figuring sh*t out together.
So let?s go.
Today?s conversation is required listening for everyone.
We are going to blow the lid off of emotional triggers.
Let?s get to the bottom of why you and I react the way we do, and more importantly, learn simple ways to take control of our emotions.
It doesn?t matter where you live, how you grew up, or even if you?re a freakin? saint to everyone else, I know you have something that triggers you.
You have days just like I do when something sets you off and you either snap like a firecracker or withdraw like a turtle in a shell.
And just like me, you say and do things you later regret.
I?ll go first: I?m trying hard to work on the nasty tone of voice I use with Chris and our kids when I feel frustrated or confronted.
And it doesn?t end there. If you?re like me, you beat yourself up for getting triggered, and you now start feeling bad and regret what you did (or the fact that you did nothing).
It makes me feel like crap when I do these things. I have felt helpless for a long time because it?s been so automatic when I get triggered emotionally.
I don?t want to keep living like this. I?d like to feel calm, peaceful, and more in control.
And that?s what this episode is about.
Wouldn?t you love to get out of this cycle of feeling emotionally triggered? Wouldn?t you love to take control of your emotional life as an adult?
The good news: you can rewire your response to stressful and annoying situations.
And in turn, you?ll bring more happiness, presence, control, and closer relationships into your life, because you?ll be present in them instead of letting your emotions drive you.
So, who is going to teach us about triggers?
I?ve tracked down a psychologist who teaches one of the most popular online workshops about this topic:
The incredible Dr. Becky Kennedy.
She?s the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside. And do not let the fact that she is a child psychologist and parenting expert keep you from soaking up and applying everything you can learn from her.
No matter how old you are right now, YOU were once a child. And that, my friend, is where your triggers got hardwired inside of you: before you even knew how to talk.
Understanding triggers (and taming them) requires you to go back before you can move forward.
Dr. Becky says, ?Your triggers are stories from your past.?
Listen to this episode and really try to absorb what Dr. Becky shares, because the wiring and triggers that frustrate you right now are not permanent.
I know you?re going to send this to every one of your friends who is a parent, and please send it to your kids, nieces, and nephews, too.
Learning how to rewire my response to stress at 54 is amazing. But imagine if you knew how to do this in high school. That?s why I?ve asked our three kids ? ages 23, 22, and 17 ? to listen too. Sure, it would be nice for us to pass this healing and confidence-building stuff down to every generation, right? If they get this information now, they can rewire themselves faster.
This is really important, life-changing stuff. And I love that it?s also so simple. And you know what else I love? You. Thank you for listening and let me know what you learn.
PS: Want to go deeper?
For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com
One thing that helped me gain control is taking control of my mornings. If you haven?t checked out my free 5-day Wakeup Challenge, let me support you in getting going and creating a better morning. Sign up here.
You know those days when you just feel ?off?? Well, last week, both my friend Amy and I were having bad days.
Thankfully, I had just had an appointment with my amazing therapist that morning.
So, as Amy and I started to talk about why we didn?t ?feel like ourselves,? I got this crazy idea that maybe we should invite YOU to join us as the conversation started to unfold.
We decided to turn on a recording device and unpack how we were feeling ? on the fly.
I need to say: I stole everything you?re about to hear from my therapist Anne, and you should steal it too.
This is way more than just learning how to put on a happy face.
These tools are truly transformational because they help you tap back into the incredible power within you.
This is a very intimate and special episode that unfolds live.
So I?m inviting you right now: pull up a seat at the kitchen table with Amy and me.
Join us. Don?t just listen, but close your eyes and do the exercises with us.
Do not miss out on what happens near the end. It is magical and I certainly did not see it coming.
And I know you?re going to want to see the cowboy boots: don?t worry, they are in the show notes on my website here.
Narcissism is on the rise and you need to learn how to spot it in other people and have tools to protect yourself.
We all know those people who constantly turn a conversation toward themselves, who only call you when they want something, and who have a way of making everything someone else?s fault.
Well, guess what? Turns out narcissism goes far beyond that.
I?m telling you right now, even if you THINK you know what a narcissist is, you need to listen.
I thought I knew, yet I?m still reeling from all my breakthrough moments.
Do you have a narcissist in your life?
Maybe you grew up with one.
Maybe you work with one.
Maybe you married one.
Maybe you don?t know what the hell a narcissist is!
Pull up a seat at the table with me because class is IN session.
Narcissism is a term that gets thrown around a lot these days, so how do you know if you?re *really* dealing with a narcissist?
You have been blowing up my email and DMs about this topic, so Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to answer your questions.
She?s the world?s leading expert on narcissism and someone I?ve followed and admired for years. I love how she breaks down the topic of narcissism in a way that?s understandable, simple, and packed with tools you can apply the second you learn them.
Listen in as she shines a light on the REAL definition of a narcissist and the 5 warning signs you need to know if you?re dealing with one.
This topic is so juicy ? and so surprising ? that you?re going to be shocked by what you learn. One part in particular will change how you approach narcissists in your life from this day forward.
That?s exactly what happened to me. I have somebody in my life, a very prominent somebody, who absolutely displays narcissistic tendencies, and I have spent years in therapy dealing with it. So I actually got out of my chair and hugged Dr. Ramani after everything she taught me and you in this amazing episode!
If you get something out of this episode, or if you have a friend that has struggled with a narcissist in their life, please share this with them.
And if you think a person is a narcissist, don't even bother sharing, because if there's one thing you're going to learn: you don't want to EVER call one out?
That's just one of the many rules you're going to learn to follow in order to protect yourself from narcissistic behavior.
This episode is jam-packed with teachable moments that will leave you seeing the narcissists in your life with 20-20 insight.
You?ll learn how to not only deal with them but also end this episode with the tools to heal.
And that, my friend, could be the takeaway that changes your life forever.
For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com
How do you know if the thing you?re holding on to is something you should keep fighting for or if it?s time to let go?
Phenomenal question. I?ve got the answer.
The truth is, most of us never let go.
You spend a lot of time adding things into your life ? new projects, new relationships, new stuff ? but when was the last time you *subtracted* something?
I?m talking about all the things you hang on to, even when they?re no longer serving you or helping you grow.
The stuff that you know is weighing you down and sucking your energy dry, but you can?t seem to drop it.
I?ve got the solution for you.
I?m about to walk you ? literally ? through a strategy that nobody talks about. It will help you let go of what?s a pain or a drain in your life.
Are you staying in a job you hate?
Do you keep hanging out with that friend who brings you down?
Holding on to those too-small pants because you?re hoping to one day fit into them again?
As the late, great Pulitzer and Nobel prize winner Toni Morrison wrote, if you ?want to fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.?
By the end of this episode, you?ll understand how to start letting go of what doesn?t serve you to create room for growth.
And, you?ll learn the two things you must let go of today.
Get ready to step into your new potential and unlock the magic of your life.
Aren?t you ready for that? I know I am. Let?s do it!
For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com
Everything you think about anxiety is wrong.
Yes, we?re starting there.
And yes, we?re going deep.
I know that this episode will change your life. It has done the same for mine.
It?s not a secret that I?ve struggled with anxiety for pretty much my whole life. I swear I came out of the womb in a full-blown panic attack, and I was just warming up for a life of worry on a very elite, professional level.
I have been sharing my anxiety journey, and the tools that have helped me, for the past five years.
And in this episode, things go deeper than they have ever have before.
No exaggeration when I say that my takeaway from this interview today is so revolutionary, it?s forever changed the way I think about my anxiety and my relationship to it.
Which is why it?s my honor to introduce you to Dr. Russell Kennedy, MD.
I?m willing to bet that what you learn today you haven?t heard yet.
Like the real reason you?re anxious in the first place.
It?s not what you?re thinking.
No lie, I?ve been stalking Dr. Kennedy on Instagram for the past year because I just love his stuff.
Like me, he?s lived with his own anxiety since childhood. As a neuroscientist and a medical doctor, he also has the clinical experience to teach us how to HEAL our anxiety.
Did you catch that?
You don?t have to stop at managing your anxiety; you can actually heal it.
I see you if you?re living with a constant ?nervous stomach.?
I see you if you can?t sleep.
I see you if your heart races and your muscles are often tense.
What Dr. Kennedy shares with you today has changed my relationship to anxiety, and I know it can do the same for you.
It will blow your mind when Dr. Kennedy tells you that we?ve been attacking this all wrong, and he?ll give you simple science and research-backed tools that will change your life immediately!
I ask all the questions you are thinking about anxiety and Dr. Kennedy and I get real with the answers.
You are not only going to learn how to deal with your anxiety in a very simple but effective way, you are going to learn why it?s there, what it?s trying to tell you, and how to heal it for good.
This episode has changed my life and I know it will do the same for you and your loved ones. Bookmark this episode and share it with those in your life who need it.
It?s time. You deserve what you?re about to learn.
For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com
The biggest secret to getting the life you want is understanding 3 words I hope you never forget:
Motivation. Is. Garbage.
Right now, think about something you want to change or improve.
I bet you know WHAT you want to change ? and what you need to do.
But the 100 million dollar question is: HOW?
How do you get started?
And how do you keep going even when you don?t feel like it?
Look, if change was easy, we?d all have six-pack abs, a million dollars in the bank, and healed our trauma.
And that?s where this episode comes in: I teach you the HOW.
I cracked the code on motivation, and in the next hour, I?m sharing everything I know with you.
You?ll learn the secret to breaking old habits, creating new ones, and how to hack what neuroscientists call ?activation energy.?
You?ll also learn one simple but incredible tool, that?s grounded in decades of research, and will change your life forever. This tool is a ?cheat code? for motivation. It?s worked for millions of people and it will for you, too.
I wish that what I was about to tell you was something I had read in a book, but unfortunately, that's not how I tend to learn things.
I'm the kind of person who either has to fall into a hole that I didn't see to learn a lesson, or more likely, I screw up my life so badly, I dig the hole for myself.
This was me back in 2008. I was digging the biggest life hole ever. And that?s where this episode begins.
I was at the lowest point in my life. My husband?s business was failing, I was unemployed, on the brink of bankruptcy and divorce, I was drinking way too much, and to top it all off, I couldn?t even get up in the morning. Not the Mel Robbins you know today.
This is the exact moment I discovered the secret to hacking motivation ? because I had to if I wanted to fix my own life.
And if I can do it, you can too.
If you're a new listener, you'll learn more about how I got to where I am today.
And if you've been a fan for a while, this episode will be a reminder of the power within you to make any change you can imagine.
At the end of the episode, I?ll also give you a free 5-day challenge ? The Wake Up Challenge ? to walk you through getting started with these tools: www.melrobbins.com/wakeup
You won?t believe how simple it is to transform your life, your work, and your attitude. I can?t wait to show you how.
How do you find your power when life knocks you down?
What do you do when you are in the middle of an emotional tsunami?
How do you respond when the universe is testing you?
This is the ultimate episode about resilience, confidence, and taking your power back.
Yes, you can take control with simple tools whenever you feel that insecurity spiral kick in. You can pick yourself up, shake off the sh*t, and you can make it a win for you.
In this episode, I take you into my life as my 22-year-old daughter gets news that sent her spiraling: her ex was now interested in one of her friends.
This episode unfolds live, over the phone, in real-time, and it is about way more than dealing with heartbreak.
This is for everyone, including you.
This is about how you can make those moments of insecurity a win. It?s about finding your confidence when self-doubt comes in. It?s about getting your power back.
And this is also about how you can make better decisions. How to align your actions and reactions with what you want out of life, rather than letting your emotions hijack you.
This is powerful stuff.
During this deeply relatable conversation, you?ll laugh, nod along, and probably think of a dozen friends who need to hear this too. My daughter and I unpack the situation live, and you?ll hear Kendall process her feelings, rise above the noise, tap into her power, and start coaching herself forward from a place of confidence and clarity.
Honestly, as her mother, I?m incredibly proud of what she shares in this episode.
I want you to listen because I want you to feel empowered too.
In one hour, you will learn how to turn hurt feelings into a WIN for you. You?ll hear the best advice I?ve ever received when life knocked me down, and how you can use it to make your life and your attitude 10X better.
You?ll understand how to break old patterns of self-sabotage and kick them to the curb for good.
Holy sh*t?I almost forgot! There is swearing in this episode! If you have any kids around, put those headphones on!
And seriously: for anyone in your life struggling with insecurity, do them a favor and remind them of who they are. Send them this episode so they can take their power back.
You can change your life. Period.
My mission in this episode is to remind you of who you are and help you tap into the power inside of you. I want you to see something bigger for your life this year. I want to empower you with 3 simple steps you can take to make that vision a reality.
In this episode, you will learn the 3 steps I used to reinvent every aspect of my life over the past two years. I strengthened my relationships, changed my business, improved my mental health, and heck, I even changed where I lived (after 26 years)! I will walk you, step by step, through the story and the process.
I will share how I went from feeling stuck, lost, and overwhelmed two years ago to where I am today: happier than I?ve been in a long time, making big things happen, and having a ball.
If I can do it, you can do it.
I?ll walk you through what I did and how I did it. By the end of the episode, you?ll not only feel motivated to improve your life, but you?ll also know the steps to take and HOW to make it happen. And I will make sure you know that you, in fact, deserve to be happy and fulfilled. Yes, YOU.
You?ll also hear an amazing and inspiring story from one woman who used these 3 steps to save her life and then, over the past year, take the actions to improve her life and become happier, more confident, and empowered.
All of this is here to inspire and empower you to use these same simple steps to create profound change in your life, too.
You?ll also learn interesting research about tapping into intrinsic motivation, temporal landmarks, and thinking bigger about your life and the future, using ?The Fresh Start Effect? to unlock the confidence to kick your rear end when you need to.
This episode is packed with stories, science, tools, and the motivational fire power you deserve. I am on a mission to remind you of who you are and the power you have inside yourself to change your life.
Change is possible. And you can?t convince me otherwise. YOU have the power to change your life through the actions you take every single day. YOU deserve to be happy.
And in case no one tells you today, I love you and I believe in your ability to change your life. Now go get ?em. ??
Mel Robbins has spent the last 10 years helping millions of people change their lives. In The Mel Robbins Podcast, Mel shares the relatable stories and science-backed tools she?s built her career around to inspire, motivate, and empower you to create a better life. Starting October 6th, Mel is here for you twice a week with new episodes every Monday and Thursday.