FOLLOW US ON IG @breakupbreakdownpodcast! - This week I'm letting you in on the first four episodes that will come out in the second season. Kennedy also gives us an update on Soup Man (and we explain why we gave him that name), and also tell you about a new podcast idea/segment/??? 

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Timestamps

(00:00) - Season 2 First Four Episodes

(03:05) - Trying to get boyfriends in Disney

(03:56) - Why do we call him Soup Man??

(04:58) - Soup Man visited our city?!?!

(05:28) - Reading the Soup Man Poll Results

(07:06) - Soup Man Poll short response results

(08:15) - Moving for a relationship?

(09:22) - Relationship intervention podcast

(09:56) - Mental Health x Trauma Bonding x This Podcast

Ever find out you weren't the only person dating your new romantic prospect?! Kennedy is back from Barcelona and she is here to spill on her office romance gone wrong. What started out as a spicy Spanish fling ended in THE text message no one wants to get. We also talk about the dating Facebook groups that are somehow messier than this podcast?! Check the timestamps for all the topics!  SUBMIT A BREAK UP: https://forms.gle/REVPFZAag1xehMdJAFEEDBACK FORM: https://forms.gle/ZBzYoaS2Uf2duYj1A STREAM "BAD HABIT": https://linktr.ee/cammimcdermott Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/?hl=enAbby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=enThe Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ Timestamps (00:00) - Intro (01:14) - Spilling the tea on some main episode interviews for szn 2 (02:51) - Kennedy's Barcelona romance story  (12:02) - Kennedy's Barcelona fling tracked us down in a Tampa bar?! (14:42) Embracing our inner Disney Adults (18:25) - Cammi McDermott's "Bad Habit" Song! (19:44) - Addressing a review on ApplePodcasts

Remember when it just. got. WORSE? Marina was the main episode guest for season 1 episode 9 and her story has been a listener favorite! Marina shared her traumatic story of getting repeatedly cheated on by the NOTORIOUS 'Q' and how she grew from her experience. Now, about six months later, we're catching up on her new relationship! We'll talk about how a healthy partner changes you (and your life!), trust issues after cheating, age gaps, and dating app no-nos. 

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Timestamps

00:00 - Intro

01:07 - Interview begins

02:11 - Her new relationship 

03:54 - Deciding to settle down in the suburbs

05:19 - How a healthy partner makes having kids more desirable

09:25 - Choosing the parent to your kid vs. choosing a husband

14:10 - Dating someone who is divorced

16:20 - What do you put in your dating app bio?!?!

19:09 - Age gaps in relationships

22:41 - "You can't create a timeline for your life" 

24:48 - Teasing the next episode!

[SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS] - Welcome to SUMMER THURSDAYS! These will be bi-monthly episodes through May, June, and July where we talk about our summer adventures, dating escapades, relationships, and OF COURSE, giving you some BTS info about the upcoming main episodes this Fall. Here's what Abby's gabbing about this week:

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(00:00)  Hi Hello What's Up

(01:08) - Summer Thursdays Intro

(01:26) - Finding a boat for the summer

(02:23) - When your date asks you to hang on their birthday....?

(04:26) - "The drink of the summer"

(06:39) - Abby waxed for the first time and it was awful

(08:12) - Anecdote about Abby's friend's nightmare tinder date

(11:24) - "Trendy" sunglasses are ugly

(14:23) - Auditioning people for your friend group

(16:11) - Having different taste in men w/ your friends

(18:38) - Kennedy's upcoming trip to Barcelona

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(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS): I love an open-shut case. You know, the people that are more than happy to come on and unload all the juicy details of their break ups. But most the time, people are (understandably) not interested at all. I'm reading some of my favorite submissions I've been DYING to share...but unfortunately got no answers to. Tentative Season 2 Premiere (may come earlier yoohhoooo): August 2nd.FEEDBACK FORM: https://forms.gle/PNVzYgjCgRsa1rdX8BREAK UPS/FRIENDSHIP SPLITS FORM: https://forms.gle/AZyEA8npd6XxbbpX6FOLLOW ME???TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=enIG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/?hl=enSPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaTimestamps(01:01) - Abby and Kennedy open the episode(02:05) - When they broke up after moving to Costa Rica...(04:54) - When she got married like four times....(07:07) - When an influencer went MIA after having her baby....(10:34) - When she converted for him....(12:26) - When their photographer chose sides....(14:05) - When she left him after her cancer diagnosis....(15:08) - When he dated her best friend after she passed away....(16:35) - When she came out right before the wedding....(18:30) - When she threw the promise ring out the car window....(21:02) - Closing remarks

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS): What's it like to date multiple pro athletes and have it go TERRIBLY wrong? Abby's friend from this week's main episode hopped on a Zoom call to talk about an unfortunate break up that ended up with both of her exes on the same team (literally).FEEDBACK FORM: https://forms.gle/U9ANq5P9S58Ug2PHABREAK UP STORY FORM: https://forms.gle/b1xoCZMFLrJBcoVf6Timestamps(00:50) - Interview Begins(02:10) - How she met "Troy"(03:35) - Getting interrogated about her intentions(05:04) - His red flags(06:04) - "Was I just with him for his job?" (10:09) - "Did he put hot sauce in his condoms after?"(13:49) - "This is when I started thinking I had daddy issues."(14:24) - She meets her second pro-athlete ex (16:11) - Her ex and her other ex become teammates(17:56) - The most difficult part of the break up(s)/the aftermath(23:11) - Struggles with moving on(26:15) - The best part of a break up(27:53) - Closing announcements

(EPISODE DROPS APRIL 19TH): I love an open-shut case. You know, the people that are more than happy to come on and unload all the juicy details of their break ups. But most the time, people are (understandably) not interested at all. I'm reading some of my favorite submissions I've been DYING to share...but unfortunately got no answers to. The episode drops on April 19th!

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS/CW): This is the legend of "Cryin' Bryan". a cautionary tale for anyone who has met someone who nearly ruined their life on a dating app. Cryin' Bryan lives true to his name and cries at every wrong turn in this story. It's a story where you'll laugh and, dare I say it, even cry a little bit. LIKE THE PODCAST? DON'T LIKE IT? GIVE ME YOUR FEEDBACK: https://forms.gle/UeNGweq5xfDS18zk9BREAK UP STORY SUBMISSIONS: https://forms.gle/ZQWe5Dt6pKNTtNir5 Timestamps(01:03): This week's story(02:49): The interview begins/how they met(03:48): The first sign something was a bit off(05:23): The first major red flag(08:06): Why did she think she was in love with him?(10:27): The second major red flag(15:18): The last straw(18:12): How he tried to prevent her from breaking up with him(23:06): Things she suppressed in the beginning of the relationship(25:25): What she would do differently(27:19): How he's doing(28:37): Advice she'd give to someone in a similar situation(30:25): Closing announcementsThink someone you know is considering suicide? Here are some signs to look out for: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/warning-signs-of-suicideWays you can be supportive:https://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/September-2020/My-Friend-Is-Suicidal-What-Should-I-DoPodcast Recs: https://zerosuicide.edc.org/taxonomy/term/132National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255'ORDial 2-1-1 or text HELLO to 211904 CW: Suicide, Substance Abuse

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - It's not uncommon for people to ignore Abby's DMs when she's like "hey do you wanna come spill your guts on this pod", but it is SO annoying when you're dying to know about their break up. Kennedy joins Abby for this episode to talk about the person Abby is dying to interview for the podcast. Kennedy also tells us about the ~messy~ split she had with Godly Golfer (and how it lost her a lot of money...) and Abby talks about the not-so-meet-cute she had this week with a Duke of Hastings look-a-like!MAIN EPISODE SUBMISSION FORM! SUBMIT YOUR BREAK UP, SUBMIT A COUPLE YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT! Everything is anonymous!!!!! I just need your name/info so I can contact you: https://forms.gle/XTB3N3tnsPa4yFL48Timestamps(01:02) - How & Why Kennedy and Godly Golfer Broke Up {Listen to Mini Ep. 14 for context}(03:45) - The one person we WISH would come on a main episode(05:18) - Abby and Kennedy's Summer Plans/Summer Episodes(07:05) - Abby's new Hinge love interest(10:08) - The least cute place Abby had a meet cuteFollow Abby On IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Follow Abby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=en

(SCROLL FOR CW/TIMESTAMPS): This week's episode is about the destination wedding from hell. We're taking you through a break up from a couple that was together twelve years and called things off the night before the wedding....but the relationship didn't end there. Tune in to hear about both weddings, the double phone deception, and all the trauma in between!SUBMIT A COUPLE/YOUR OWN BREAK UP STORY: https://forms.gle/8jqNpMXKMyKJeDZc8Timestamps(01:00) - Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission(03:50) - Interview begins/how the couple got together(04:50) - Red flags that showed up in the beginning of the relationship(05:27) - "That was the point he really started to spiral"(07:09) - "We secretly got married"(08:34) - Why she wanted to stay in this toxic relationship(11:27) - Their destination wedding in Mexico (15:30) -The aftermath of the destination wedding(16:34) - The secret he'd been keeping from her for years(18:37) - The other woman comes into the story....(21:43) - When things started to unravel with him, her, and the other woman(25:59) - The final straw(27:15) - The aftermath of the divorce(28:52) - Dating for the first time in her adult life(30:34) - Talking to her therapist about being "Codependent" in a relationship(32:50) - How she met her fiancee(34:11) - The hard part about being in a healthy relationship after a toxic one(36:48) - "When you know you know"(40:09) - The one thing you should ask yourself before getting married(41:51) - Advice she'd give to people listening(42:53) - Closing AnnouncementsFollow Abby On IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Follow Abby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=enCW: Abuse, Mental illness, Suicide, Substance Abuse

EPISODE DROPS APRIL 12TH: This is the legend of "Cryin' Bryan". a cautionary tale for anyone who has met someone who nearly ruined their life on a dating app. Cryin' Bryan lives true to his name and cries at every wrong turn in this story. It's a story where you'll laugh and, dare I say it, even cry a little bit. Hear this Tinder Tale on April 12th!

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - The only man on TikTok who should be allowed to have a mic (AKA coworker Justin) stopped by the podcast to talk about love bombing. In this brief conversation, we scratch the surface on love bombing. What is it? Why do people do it? And did coworker Justin love bomb his wife?!?!SUBMIT YOUR OWN BREAK UP STORY OR A COUPLE YOU WANT ME TO DM: https://forms.gle/jVUKsu3q4Rb1SMpZ8Timestamps: (01:36) - Defining Love Bombing(02:56) - The immature love-bomber (09:12) - Narcissistic and abusive love-bombers(13:40) - When Coworker Justin thought it was appropriate to say I Love You to his wife(16:54) - Closing announcementsFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy) Follow Coworker Justin on IG or TikTok (@justincontheair)

EPISODE DROPS APRIL FIFTH: Next week's episode is about the destination wedding from hell. We're taking you through a break up from a couple that was together twelve years and called things off the night before the wedding. So what went wrong here? Find out next week on April 5th!

(SCROLL FOR CW/TIMESTAMPS) - Do you remember 'that couple' that got hitched right after high school? Everyone knows at lease one- maybe three or four if you're in the south. This episode looks into High School sweethearts with a divorce from hell. This episode tackles purity culture, domestic violence, and evennnn a little witchcraft.Submission form: https://forms.gle/hR4Q44tHb7LSH3CA6Timestamps(00:55) - Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission(06:15) - Interview begins/how they met(08:12) - The first red flags start to show/purity culture(10:10) - The main reason she decided to marry him(10:44) - More red flags start to show(15:18) - The beginning of their married life(22:34) - When she started to think about breaking things off(24:52) - She decides to leave the marriage(26:00) - The day she left her husband(33:52) - The aftermath of the divorce(35:51) - Her new relationship(37:50) - Recovering from toxic purity culture(39:25) - Going from Christianity to witchcraft(41:02) - Advice for women experiencing domestic abuse(43:36) - Warning to women who are dating/in unhealthy relationships(45:31) - Closing announcementsNotable Resources: Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/National Mental Health Hotline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helplineSuggested Podcasts: "I'm a Survivor", "Mental Illness Happy Hour", "Mental Health Hope and Recovery",.CW: Abuse, Self-harm, Eating disorders, Mental illness, Alcoholism

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Every relationship is going to have a different pace...but what are some good guideline for not giving too much too soon. How many dates is too much with someone new? When should you label things? Is it a bad idea to talk about your ex?? Abby & Lexi talk about alllllll that and more on this week's minisode.ANONYMOUS SUBMISSIONS FOR THE POD: https://forms.gle/QhGDefK6kqsTfC3V6 Timestamps(00:58) - Setting the pace of a new relationship(02:14) - Choosing a form of communication (text/snap) with a Dating App Match(03:41) - Is there a max amount of dates you should do in one week?(04:52) - When to put a label on a new relationship(08:00) - When to have the "ex talk"(10:47) - Should you ever reveal your body count?(13:12) - Are you obligated to define your sexuality to the person your dating? (14:33) - Gender Roles in Same-Sex Relationships

EPISODE DROPS MARCH 29TH: Do you remember 'that couple' that got hitched right after high school? Everyone knows at lease one- maybe three or four if you're in the south. This episode looks into High School sweethearts with a divorce from hell. This episode tackles purity culture, domestic violence, and evennnn a little witchcraft. The episode comes out on March 29th!

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - It's a jarring thing to look back on your relationship and wonder if you were really dating them, or the parts of themselves they wanted you to see. After nearly a decade together, it took a break up to her ex to see the parts of himself he was hiding from her. Are you obligated to tell your partner EVERYTHING? That's the question we're answering on next week's episode. This week's guest tells the story of her eight-year-long relationship and why it ended "out of nowhere". CURIOUS ABOUT A BREAK UP? HAVE A WILD BREAK UP STORY? SUBMIT IT HERE: https://forms.gle/NmJ664uCJfNQvb8A7Timestamps(00:42) - Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission(04:16) - Interview begins/How They Met (07:42) - How her ex's acting program influenced his wrongdoings(10:19) - The secret he was hiding from her(13:25) - The one thing she couldn't get over at the end of the relationship(15:18) - When he tried to get back with her(17:35) - The one question she wishes she could ask him now(19:12) - Red flags she noticed now that the relationship is over(20:34) - Learning to trust people in new relationships/enjoying being single(21:51) - Advice she has for people in similar situationsFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Can you measure love...that's the question we're tackling this week with Abby's friend Kennedy. SUBMIT A COUPLE/YOUR OWN BREAK UP STORY: https://forms.gle/MMnAwPAVRfuPSKTM7Topics on This Episode.1) Kennedy is dating multiple people at once...can you "measure" those feelings? Or should she dump them until she finds someone who she doesn't feel like she needs to evaluate her feelings with.2) The new Bachelorette Gabby told this year's Bachelor she felt like she was in a competition and you "Can't measure love between [the final three]". Is dating basically a competition? Are we just comparing our feelings with all these people until we just choose one?3) In relationships, just because you were with someone for years doesn't mean your feelings were stronger than a shorter relationship. If you're going to "measure" those feelings, just because the relationship was quicker, doesn't mean the love wasn't there. In Eat Pray FML, we got to see how devastating a short break up was. We compared breaking up in long-term vs short-term relationships and why we think breaking up with your situationship is more devastating. TIMESTAMPS(01:34) - Update on Kennedy's 3 internet boyfriends(11:28) - The Bachelor and Measuring Love Between The Final 3 Girls(14:35) - Eat Pray FML and break ups w/ the guys you never dated(18:45) - Eat Pray FML and Solo Travel(19:53) - Abby and Kennedy's Upcoming Europe Trip (Red light District?!?!)Follow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)

EPISODE DROPS MARCH 22ND- It's a jarring thing to look back on your relationship and wonder if you were really dating them, or the parts of themselves they wanted you to see. After nearly a decade together, it took a break up to her ex to see the parts of himself he was hiding from her. Are you obligated to tell your partner EVERYTHING? That's the question we're answering on next week's episode. Next week's guest tells the story of her eight-year-long relationship and why it ended "out of nowhere". Tune in next week on March 22nd!

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) When your perfect boyfriend turns into your perfect fiancé, you expect him to turn into the perfect husband. Well, if you're reading this, you'll know somethings going to go wrong here. This woman's husband was involved in a deception that didn't just pull out the rug from under her, it pulled out the whole damn floor. Tune in to hear about a break up that kicked off a wild healing journey and inspired an entire book!SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY (YOURS, SOMEONE ELSES, OR ONE YOU WANT ME TO LOOK INTO): https://forms.gle/MMwGezrMHvL3D6XB6EAT PRAY FML (The Book): https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Pray-FML-Gabrielle-Stone/dp/1733963707Timestamps(01:10) - Abby explains how she found this break up(02:20) - Interview Begins/How the relationship started(06:52) - "Dating an actor isn't easy"/Problems start to show(10:28) - The problems that started once they got married(14:24) - Her ex's relationship with a 19 y/o girl(17:11) - The info that came out affair the book's success(20:22) - How she discovered he was cheating(22:44) - Why did he want to be in two relationships at once?(27:28) - The relationship she started 2 weeks after leaving her ex(30:03) - Lessons from her healing trip to Europe(33:03) - Tips for solo travel(38:53) - Tips for staying in hostels (40:55) - Advice for people going through rough heartbreaksFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)Follow Gabrielle Stone on IG (@gabriellestone) or TikTok (@gabrielle_stone)

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - This week's main episode tackled ~religious manipulation~ in the Christian Church. Abby brought on some of her Christian friends to hash out what it's like dating in the Christian Church. *spoiler alert* it do be kinda weird.Eavesdrop on this conversation between three single believers who are just tryna get that ring by spring...ya know??Timestamps(01:25) - Random banter (03:04) - Guest intros(03:35) - What's something non-Christians should know about dating in the church?(05:16) - Best/Worst Advice the Church Says about Dating(006:58) - "The Bachelor" and Sex (aka Clayton v. Susie) (07:35) - What does "guard your heart" even mean?(10:14) - Something that should change about dating in the Christian Church(15:02) - HOW DID MICHAELA'S DATE GO?!!? (and closing announcements)Submit a couple for us to investigate/your own story: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editFollow Abby on IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Follow Abby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=en (Kennedy's ex bf reported me AGAIN and I'm low key banned rip me)IYKYK Dating Mixers for single Christians: https://www.instagram.com/iykyk.dating/

EPISODE DROPS MARCH 15TH: When your perfect boyfriend turns into your perfect fiance, you expect him to turn into the perfect husband. Well, if you're reading this, you'll know somethings going to go wrong here. This woman's husband was involved in a deception that didn't just pull out the rug from under her, it pulled out the whole damn floor. Tune in next week to hear about a break up that kicked off a wild healing journey and inspired an entire book! The episode drops March 15th.

(Scroll for timestamps) - When the 'seemingly perfect Christian couple' breaks up out of nowhere...you gotta wonder what went wrong. I mean, one week you're picking out engagement rings and celebrating three years together...the next...you're breaking up. This episode unpacks how faith impacts relationships, religious manipulation...and do you need to be attracted to your significant other?!?! Timestamps(00:47) - Abby reads the submission(02:33) - Interview Begins(03:18) - How they met(04:59) - Why she decided to date him(05:36) - How he manipulated her with religion (07:07) - A common problem in Christian circles(09:12) - "Pray the problem away"(10:40) - Gender Role manipulation in the church(13:51) - Why she finally decided to break up with him(16:27) - The tough break up conversation(18:34) - "Love is not about feeling in love it's about being in love"(19:26) - Advice for people with persistent exes(21:37) - Advice for people in manipulative relationships(25:46) - Closing announcements/mini episode/trailerAbby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphyAbby's Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczraba

(Scroll for Timestamps): Abby's friend Kennedy is jumping back into the dating game and has like 7 boyfriends now? She joined Abby to talk about some icks from first dates and the early stages of these new relationships. Tune in to hear about one of the guys confronting Kennedy about the TikTok Abby made about him, another guy reading her a BEDTIME STORY, and more....Timestamps(01:37) - Introduction of the two of the guys Kennedy is Dating(02:44) - YoungJFK Saw Abby's TikTok About Him(04:29) - Abby made a second TikTok about YoungJFK(05:33) - The thing he did on the second date that gave Kennedy the ick(06:46) - Kennedy didn't read between the lines on this kind of date....(09:12) - The pro athlete Kennedy is also dating(12:45) - Kennedy said THIS to the pro athlete and now he's not talking to her(13:47) - She almost dumped him because of THIS(15:27) - He wants them to read this book together...?SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)

EPISODE DROPS MARCH 8TH: When the 'seemingly perfect Christian couple' breaks up out of nowhere...you gotta wonder what went wrong. I mean, one week you're picking out engagement rings and celebrating three years together...the next...you're breaking up. This episode unpacks how faith impacts relationships, religious manipulation...and do you need to be attracted to your significant other?!?! The episode comes out March 8th!

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Your friends are going to take sides if your relationship doesn't end well- but what if your story isn't the one they believe? Next week we're talking about what happens when you become the villain in someone else's story. Our interviewee got kicked out of her friend group after her friend's got half the story from her ex. Now they (and the rest of the internet) are going to hear her side.Timestamps(01:08) - Abby and CoWorker Justin read the submission(02:58) - Interview Begins(03:53) - How being closeted affected their relationship(04:52) - How moving to Nashville/moving in together affected their relationship(05:37) - The demise of the relationship(07:10) - She breaks up with her GF(07:29) - "Why do I want to break up with my girlfriend?"(08:34) - The mistake that made their relationship blow up(10:11) - Her ex confronts her about her private journal entries(14:21) - Her ex confronts her and her wife at a Pride event(17:13) - The aftermath of the relationship(20:01) - Advice for people who aren't 100% sold on their relationships(22:37) - Closing announcementsSUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/edit

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - This week's main episode was all about cheating...and we never got answers as to WHY that person cheated. So, of course, Abby turned to the Google to get more details on cheating. She found some articles from psychology resources that explained the top reasons why people admitted to cheating. AND Lexi joined in on the conversation to talk about her personal experience with infidelity.Timestamps(02:08) - The three types of people most likely to cheat(03:14) - Reason #1 Why People Cheat(03:48) - Reason #2 Why People Cheat(04:33) - Reason #3 Why People Cheat(05:56) - Reason #4 Why People Cheat(07:15) - Reason #5 Why People Cheat(08:52) - Reason #6 Why People Cheat(09:02) - Reason #7 Why People Cheat(11:01) - Reason #8 Why People Cheat(12:32) - Lexi's experience getting cheated on(14:28) - Should cheating ALWAYS end a relationship?(15:46) - Are there worse forms of cheating?(17:41) - What do you do if your partner cheats?(21:39) - What to do if you cheated on your partner(22:57) - Once a cheater always a cheater?Follow Abby on IG @abbymariemurphy or TikTok @theabbymurphy!Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczraba

EPISODE DROPS MARCH 1ST: Your friends are going to take sides if your relationship doesn't end well- but what if your story isn't the one they believe? Next week we're talking about what happens when you become the villain in someone else's story. Our interviewee got kicked out of her friend group after her friend's got half the story from her ex. Now they (and the rest of the internet) are going to hear her side. The episode drops on March 1st!

When you've been with someone for nearly a decade, you'd assume you'd know them pretty well. The last thing you expect to feel on your honeymoon is: "I've married a complete stranger." Tune in to find out why things went wrong immediately after signing their marriage certificate.Timestamps(01:04) - Abby and Lexi read the submission(03:54) - Interview begins/how they met(04:36) - When things started going wrong....(05:57) - Why the relationship started getting rocky(06:45) - When his behavior started looking suspicious(09:53) - She finally confronts him(10:59) - She finally tells her family what's going on(12:07) - When she "ambushed" him(14:02) - "Why did you do it?!"(15:04) - How did friends/family react?(16:33) - "I didn't want to get divorced...but we had to."(19:10) - The aftermath of the relationship(23:08) - "Why do you think he chose her over you?"(25:25) - "Why do you think he proposed to you?"(28:10) - "If you could ask him one thing and get the truth, what would you ask?"(30:00) - Her advice to people in similar relationshipsFollow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) or IG (@abbymariemurphy) and check out her Spotify Break Up Playlists here: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaSUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/edit

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Co-worker Justin hopped on the podcast to talk all about toxic relationships. Abby brought five real relationship stories to read and discuss. Do any of these stories sound like something you've been through? Feel free to join in on the conversation on TikTok (@theabbymurphy even though she is shadowbanned!!!! rn) or on her IG (@theabbymurphy). Timestamps(00:57) - I didn't like how my dating app match started our conversation.(03:59) - Is my boyfriend gaslighting me? (06:29) - My husband gets angry time when I mention having kids. (10:24) - Am I wrong for blocking my ex-wife? (14:49) - My BF filmed us having sex w/o my consent. What do I do?

(SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS/TIMESTAMPS) - Being in a "secret" engagement should probably be the first sign you're in a toxic relationship, but when you're crazy in love...crazy just seems like love. Next week's episode has something everyone can relate to. Whether you were in a toxic relationship or just had to hear about one from a friend, we dive into the reasons why people stay in relationships that just aren't good for them.I'm verified on Spotify!!! Check out my Break Up Playlists Here: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaTimestamps(01:38) - Abby and Coworker Justin Read the Submission(04:56) - Interview Begins/How they met(06:02) - The "proposal" story no one knows about(08:37) - When things started to go south....(10:46) - "I've never cheated on you but...."(11:59) - The texts that tipped her off that something was up(15:03) - When the relationship (almost) ended completely(16:13) - The humiliating public argument(17:31) - The couple tries to work things out(19:14) - Why she chose to stay in the relationship(22:22) - If she could go back and do things differently....(24:43) - The hardest thing about ending this relationship(28:23) - Closing announcementsResources:The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.orgNational Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 www.loveisrespect.orgThe Love and Abuse Podcast: https://loveandabuse.com/the-podcast/How To Recognize Emotional Abuse: https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuseSteps to help you leave an abusive relationship: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htmSUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editCW: abuse

EPISODE DROPS FEBRUARY 22ND - When you've been with someone for nearly a decade, you'd assume you'd know them pretty well. The last thing you expect to feel on your honeymoon is: "I've married a complete stranger." Tune in next week to find out why things went wrong immediately after signing their marriage certificate. The episode drops on Feb. 22nd!

EPISODE DROPS FEBRUARY 15TH - Being in a "secret" engagement should probably be the first sign you're in a toxic relationship, but when you're crazy in love...crazy just seems like love. Next week's episode has something everyone can relate to. Whether you were in a toxic relationship or just had to hear about one from a friend, we dive into the reasons why people stay in relationships that just aren't good for them. The episode drops on February 15th!

(Scroll for timestamps) Abby & Lexi are convinced - this is what ALL girls need to do for their friends on their first dates. This weekend, they followed their friend Kennedy to a bar where she was meeting a new guy for drinks. Not only was it wildly entertaining to watch....they got to look out for her in an environment where things could have gone south REAL QUICK. Tune in to hear what it was like observing their friend's date!Timestamps(00:42) - Setting Up The Date(01:37) - Why this date was so nerve wracking(02:22) - When Abby got to the bar(03:04) - "Young JFK" gets to the bar(04:42) - The date begins(05:37) - When Abby almost got caught by "Young JFK"(07:13) - Why watching the date was a great idea(08:30) - How the date ended(09:07) - Would guys mind girls doing this?(12:18) - "January Gloom" on dating apps(14:51) - The guy Abby and Kennedy have both met on the apps

(Scroll for episode timestamps) - If I told you this couple got married before dating...you'd assume this story would take place in a super conservative community. That's not where next weeks episode is centered. The Break Up Break Down is going global!! When our interviewee got divorced in another country, she and her new boo had to find a way to make their relationship work. So they took it to the courthouse! Tune in to find out if getting hitched before truly getting to date actually works....Timestamps(00:43) - Abby reads this week's submission(02:07) - Interview begins(04:00) - Her first marriage to her husband(04:56) - She meets her (soon to be) wife(06:09) - The decision to leave her husband(08:05) - The second wedding(09:05) - The decision to move to Greece(10:00) - When things start to go downhill(10:39) - Her move to hometown in Canada(13:10) - Buying a house with her wife in Canada(14:13) - When things got worse between them(15:04) - The "bagel war" Canada never saw coming(15:52) - The last straw for them(17:51) - Why they'll never get back together(21:34) - Closing announcements

Scroll to see episode timestamps - If you've have a dating app for more than two seconds, you've had some kind of weird experience. From those Hinge voice prompts that make you cringe, to dates that leave you wanting to stay single for the next DECADE, we talk about it all this episode. Here's what you'll here in the next 25ish mins....(00:40) - Abby's weird dating turn off(01:50) - This strange voice memo on some guy's Hinge Profile(03:15) - Choosing what to write on your profile(03:35) - Should you put disclaimer in your profile?(07:30) - Snapchat or Phone #?(09:36) - Our most "liked" prompts on Hinge(11:11) - What women are looking for vs. men are looking for(12:09) - Lexi's turn offs when looking for women on dating apps(12:46) - Abby's turn off on a man's dating app(15:17) - Lexi's worst Tinder date(16:19) - Abby talks about "the vibe check" theory(18:34) - Seeing people you know on dating apps(21:05) - How dating is different from when our parent's were single(21:33) - Who should make the first move?(22:35) - Paying for dating apps

EPISODE DROPS FEB. 1- If I told you this couple got married before dating...you'd assume this story would take place in a super conservative community. That's not where next weeks episode is centered. The Break Up Break Down is going global!! When our interviewee got divorced in another country, she and her new boo had to find a way to make their relationship work. So they took it to the courthouse! Tune in next week to find out if getting hitched before truly getting to date actually works....

SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS - Sex, drugs, and EDM. That about sums up this week's break up. Abby probably said "How can it get WORSE?!" about 1000 times during the recording of this episode. It's like 5 break up stories in one. When our interviewee met her (now ex) BF of six years at an EDM concert...it was love at first insert electronic dance sound here. When he asks her to pack up and move away from all her friends and family, his red flags start waving like it's the freakin Fourth of July.Episode Timestamps(01:02) Abby and Lexi read this week's submission(02:52) How the interviewee met her ex(04:13) When things started to go wrong (their move to Nashville, TN)(04:54) The universe sent her a sign... (reminds us of our Episode 3!)(06:08) The first red flag(07:44) The first strike against her ex(08:37) The first time she confronted him(09:55) What happened after that confrontation(10:36) She thought this was a turning point....(13:25) The second strike against her ex(18:56) Why she stayed with him(19:41) The third strike against her ex(20:53) The doctors visit that changed her life(22:03) How he responded to the results from her doctor(25:58) Introduction of "the other woman"(28:28) When she was finally done(30:34) When she confronted "the other woman"(32:02) The messed up news about her ex and "the other woman"(35:03) What she would tell others who feel trapped in relationships(35:20) The moment she wished she would have left(36:03) Her new relationship(38:18) End of Story/AnnouncementsCW: Abuse, animal death, Suicide

(See episode timestamps below) If you're still out dating and your friends have found the person they're going to (theoretically) be with forever...it sucks. The dynamic of your friendship is going to change. It's a natural part of life, but it doesn't make it any less unsettling. In this mini episode Abby and her friend Kennedy are back to talk about: 01:41 - Comments on Abby's TikTok video that started this discussion.01:56 - The hardest parts of going to your first wedding for a close friend.02:43 - When your friends grow up before you do. 03:18 - The worst part of being a bridesmaid that nobody talks about. 04:20 - When you don't click with your friend's significant other.06:52 - When your friends start having kids.08:38 - Do men go through this when their friends get married?11:18 - The book all of TikTok recommended for this topic.1334 - Serious college relationships are not the same as serious "adult" relationships.15:18 - The importance of community in relationships.

EPISODE DROPS JANUARY 25TH - Abby probably said "How can it get WORSE?!" about 1000 times during the recording of this episode. It's like 5 break up stories in one. When our interviewee met her (now ex) BF of six years at an EDM concert...it was love at first *insert electronic dance sound here*. When he asks her to pack up and move away from all her friends and family, his red flags start waving like it's the freakin Fourth of July. Tune in next week to hear this crazy story (that has a happy ending. Yay!)

Hey Upper East Siders- I mean...Break Up Break Down listeners. This is an episode that puts the new Gossip Girl reboot to shame (not that that was hard to do...). When an anonymous number tells her everything her skeezy ex-boyfriend did towards the end of the relationship...it only makes things messier. Find out what had her ex crying in the car with her after those cryptic texts got sent.TIME STAMPS01:01 - Abby and Lexi read this week's submission03:28 - Start of the Interview04:27 - When she knew something was wrong.05:35 - When she contacted "the other woman"06:45 - The first bit of evidence against him07:15- The mysterious texter let's her know the full story08:48- When his mom got involved lol09:02 - She finally confronts him in person11:45- The downfall for the "other woman"14:06 - Lessons learned from the relationship14:45 - First inkling that their relationship would fail17:45 - Discussing why men tend to cheat20:58 - Trends w/ cheaters21:47 - Importance of loving yourself first

Join Abby and Ilinca (@InkyToks) for relationship book club! Ilinca has read all the hottest dating advice books like "Why Men Love B*tches", "Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man", Get The Guy, and more! Join them for a quick convo about the advice they loved and hated from these books (and which are actually worth reading!)

There's two sides to every story - and this is the side exposes the harsh truth. When an influencer popped on social media to share how she met her boyfriend, she didn't share the other half of the story. Yeah, The cheating half. Find out how our interviewee discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her from his new girlfriend's social media videos.01:14 - Abby and Co-Worker Justin Read the Submission03:57- How she and her ex got together.05:27- The actual break up07:08- When social media creeping shows the truth....11:03- When things (probably) went south for him.17:25- The hard thing about moving on from High School Relationships.19:52- The first step forward after her break up.20:51- The second break up that only made things worse.20:04- Lingering effects of cheating.26:43- What she would tell her younger self during her break up.Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) and IG (@abbymariemurphy) for episode updates and ~relatable girl~ content.

EPISODE DROPS JANUARY 18TH - Hey Upper East Siders- I mean...Break Up Break Down listeners. This is an episode that puts the new Gossip Girl reboot to shame (not that that was hard to do...). When an anonymous number tells her everything her skeezy ex-boyfriend did towards the end of the relationship...it only makes things messier. Find out what had her ex crying in the car with her after those cryptics texts got sent. Episode drops Jan. 18th!

Scroll for content warnings - Abby's friend Kennedy jumped on the podcast to share the WEIRDEST toxic relationship she's ever been in and the reason she had to get a restraining order on her first love. It's a quick chat about manipulation in relationships and why it's such a common thing for young women to go through.CW: Self-harm and suicide

SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNING- A little bit of jealousy in relationships can be cute, but when it leads your husband to full on STALK YOU? Yeah, it's giving Joe Goldberg. This episode dives into a divorce that nearly put the crime in this True Love, True Crime story. Interview Time Stamps:(00:55) - Abby & Coworker Justin read the break up submission.(04:30) - How They Got Together(05:10) - When she noticed their relationship wasn't normal...(07:45) - The conversation that changed everything.(09:50) - The scariest part of their break up.(16:40) - When she finally left him. (17:10) - Aftershocks of the divorce.(18:43) - How he's doing now...(21:50) - Things she's worked through after an abusive relationship.(24:20) What she would tell other girls in abusive relationships.Resources: Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/Suicide Hotline: 800-273-8255National Mental Health Hotline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helplineSuggested Podcasts: "I'm a Survivor", "Mental Illness Happy Hour", "Mental Health Hope and Recovery",.CW: domestic violence, abuse, mental health, self harm

EPISODE DROPS JANUARY 11TH - There's two sides to every story - and this is the side exposes the harsh truth. When an influencer popped on social media to share how she met her boyfriend, she didn't share the other half of the story. Yeah, The cheating half. Find out next week how our interviewee discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her from his new girlfriend's social media videos.

SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNING - EPISODE DROPS JANUARY 4TH: A little bit of jealousy in relationships can be cute, but when it leads your husband to full on STALK YOU? Yeah, it's giving Joe Goldberg. Next week's episode dives into a divorce that nearly put the crime in this True Love, True Crime story. Check back next Tuesday for the full episode!CW: domestic violence, abuse, mental health.

TikTok?s So My Moms A Therapist Joins Abby for this week?s ?mini? episode! Look, I love this time of year as much as the next person, but you're lying if you don't think that the holidays bring out the worst in us sometimes. Lisa, @SoMyMomsATherapist from TikTok, came on to answer questions sent in by you!Listen to:The most common problems people face during the holidays (00:58)How do I handle the holidays as an introvert? (02:09)My family keeps joking about my singleness. I keep telling them to stop, but they don't. What do I do? (06:21)I feel extra lonely this time of year. How do I keep myself from running back to an ex or an old hookup? (10:20)All my siblings/cousins are in relationships and I'm not. How do I handle being around them at gatherings? (13:36)I'm meeting my partner's parents for the first time-and I already know their mom doesn't like me. How do I prepare for this tense situation? (17:01)Is it a bad idea to break off a relationship during the holidays? (20:22)Podcast Announcements (20:54)Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) or IG (@abbymariemurphy) to keep up with her and the podcast!Also check out Lisa on socials (@somymomsatherapist) and listen to her new podcast for more therapy from her perspective.

"I just don't see a future with us," is the worst thing your new spouse could say to you only weeks after you get married. Seriously- when you're crying at the altar, visibly in love, a couple months before ending your marriage- what changed? Listen to: The break up submission from a listener (01:49)How she met her ex-wife (02:51)When the relationship started to get hard (04:45)Some of their major issues (05:45)The moment that changed their entire relationship (07:48)When the divorce got petty (12:48)Why she thinks the relationship went south (16:00)The hardest part about divorce (21:19)Announcements for upcoming episodes (21:44)