In this episode, I am joined by one of my mentors, Jim McNeish. This is a much more personal conversation, as it much more closely resembles one of our mentorship sessions. We talk about my experience with quickly gaining a large platform and navigating the complexities that come with that, my thoughts on taking political positions as a therapist on public platforms, inner conflict, and what to do with parts of your personality that you don't like.

I am very grateful to have Jim as a mentor of mine, I hope you enjoy our conversation!

Learn more about Jim at neish.co, you can also find him on Instagram @nei5h. 

This is the video Jim suggests starting with!

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This week I'm joined by the incredible Dr. Leah Katz! We unpacked a lot in this episode: the concept of connecting with your "inner child", what it means to "re-parent yourself", Trauma healing from the perspective of Carl Jung, IFS, and more...

I hope you enjoy our conversation!

Leah Katz, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist practicing in Portland, Oregon. Originally from New York, she completed her doctorate training at Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology. While living in New York, Dr. Katz worked at a community clinic where she led several groups, treated individuals and couples in therapy, and taught at Stern College for Women. She currently works in a group practice where she specializes in working with teenagers and women, with a focus on treating anxiety and depression, amongst other things. She utilizes a hybrid of cognitive behavioral, ACT, and mindfulness techniques in her therapy work.

Dr. Katz is passionate about girls? and women?s mental health, and helping women navigate challenges to live deeply connected and fulfilled lives. She writes for Psychology Today and recently published her first book, Gutsy: Mindfulness Practices for Everyday Bravery. You can find her on Instagram @dr.leahkatz, Twitter @drleahkatz, and her website, drleahkatz.com where she shares mental health related tips and insights.

It's not unusual for trauma therapy to disrupt some of our patterns and habits, within ourselves, and within our homes and partnerships. In this episode, I talk about what this can look like, and what we can we do to adapt to these changes. You can find more information like this in my latest Trauma Workshop: A Free Mind. Available on my website: www.matthiasjbarker.com.

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Things to look for when looking for a therapist and things you can do before booking an intake session to increase the probability that therapy will be helpful and fruitful.

a conversation with Dr. Hillary McBride, author of The Wisdom of Your Body, about the effects and lasting impacts of online counseling, including how this affects the relationships between therapist and client, and the impact of video conferencing in modern counseling.

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A podcast comparing and contrasting three philosophies of how to ?be a man? and how those philosophies conceptualize masculinity and gender. 

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Citations:

De Beauvoir, S. (2010). The second sex. Knopf.

The section on the feminist split of cultural feminists and the integration of queer-theory can be seen in more detail here:

Halley, J. (2002). A Map of Feminist and Queer Theories of Sexuality and Sexual Regulation. YouTube. Retrieved April 7, 2022, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oALlk8bxB2g&t=2614s. 

Costa Jr, P. T., Terracciano, A., & McCrae, R. R. (2001). Gender differences in personality traits across cultures: robust and surprising findings. Journal of personality and social psychology

Much of the argumentation regarding a modernist perspective on gender temperament and how it conflicts with post-modernism is inspired by lectures I?ve heard from Jordan Peterson, Sam Harris, and James Lindsay (all well-known modernists).

Regarding the Jungian theory around the arch of manhood:

Jung, C. G., Von Franz, M. L., Henderson, J. L., Jaffé, A., & Jacobi, J. (1964). Man and his symbols (Vol. 5183). Dell.

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A podcast discussing various ways of measuring and conceptualizing happiness, the data on long-term relationships and dynamics to keep in mind, and what exactly "nagging is" and how to go about resolving it. 

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A conversation with Dr. Julie Smith on Grief and exploring the paradox of needing time to rejuvenate, rest, and distract yourself from the pain, while also needing to open yourself up to feeling the emotions of grief and loss. 

Dr. Julie Smith is a Clinical Psychologist with over a decade of professional experience, having previously worked in the NHS, with veterans and the MoD, in addiction and crisis centres, and now in private practice. She is also an online educator and social media star, sharing bite-sized mental health and motivational videos online, with a combined following of more than 3.5 million. In November 2019 Julie launched her TikTok account to make her services and education about mental health more accessible. During the COVID-19 pandemic, Dr. Julie?s audience on TikTok grew astronomically as young people related to the videos she was making about mental health and put her advice to use.

"Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?" is Dr. Julie?s first book: A mental health toolbox that is filled with ideas, techniques and insights to help you feel calmer, stronger and more resilient, no matter what life throws your way. "Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before" was an instant #1 Sunday Times Bestseller.

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On this "Ask Me Anything" episode, Matthias discusses ways to help your kids finish their vegetables without creating complexes around food restriction.

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A conversation with Motivational Interviewing expert, Casey Jackson, on the process of change and how to come alongside people we love in their process.

Casey has worked in Behavioral health for over 30 years and is a member of the international Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT). He is the lead author of the Motivational Interviewing Competency Assessment (MICA) and has presented at many conferences in a wide variety of professional fields for line-level staff as well as administrators and other leadership. He has provided over 2000 trainings on Motivational Interviewing and system change to organizations and professionals in Healthcare, Mental health, Addictions, Corrections/Prisons, Local and state government, and more. View Casey?s Webpage for his experience, story, and testimonials! https://caseyjackson.com/

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Welcome to SEASON 2 of the Matthias J Barker Podcast! I have exciting announcements! We found out the gender of our second child, we're moving to the southern United States, and I'm excited to share my plans for season 2 of the podcast.

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A conversation on the importance of eating well to not just have a healthier brain but have a better life. Pre-order Dr. Amen's new book "You, Happier" releasing March 1st, 2022.

A discussion on what makes conflict terrible and how to make it better. This content is a summary of the Gottman?s ?four horsemen? research that can be found in their book:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

Thoughts on entering a career in psychology and making online psychological content.?

Thoughts on entering a career in psychology and making online psychological content.

Trauma Workshop:

https://matthiasjbarker.com/pages/trauma-workshop

ACE Quiz:

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-s...

Statistical data:

Chapman, D. P., Dube, S. R., & Anda, R. F. (2007). Adverse childhood events as risk factors for negative mental health outcomes. Psychiatric Annals, 37(5), 359?364.

The discussion on the findings studying the children of holocaust survivors/mothers who endured trauma and the studies on rat-pups can be found in the introduction of this paper:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...

Data on Walla Walla school district:

https://acestoohigh.com/2012/04/23/li...

Intro and outro song: "with eyes open" by Cathartic Fall

The path to building emotional warmth and intimacy with the person you love.

*Theory of bids derived from the Gottman Method.

A conversation with Dr. Anderson about IFS, the role of empathy in connection and its applications in our lives.

A mindfulness exercise on gratefulness and centering in on your values in the midst of hardship. Song by Cathartic Fall, find him on Spotify!

A conversation on what parenting is and how to move towards forgiveness.

Why we call celebrities ?stars? and complications in pursuing fame.

Inspired by Carl Jung and Jordan Peterson?s lectures.

A case for marriage and it?s advantages over long term dating.

A reflection on false solutions and real healing from childhood trauma.

The interplay of shame and self-criticism and how to find freedom.

Its been a while! Here's what I've been up to

a method for solving deep core arguments

A breakdown of the kinds of personalities that irritate us the most and how to respond.

Making meaningful connections and developing new relationships into lasting long-term friendships.

Intro song: Tides by Surname

A discussion with Dr. Hillary McBride on the function of mental health practitioners, healing from trauma, and eating disorders. Look for her new book "The Wisdom of Your Body" in October 2021!

How relying solely on empathy can lead to great harm.

A conversation with my younger brother ben about his experience growing up gay in a christian culture.

Reflecting with my younger brother Ben on what it was like posting his coming-out story and having it public for the world to see. Both his emotional journey and the stories he heard from people.

A discussion on the seeming paradox between being in the present moment, making goals for the future, holding contentment, and being open to change. Dr. Villatte is an expert in Relational Frame Theory and is an author for the book: Mastering the Clinical Conversation.

https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Clinical-Conversation-Language-Intervention/dp/1462542166/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=mastering+the+clinical+conversation&qid=1613688887&sr=8-1

An interview with John Mark Comer where we discuss the differences between christian prayer and modern mindfulness, identity formation and my personal history with bipolar II.

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Why avoidance can turn on you and why to face things head on. Reflections from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Jordan Peterson Lectures.

A conversation on Dr. Hayes' work in creating Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and the psychological processes that are involved in thinking about and acting in moments of pain.

Check out his book "A Liberated Mind":

https://www.amazon.com/Liberated-Mind-Pivot-Toward-Matters/dp/073521400X/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1612038395&sr=8-1

Song "Tides" by Surname

A discussion on honesty, refusing to manipulate others and the boundaries that promote this. Many of the ideas were inspired by the work of Cloud and Townsend in their book: Boundaries (2017).

The 3 psychological categories needed to experience fulfillment. 

Category 1 and 3 are heavily influenced by Matthieu Villette?s 2016 book, Mastering the Clinical Conversation and the work of Victor Frankl on meaning. Category 2 is influenced by @Jordan.b.Peterson?s lectures.

The connection between childhood wounds, dreams and our motivation.

Busting two myths this week when it comes to romance and relationships. Talking about the science of infatuation!

Dynamics to consider as you reflect on your career during quarantine. Original video was recorded April 2020.

How one wrong idea can have an effect on your entire system of behaviors.