Being in a healthy long-term relationship is a beautiful thing. But sometimes, after things are comfortable and consistent, we can start to lose the excitement towards the sex life we share with our partner. This is often when people start questioning if the relationship is as good as they thought it was. It can be hurtful to not feel wanted and frustrating to see this spiral. But instead of assuming that a change in the sex life means the relationship has to end, why don't we talk about some alternatives. In this episode I give you an understanding of WHY this can happen and WHAT you can do to spice things up and get that feeling of novelty back.

Resources:

Where Do Kinks Come From?

Frenchie - My fave condoms (hyaluronic acid ones are amazing) & lube!

Dame - great toy selection (US & Canada)

Max Black - all things sexual wellness (Australia)

Normal - Australia, US, UK, Canada, New Zealand

Joining us in this episode is Moonli, a Hormone and Period Nutritionist (how cool is that)?? She is teaching us all about eating for the different phases of your menstrual cycle, why food is such a key factor in balancing our hormones and how to implement this in a way that isn't overwhelming. She also answers ALL of the questions you guys sent in: 

What even happens to my hormones in my menstrual cycle?

What if I have PCOS/Endometriosis/irregular periods? Is it different? Can I still sync my cycle?

What if I'm on the birth control pill/the hormonal or copper IUD? Does that change things?

Are HIIT workouts wrecking my hormones?

Does my food have to be organic? Which foods can I eat to get rid of cramps/acne/bloating? 

Also, is bloating something to worry about? 

And more!

This girl is a powerhouse and you guys are going to LOVE this episode.

Find Alyssa:

on Tiktok

on Instagram

Find Moonli:

on Instagram

Learn about Moonli?s Cycle Syncing Course

Sign Up for Moonli?s Course with a 5% OFF Discount

Dirty Dozen List (Foods to Buy Organic)

Books/Apps:

In The Flo - Alissa Vitti

Woman Code - Alissa Vitti

Beyond the Pill - Dr. Jolene Brighton

The Period Repair Manual - Lara Briden

Taking Charge of Your Fertility - Tony Weschler

Our Hormones, Our Health - Susanne Esche-Belke and Suzann Kirschner-Brouns

Read Your Body (app)

Flo (app)

In this episode, we have the opportunity to hear from Blue; a queer, non-binary, HILARIOUS friend of mine. Blue teaches breathe work/meditation, AND works with an organization called The Man Cave that helps facilitate conversations with young men to help them deconstruct and reform their ideas around masculinity. Blue has an inspiring story of healing, challenging their beliefs and becoming their most authentic self. Blue challenges me to be a better human on a regular basis so I KNOW this episode is going to fuel you with joy, excitement for life and the permission to explore everything life has to offer. 

Find Alyssa:

on Tiktok

on Instagram

Find Blue:

on Instagram

Resources:

Alok on Instagram (gender non-conforming reference mentioned by Blue)

Joining us today, we have Roxanne Nai'a who is a Science Communicator and Social Psychology Doctoral Student who studies processes that impact women's experiences in the world; things like sexism, objectification of women and sexualization. In this episode we get to hear what it's like to be a women  working in science and all about the incredible studies she has done (even Cardi B had something to say about it)! We also hear about her journey with the birth control pill, the IUD and how she travelled to Canada for an IUD that wasn't available to her in the USA (if you are someone who menstruates in the USA, you NEED to hear this)! This episode is packed with empowering knowledge and the kick of feminism that we all need. 

Find Alyssa:

on Tiktok

on Instagram

Find Roxanne:

on Tiktok

on Instagram

Resources:

Racial Disparities in Postpartum Pain Management

Gender Bias in Pain

You probably don't think of yourself as a "judgemental person", when truly, most of us are (in one way or another). In this episode, I walk you through changing your mindset, so that you may live a life that aligns with YOUR values and allows others in your life to do the same. When we can adjust our automatic judgemental thoughts about others, we have better relationships, more confidence in ourselves and live happier lives. Challenge yourself today with this episode!

This episode is here to challenge your thinking around anxiety and give you the tools to help you get through the fears you have about trying new things or progressing in life, whether that be in your job, in relationships or just simply putting yourself out there. A little bit of nerves are normal when we're trying something new but if it's starting to feel heavy and they're stopping you from creating the life that you want, it's time to pause and work through this. In this episode I'll give you my 10 greatest tips to treating anxiety, you'll hear some of my own stories with it and you'll leave feeling empowered to change your patterns of thinking for good.

Resources:

Natural Ways to Lower Cortisol

The End of Mental Illness by Dr. Daniel Amen

Vitable Vitamins (ALYSSA50 for 50% off first month); Ashwagandha supplement mentioned

Many people are scared to commit to relationships because they feel like it'll stunt their personal growth. But if anything, my husband and I have supported each other in this journey, better than if we were to have done it alone. Just as we individually, go through different seasons in life, so does our relationships. Sam and I have changed so much since the day of our wedding, yet, we are way more satisfied about our relationship now, than we were then. Today we tell our story of going through challenging seasons together and coming out stronger. We give advice on what to when a major disagreement seems like it's going to ruin the relationship.

In this episode, we have the lovely Eli Blanco (samegirl.eli) back again as we dive deep into your questions about Cycle Syncing. Now that you know what this is all about (if you don't, make sure to listen to Episode 19 before this one), it's time to answer your questions on how things like the birth control pill, using an IUD (copper or hormonal) or having irregular periods might affect your ability to Cycle Sync. We talk about how to optimize your sex like in each phase of your cycle, which tasks to focus on in each phase for better productivity AND how coffee might be affecting your hormones (don't worry, it's not all bad news)! This episode taught me so much about my body and applying these things to my life has been incredibly empowering ? I know you guys are going to love it!

Follow Alyssa: Instagram, Tiktok

Follow Eli: Instagram, Tiktok

Resources:

Books

Women Code - Alissa Vitti 

In The Flo - Alissa Vitti 

Be Period Positive - Chella Quint 

Apps

Flo App (Period Tracker)

My Flo (Period Tracker by Alissa Vitti)

Website/Downloads

Food Chart for Each Phase

Period Tracking Book

Don't have time to listen to a bunch of podcasts but still want to get my #1 tips and have your best glow up yet? You're in the right place. I'll be sharing all of my secrets from fitness to mindset, to sex and sexuality, with specific brand recommendations and all of the resources listed below! Basically, here?s everything I would tell myself at the start of my self growth journey that I intentionally began about 2 years ago when I was at my worst and I decided that something needed to change. I tried a whole bunch of things to get to where I am now and THESE are the things that WORKED. This is your cheat sheet from one bestie to another.

Let's Connect:

Instagram

Tiktok

Resources:

Books

Atomic Habits by James Clear

How Not to Die by Dr Michael Gregor

The End of Mental Illness by Dr Daniel Amen

In The Flo by Alissa Vitti

Skin Care

Dermalogica

Aesop

Go-To

Other Products

Vitable Vitamins

AIM'N Activewear

If you've stumbled across this episode, you might be struggling with something extremely common. Did you know 10-15% of women report they've never had an orgasm before and roughly 50% of women report being unhappy with how often they orgasm? Did you know you're not alone if you're struggling in this area? There's nothing wrong with you. Don't freak out. I've got you covered. Resources: ABC Article Medline Plus In The Flo by Alisa Vitti (book I'm currently reading) Fight The New Drug

This episode is for those who menstruate (have their period), and those who know someone who menstruates... so, all of you! Joining us today is period guru, Eli Blanco (also known as @samegirl.eli on Instagram) who is incredibly talented in teaching people how to get better energy, have a better connection with themselves and how to reach their fitness goals, ALL through the power of their period! I personally learned so much from this episode and am feeling super empowered to lean into this practise going forward. I know you guys will be blown away too!  

Resources

Books 

Women Code - Alissa Vitti 

In The Flo - Alissa Vitti 

Be Period Positive - Chella Quint 

Apps 

Flo App (Period Tracker)

My Flo (Period Tracker by Alissa Vitti)

Website/Downloads 

Food Chart for Each Phase

Period Tracking Book

It's 2022 and you survived the last two years, congrats! It's the start of a New Year which means it's time to dust off the ol' New Years Resolutions list from last year to hang back up on the fridge. JK!!! But, I am going to help that not happen, by sharing with you all of the tips and tricks you need to creating solid goals and turning these goals into regular habits. A goal without a plan is only a dream!

About six months ago, I came out as bisexual - to myself, to my husband and to everyone really. I always knew there was something there but I never felt like it was the right time to label it. In this episode, I'll be telling you my story, as I answer questions that you guys sent in, through Instagram. We cover topics such as coming out, exploring your sexuality, being queer in the church, biphobia in the LGBTQ+ community and how to have conversations with people in your life who aren't supportive. I really hope that this podcast makes you feel seen and that you get to learn more about sexuality whether is for yourself or in support of someone else! As I've said many times, if you need a chat, my DM?s are always open. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/ Resources: Jen Winston, Greedy, Book. Instagram: @jenerous God is Grey, Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OcYXjuKJqYw (start here)! Instagram: @godisgrey Queer Christian Artist, Instagram: @nakedpastor Learn more about porn: https://fightthenewdrug.org/

Everyone could use a little pep talk here and there. But this episode isn't just a pep talk; you'll be leaving this podcast with practical things you can be doing on a regular basis to grow your relationship with yourself. Having healthy self love benefits how we feel towards ourselves, our relationships with others, the decisions we make and ultimately, where we end up! Let's really dive into this today; get ready to reflect! Let's Connect: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/

This week, I am joined by my lovely husband, Sam, to bring you a very sexy conversation filled with honesty, inclusivity, respect and a whole lot of laughs. We will be answering YOUR questions from Instagram: how does sex change in long-term relationships/marriage, how to use your partner?s sexual past to learn more about them (+ conquer jealousy), is masturbation healthy in a relationship, are dry spells normal, what do we think about sex before marriage, do we have any big regrets sexually and MORE! There was a lot to cover in this episode so if you want a part 2, let me know and it'll be all yours! Let?s Connect: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/

We need to have a heart to heart. Most of us don't know what the hell we're doing. And it's definitely not worth us trying to pretend we do. But what we can do, is acknowledge this reality and choose to make our in between seasons exciting. Maybe you're working towards a degree or you're training in a new job and although you know it's what you chose, you can't stop asking yourself, "what's the purpose"? It's easy to get down when you can see where you want to go, but you're just not quite there yet. Well in this episode, I'll be sharing with you how I've embraced the mundane in these seasons of waiting and what you can do to find joy in your regular day-to-day life. Let's Connect: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/

In this weeks episode, we're talking about finding and building healthy friendships. Maybe you feel like a loner; maybe you have friends but don't have deep and meaningful connections with them; or maybe you have plenty of friends but there's always drama. No matter where you're at, there is something in this episode for you. We talk: love languages, communication, finding new connections, getting confidence/navigating social anxiety and more. We all need connection, we all need community.  Let's chat: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/

There can be a lot of things that end up on our "one day" list. One day I'll start eating healthier, one day I'll start getting better sleep, one day I'll branch out and make new friends. But what if you could start today? What if all you are lacking is a little motivation? In this episode, we're talking about how to get motivated in the first place and how to STAY motivated long term, to see real growth in your life! I'll be sharing with you my personal tips, research I've come across on the topic and you'll finish the episode feeling prepared to implement some new strategies to become the you, YOU want to be! Let's be BFF's: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/ REF: https://www.inc.com/melissa-chu/want-to-become-luckier-heres-what-you-need-to-do-a.html https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/19-simple-ways-to-stay-motivated-that-actually-work.html https://open.spotify.com/episode/6fgAELu2GjyNwoq6mJfRmm?si=mXOOjc5jQvWhA8OoKpKQFw

This episode is very special as my husband, Sam, and I answer all of the questions you guys sent through on Instagram! We talk about what it was like getting married young, why we did it and what we've learned from couples counselling (fighting fair, appreciating our differences, self growth within a relationship, giving a good apology & more)! We've found amazing tools and created really great habits in our communication that we wish were shared with us long ago, so, listen for these and see if you can apply them in any of your relationships! Enjoy this fun chat x Alyssa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/ Sam's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samueloliverharper/ Apology Formula & Other Relationship Resources: https://www.gottman.com/

In this weeks episode, I share about my experience of moving from Niagara, Canada to Sydney, Australia when I was 18 years old. I talk about the ups and downs since then, how it was possible logistically and how you can make it happen too if it's something you want to do. You'll hear all about why it's an amazing experience but also why it requires a lot of sacrifice. You also learn a lot more about my life behind the scenes and get some context as to where I'm coming from! Let's Connect: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/

Is your sex life rough... but like, not in a good way? Well, you're in the right place. Because this episode is all about why penetration might be painful for you and what you can do about it. Yes, that's right. There are definitely things you can do to change this. Penetration problems can be caused by all sorts of things and in this podcast, you'll learn about what might be the cause AND how you can actually go about fixing this. Don't put up with painful sex anymore!  References: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/painful-intercourse/symptoms-causes/syc-20375967 https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/womens-sexual-health-when-being-intimate-hurts "The Pleasure is Ours", The Goop Lab with Gwyneth Paltrow, Netflix Let's Connect:  https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/

You might be wondering: what is my "gut"? Why should I care about it? Or maybe even: How can I heal it? Could mood disorders, like anxiety, be caused by my gut? In this episode, all of these questions will be answered, and more! This is a huge subject to tackle and it can feel very confusing but worry not! You will finish this podcast feeling like you have a great understanding of this crucial part of your overall health and what steps you can actually take to move forward! References: Michael Greger, MD; How Not to Die, book Daniel G. Amen, MD; The End of Mental Illness, book Will Bulsiewicz, MD, MCSI or "Dr. B", Instagram Content + Podcast Features Let's Connect : https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/

What's gonna happen in the future? What are people saying about me? Why did I say that? ? Does this sound like you? You're not alone. By the end of this podcast, you can expect to feel substantially more equipped to work through these thoughts all on your own! We're chatting neuroplasticity, grounding your emotions, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy +PLUS+ a five step plan to use anytime you get stuck overthinking! resources: The Anti-Anxiety Notebook: https://shop.therapynotebooks.com/ *not sponsored* or Google: "Feelings Wheel" & "Cognitive Distortions" to find more resources! instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/

You are what you eat - kinda! Want to lose weight? Gain weight? Feel better? Have clearer skin? Well, getting your diet right is crucial. In this episode, I'll be giving you 6 practical steps so you can start eating healthy and actually enjoy it. Look forward to hearing about how to "listen to your body", find balance, grocery shop and create a plan that works for you long term! instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alyssataylorharper/ REF: Dr. Daniel Amen, "The End of Mental Illness" Dr. Jolene Brighton, "Beyond The Pill" Dr. Michael Greger, "How Not to Die" The Anti-Anxiety Notebook

About half of the population has a period, so whether or not you do, you should care about it! In this episode, I chat through what I love and hate about pads, tampons, menstrual cups, period panties and more. You can look forward to learning something new as I answer some of your questions (asked over on instagram) and you'll also get to hear some ridiculous period-related stories from yours truly.

This is the sex talk we all need! In this episode, you'll learn about masturbation as I answer questions like - Should I use lube? What about toys? Should I watch porn? What if I don't like it? How do I handle sexual shame? and more!  You'll hear the facts AND some of my personal experiences including what I've learned from them. Whether you're super comfortable with this topic or you HATE talking about sex - this episode is for you! Explore, be safe and have fun! x Fight The New Drug - https://fightthenewdrug.org/  instagram: @alyssataylorharper

If you vape or smoke, you've probably tried to quit at least once. Whether it was for your mental health, physical health, lifestyle, finances or all of these combined - addiction sucks! I used nicotine for 3 years and about a year ago, I finally quit. In this episode, you'll hear, firstly - my story with vaping/trying to quit/being in denial that I was addicted/etc. and secondly - seven tips on HOW to quit for GOOD! If you get these seven things down, you will have a much easier time quitting! I believe in you; you can do this xx Ripple Vapes: https://www.therippleco.com/ "ASAP Science on YouTube" instagram: @alyssataylorharper

Diet culture affects all of us. In this episode, I'll be sharing about my past struggle with an eating disorder and all of the steps I took to find food freedom! If you're interested in what intuitive eating actually is (it's not as complicated as it seems) and how it can fit into your life - this episode is for you! You deserve a guilt-free relationship with food that tastes amazing AND makes you feel good so let's explore that together.

In this episode, we'll be chatting all things birth control pill: what they don't tell you, how it works, how to come off, how your body might change, how birth control plays a role in feminism and more! I came off of the pill about a year ago and I am so thankful that I did. I hope this episode leaves you feeling empowered to do whatever feels right for you! REF: Dr. Jolene Brighten, Beyond the Pill, Book Samantha Gladdish, Healthy Hormones for Women, Podcast Sarah E. Hill, The Surprising Link Between Women's Brains and The Birth Control Pill, Ted Talk Flo App, Menstrual Cycle Tracking App