On this re-cast of a popular Season 5 "In Session" episode, Lynn talks to a mom who is beginning to recognize patterns of rigidity and anxiety in her 9yo daughter and, more importantly, the ways both she and her husband react to uncertainty and judgement in themselves and others. When the goals of being right and being perfect are modeled, children often react with shut downs or freak outs when they themselves fall short. How does a busy, rigid family step out of this trap? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Ready for a junk-free start to 2025? Head to thrivemarket.com/fluster and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Just for listeners of FlusterClux, get 20% off sitewide and a free travel case and countertop stand at GETQUIP.COM/FLUSTER. Head to jlobeauty.com/flusterclux for 20% off and three free limited time offer gifts - a $175.00 value. Go to Quince.com/fluster for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiously ruminating or worrying requires an internal focus: ?But I?m worrying about my kids, or people I care about,? the worrier tries to argue. ?I?m not focusing on myself!? Well, you are. You focus on your version of events, your particular construct, your perceptions. In this episode, we talk about how a genuine external focus leads to a disconnection from one?s own compelling (and often stress-driven) narrative.  Here is the earlier Flusterclux episode that Robin & Lynn mention in today's show: https://www.flusterclux.com/a-reminder-for-silliness-and-the-power-of-play/ WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Ready for a junk-free start to 2025? Head to thrivemarket.com/fluster and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Just for listeners of FlusterClux, get 20% off sitewide and a free travel case and countertop stand at GETQUIP.COM/FLUSTER. Head to jlobeauty.com/flusterclux for 20% off and three free limited time offer gifts - a $175.00 value. Go to Quince.com/fluster for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a juicy episode? and a really important one for all concerned about the mental health trends with our teens. After thirty-five years in the mental health field, Lynn addresses very directly her concerns about the messages teens are receiving, and articulating, about their mental health. It's time to be candid about toxic trends, misinformation, and where our teens are heading. Can we shift this paradigm for them? [This is a recast of an episode from Season 5.] Here's the previous Flusterclux episode Lynn references in today's show: https://www.flusterclux.com/5-parenting-phrases-you-should-use-at-every-age/ WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 15% off Oak Essentials with the code [FLUSTERCLUX15] at oakessentials.com/FLUSTERCLUX15. Just for listeners of FlusterClux, get 20% off sitewide and a FREE travel case and countertop stand at GETQUIP.COM/FLUSTER. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two (really) stressed gals show up for this episode to talk about injecting fun and playfulness into holiday events. Robin and Lynn share lots of ideas wrapped up in a little encouragement, and by the end, they both feel better. We think you will, too! WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 15% off Oak Essentials with the code [FLUSTERCLUX15] at oakessentials.com/FLUSTERCLUX15. Just for listeners of FlusterClux, get 20% off sitewide and a FREE travel case and countertop stand at GETQUIP.COM/FLUSTER. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Human beings are judgy creatures. It?s part of being social animals. But want to guarantee conflict during the holidays? Start judging other family member?s parenting. Too much sugar for your cousin?s toddler? The horror! Not enough emotional expression allowed by your brother-in-law? Disappointing! Whether you are the judge or the judged (and we?re often both), shifting your approach during holiday gatherings will benefit everyone. Let?s talk strategy, reality, and talking at least 85% less.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 15% off Oak Essentials with the code [FLUSTERCLUX15] at oakessentials.com/FLUSTERCLUX15. Just for listeners of FlusterClux, get 20% off sitewide and a FREE travel case and countertop stand at GETQUIP.COM/FLUSTER. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode we answer two listener questions: our first mom is trying to sort through her toddler's discomfort with anything ?messy? and his demands to clean things up. Her family is concerned, and she wants to know what?s normal. Another mom is noticing how her own anxious thoughts are anticipating a health problem with her daughter, even when all is well. It?s a habit of worrying, and she wants to break it.  Here's the episode that Lynn & Robin mention that they recorded with "The Poop Lady": https://www.flusterclux.com/anxiety-tummy-aches-and-constipation/ WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 15% off Oak Essentials with the code [FLUSTERCLUX15] at oakessentials.com/FLUSTERCLUX15. Just for listeners of FlusterClux, get 20% off sitewide and a FREE travel case and countertop stand at GETQUIP.COM/FLUSTER. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Although the holidays can be special, the patterns that show up in people are predictable, even if it is Thanksgiving or Christmas. Critical parent? Passive aggressive sibling? Catastrophic you? In this episode, we talk about the most common and stressful holiday traps and how you and your family can disrupt them. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cindy Pierce returns, sharing her immense knowledge on pornography and its impact on young people. Get ready because we go there! Cindy talks directly about the disconnection, misinformation, and other serious consequences of porn use. Cindy tells us that parents are the most influential sources of healthy sexual information. More awkward conversations? You bet. But she?ll help us through.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the first of a two-part conversation, Cindy Pierce, social sexuality expert, speaker and author, is here to help parents talk to their kids about sex. Do we want to have these conversations? Probably not. Do they make us anxious? Of course! But Cindy gives us language and encouragement and pulls no punches about why it?s so important to step into the awkwardness.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We answer a listener question in this episode from a mom who wonders if her young son?s rigidity is sensory-driven, an anxiety issue, or both. When do we accommodate and how do we promote more flexibility? When needing things ?just right? gets in the way of normal and fun activities, what?s a mom to do?  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you?re anxious as a parent, are your kids doomed? Not necessarily, but there are risk factors you have to pay attention to and patterns to interrupt.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Head to lumen.me/FLUSTER for 15% off your purchase. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lynn had too little sleep and too much coffee, so she?s telling it like it is with Robin?s complete endorsement. What are the three things Lynn keeps hearing from parents and therapists that we need to stop doing? Buckle up for some straight talk.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Listen to StrollerCoaster! This award-winning, top-ranked parenting podcast is created by Munchkin - the Most Loved Baby Lifestyle Brand in the World. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our guest this episode is Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure and The Addiction Inoculation. Her goal is to provide straightforward facts to parents about kids and substance use. You know how much we love talking prevention and myth busting, and Jessica is happy to oblige.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Listen to StrollerCoaster! This award-winning, top-ranked parenting podcast is created by Munchkin - the Most Loved Baby Lifestyle Brand in the World. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you are a new or veteran listener of the podcast, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson talk about how to use the podcast best to help learn anxiety management skills for adults and children. Listen up and hear how to address the situations in your own family with these strategies. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Listen to StrollerCoaster! This award-winning, top-ranked parenting podcast is created by Munchkin - the Most Loved Baby Lifestyle Brand in the World. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On Flusterclux, we love focusing on prevention. What are the big picture ?moves? we can incorporate into our families now that lessen risk for struggles later on? In this episode, we talk about the role of ritual and tradition in families, with an important emphasis on the everyday routines that bolster connection. Family dinners? Reading together before bed? Weekend errands and worship services? It?s worth the effort!  Hear The Deerfields on Apple Music & on Spotify. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Listen to StrollerCoaster! This award-winning, top-ranked parenting podcast is created by Munchkin - the Most Loved Baby Lifestyle Brand in the World. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freeflusterclux! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We received a listener question about handling a child?s extreme discomfort with her parents? ?alone time.? Robin thinks this a unique issue. Nope! says Lynn. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do a 3 year old and a 13 year old have in common? A temperament that makes it tricky for parents to help navigate how and when to ?step in.? And is this type of temperament a problem? Not necessarily when connection is the goal.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Phones, phones, phones! Everybody?s talking about them (including us!) In this episode, we share a hopeful report on school phone policies, and then help out a mom who has discovered some disturbing group chat conversations on her middle schooler?s phone.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We often think of summer as fun time (understandably) and the start of school as back to work. But can?t we take some of that joy into the fall? What small but impactful things can you do as a family to cultivate joy even as routines and demands shift?  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Search ?Last Night at School Committee? wherever you listen to podcasts for highlights on the big decisions that are affecting students, using Boston as a real-world example. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we?re talking toddlers. Based on a listener request, Lynn describes how to start early teaching flexibility, emotional management, and connection. We address how technology impacts them?and what parents of little ones need to pay attention to with their own patterns.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Schools have figured out that smart phones are a distraction to learning?again. After several years of virtually no enforcement, bell-to-bell policies are being introduced. And although adults will agree in principle, how will parents actually respond?  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

?He is so moody!? says almost every parent as their child moves through the tween and teen years. Managing one?s moods is a key skill for young people to learn, and (as usual) modeling matters. How do we help our kids navigate their emotional ups and downs, with better modeling, less pathologizing and a good dose of reasonable expectations? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we reunite with our kids at the end of the day, we?re often full of questions and curiosity. How was your day? Did you like your lunch? How?d that geometry test go? But genuine interest can sometimes turn into unsatisfying inquisitions. And if we add anxiety?s need for certainty, reassurance and LOTS of detail, the interaction goes south quickly. How can you get information, bolster connection, and keep those worrier impulses at bay?  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Helping an anxious student requires a strong collaboration between families and schools, but so often meetings to create a plan become adversarial. In this episode, Lynn (who routinely attends such meetings) offers her key tips for how parents and schools can work together to support a child and teach the needed skills, minus the conflict and blaming. We also answer a question from a shy mom entering a new school environment. She?s socially anxious but wants to do the best for her kids. What can she do to connect? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code FLUSTERCLUX and you?ll receive up to $300 off air purifiers and a free three-year warranty on any unit, an additional $84 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Go to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids? meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That?s FREE kids? meals just by going to HelloFresh.com/flusterkids. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get 15% off your LUMEN order. As a special, limited-time offer for our listeners, get $40 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don?t we all want to raise problem-solvers? Today we are recasting one of our most popular episodes in which we break down specific steps that parents can put into practice.  We must give our kids the practice of creating solutions and not fixing things for them. This episode also wraps up the third of a previously-released three-part series on the principal skills that children need for a strong foundation in mental health (along with flexibility and autonomy). We encourage you to check out these other episodes (Season 4, Episode 4 & Season 4, Episode 5; available at flusterclux.com).  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Get 20% OFF Honeylove by going to honeylove.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A kid with a flexible brain becomes a person who can go with the flow when life doesn?t unfold as planned. Handling the unexpected is a critical skill in most scenarios. Rigidity just makes life harder. What does it mean to be cognitively flexible and how can you help your child get there? WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Get 20% OFF Honeylove by going to honeylove.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Season 4, we offered a three-episode series in which we unpacked Lynn's big triad: Autonomy, Flexibility, and Problem Solving. These essential skills help prevent mental health issues from developing, and, of course, Lynn will tell you how to nurture them in your children. We tackle autonomy in this episode and the important question every parent should ask: "How controlling am I with my kids?" WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Get 20% OFF Honeylove by going to honeylove.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this recast of a Season 5 episode, we answer listener questions from three different families with five-year olds about handling big emotions and fears. Rigidity, disappointment, tantrums, new schools?issues that most parents of all kids will encounter! And, we have a conversation on those red flags that might lead you to consider a new therapist. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to hellobello.com/FLUSTER, to get thirty percent off your first customized bundle, AND a full-size freebie product of your choice. Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Get 20% OFF Honeylove by going to honeylove.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When children are hesitant or afraid of something, they often avoid, refuse, or even explode. The good news? You can work with your child on your own using the principles of exposure therapy, role playing and front loading. Here?s your DIY plan for stepping in and developing more resilience.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to melin.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout for 30% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode tackles a relatable and critical question from a listener: what do I do about my own anxiety as my child goes from kid to tween to teen? The key is learning the difference between normal adolescent development and your parental anxiety?s desire to take charge.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to melin.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout for 30% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our guest on this episode is Lynn?s amazing colleague, Mindy Szelap, a therapist who is known affectionately as the Poop Lady. Because anxiety has connections to all sorts of stomach problems, including constipation and pain, Mindy offers information and tips for dealing with worried tummies.  Find Mindy here: bayareaspacetreatment.com WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to melin.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout for 30% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do your kids lie? The answer is likely yes. And we adults do, too, because honesty is not always the best policy. In this episode, we talk about lying, what?s normal developmentally, and how to help your kids better understand the nuances.  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to melin.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout for 30% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this recast of a popular episode from last year, sit in on Lynn's consultation with Mom, Dad and their high school junior who would prefer just staying in his room for most of the summer. Lynn helps identify the skill most teens need to strengthen ? the skill of doing something you don't really want to do (and how it applies to getting a first job, applying to college, or completing schoolwork). Most parents will find this a very relatable episode about teens learning to motivate themselves to move forward despite some discomfort. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parents often focus on the details of a child?s anxiety or frustration or distress. The parental interrogation fueled by ?I have to know what happened and they should be able to tell me? is a common sentiment. Do you fall prey to needing to know the details? Our desire to know is less important than supporting our children?s ability to manage their emotions and learn problem solving. Can you help without knowing the details? Yes, yes, yes! WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It?s graduation time. Robin is smack in the middle of this emotional time and Lynn has navigated it twice. So they?re both crying.  ...and here's the Katrina Kenison piece that Lynn mentions: https://www.katrinakenison.com/2020/03/16/the-gift-of-an-ordinary-day/ WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you been hearing a lot about boundaries lately? And ?toxic relationships"? Buzzwords capture our?and our children?s?attention, but what do memes and quotes on social media actually teach us about managing friendships and repairing ruptures? In this episode we talk about the skills of repair, the importance of connection, and valuing relationships amidst the pull of a throw-away culture. WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes kids have big reactions over seemingly small things. Or they panic over something that hasn?t really bothered them in the past. Is this a ?new? problem, or a different piece content that worry has discovered?  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Go to songfinch.com/FLUSTER and start your song ? after you purchase, you?ll be prompted to add Spotify Streaming for your original song for FREE - a $50 value! Go to CLARITIN.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pediatricians and family physicians are on the front lines of our children?s mental health needs. In fact, they are reporting more and more that it?s the most common (and often most challenging) issue they are addressing with families. On this episode, Lynn and Robin are joined by Dr. Jessica Hochman, whose practice and podcast (Ask Dr. Jessica) focus on helping families feel more confident and informed. What is it like to be a pediatrician in the age of worry? What is most satisfying/challenging for her as she strives to balance offering information, decreasing worry, and supporting healthy connection?  WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for GREENLIGHT today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to? get $80 off of your first month?. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this recast of a popular Season 5 episode, we continue our discussion on loneliness, this time focusing on adults. Making friends in adulthood feels risky. If you are at all anxious or introverted, vulnerability and rejection hardly seem worth it. But connection is possible once we dispel some limiting beliefs.  VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for GREENLIGHT today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to? get $80 off of your first month?. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you wish your child could hear about worry directly from Lynn? Here you go! In previous episodes Lynn has spoken directly to teens; this episode is for the youngsters. She describes how worry works, what makes it better and worse, and how to externalize and talk to worry. Listen with your child!  Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for GREENLIGHT today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to? get $80 off of your first month?. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We?ve talked about kids and phones before, but it deserves another deeper look. What?s the impact of younger and younger children having smartphones? The research shows big shifts on mental health after 2010? It?s time to talk about the consequences of smartphones seriously.  Here is the article by Jonathan Haidt which we discuss in this episode: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2024/03/teen-childhood-smartphone-use-mental-health-effects/677722/  Get 20% off your first order when you go to LIQUIDIV.com and use code FLUSTER at checkout. Go to zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the ZOCDOC app for free. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for GREENLIGHT today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/FLUSTER. Mother?s Day is coming right up, so order today to get 15% off your SKYLIGHT purchase at SkylightCal.com/FLUSTERCLUX. Our listeners get an additional 15% off an annual Master Class membership at MASTERCLASS.com/FLUSTER. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to? get $80 off of your first month?. Go to lumen.me and use code FLUSTER to get $50 off your LUMEN order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Death is a part of life, but it still scares most of us. When children experience death and other types of loss, they grieve in different ways, depending on age, family culture, and personality. How can you help your child deal with loss and grief, especially when you yourself are grieving? What can parents do and say to help children navigate a painful but universal human experience? And can we do better when showing our children how to support others?  UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster. Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to? get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every once in a while, teens need a pep talk that is based on accurate information and hopeful language about their moods, their relationships and their mental health. Anxiety and depression are common and powerful but not inevitable and certainly not permanent. Listen to this with your teen. Then, have a talk and listen more.  UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster. Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to? get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It?s a fact: some kids need more social coaching than others. And if your child (or you!) struggle with anxiety, practicing social skills is both more challenging and more vital. How do we enhance our kids? ability to make good friends? The research offers some interesting do?s and don?ts that will be helpful to all parents!  UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster. Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to? get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lynn often says that the hardest people to work with in her practice are the ones that don?t own their own stuff. In this episode, we talk about owning patterns in your marriage. Both Robin and Lynn work with their husbands and both are consistently working on owning and breaking patterns. Do you get defensive? Of course you do! We?ll get specific in this episode.  UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free at greenlight.com/fluster. Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to? get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today. Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A global cognitive style, to use the fancy terminology, means that your perceptions of the world or yourself are broad and overly general: ?All dogs are mean? or ?I never get anything right.? Because this pattern is a solid predictor for depression and anxiety, it?s one to recognize and interrupt. We?ll talk about how to make helpful shifts in your family.  UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back . And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to?get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As college acceptance letters arrive, it 's timely to revisit this popular episode from Season 4! Parents and students are focusing on college admissions earlier and earlier, hoping to get a head start on what has become an increasingly competitive race through high school. They say they want their kids to be ?happy? and ?successful? in college, but if parents are obsessed with the "getting in," are they developing the right skills to help them thrive once there? Anxiety expert and therapist Lynn Lyons shares her perspective after treating teens for decades through this process (and well after). We invite you to listen (or re-listen!) to our prior episode, "High Anxiety & Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture". UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back . And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to?get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adults often wonder why the ?plan? they have in place for their anxious child doesn?t work. In this episode, Lynn explains why this happens (your goals and hopes aren?t enough) and what to do instead (it?s all about the skills to manage worry when it arrives.)  UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back . And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to?get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lynn often refers to anxiety as a cult leader: powerful, demanding compliance, and full of rigid rules. What happens when one family member wants out? Or when a long generational pattern of worry resists any change? In this episode, we break down the pull of the anxiety cult and how to change the rules for you and your family, even when others refuse. UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Go to earthbreeze.com/FLUSTERCLUX for forty percent off your subscription! Just go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app, use code FLUSTER, and start earning cash back . And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to?get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lately listeners have been asking about performance anxiety, particularly when it shows up in sports. Should we push our child to compete? What if they love to practice but don?t perform during games? The truth is that very few children will actually become pro athletes, so sports and other activities become opportunities to learn valuable anxiety and emotional management skills.  Here is the Today show article which Lynn mentions: Should you let your kids quit? Experts share advice on when to know it?s OK UPDATED: WE'VE MADE PLAYLISTS OF OUR EPISODES TO HELP YOU FIND RESOURCES ON SPECIFIC TOPICS. Here is our first: Parents of Anxious Kids, Start Here For those brand new to the podcast, we suggest starting with this playlist featuring Lynn Lyons and the 7-part anxiety disruptor series as well as a 3-part series on the skills most helpful in managing anxious kids: flexibility, problem solving, and autonomy. Consult our Spotify profile for the most up-to-date selection.   WIN A COPY OF THE ANXIETY AUDIT COURSE! We will select two listeners who complete our listener survey. We hope it is you!   FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU: Sign up for Greenlight today and get your first month free when you go to greenlight.com/fluster. And right now, our listeners will get an additional 15% off an annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/fluster. To match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com/FLUSTER to?get $80 off of your first month?. Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Go to thrivemarket.com/flusterclux for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! For a free electric mixer and 40% off the coffee, plus free US shipping, go to Trumeta.com/Fluster to fuel your productivity and creativity with some delicious mushroom coffee. Go to Zocdoc.com/FLUSTER and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices