As much as we want sexual intimacy to be amazing, sometimes we come into marriage with unintentional baggage in this area. Whether you're dealing with problems that occurred before your marriage began or you've had issues build up along the way, tune in to Christa's interview with therapist and Christian professor Dr. Camden Morgante, PsyD. as they talk all things sex therapy, purity culture, and of course, the Enneagram so you can enjoy the celebration of healthy intimacy together! Visit www.DrCamden.com for an important quiz on purity culture also and visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for previous shows and more info.

There's so much more to the story of your personality development than the latest one-dimensional meme, right? One of the biggest requests Christa gets is about Enneagram Tritypes from those seeking to understand all three intelligence centers, the head, the heart, and the body, and especially on how to maintain a healthy balance in marriage and family. Get ready to dig down on some especially juicy soundbites as you learn to tell your narrative and to honor your own Tritype journey of health and healing! 

Do you believe in love at first sight? Perhaps you locked eyes with your spouse and the rest is history. Others of you had more of a calculated, careful and pre-meditated love story and some are not yet with your future spouse. In this exciting opening episode, we're establishing not only the definition of love type by type, we're walking through finding joy inside and outside of a relationship. Christa teams up with Liv @theenneagram7 so both married and singles get awesome tips on the quest for true love!

Media mentioned:

https://www.instagram.com/theenneagram7/ (contest!)

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We need to come to marriage knowledge from many different personality perspectives, and today's episode will give you such depths from a new direction. Christa interviews a LMHC on her team, Craig Stratton, MA, an Enneagram 9. We also hear his marriage story to his beautiful wife Mary Kay, another 9! Craig shares his heart for making sure others are heard, what therapy is really like, as well as the key moment of change occurring in marriage. So many keys to healthy communication in marriage, don't miss!

Have you always wondered what makes an 8 tick? Feeling like you want to avoid making an 8 feel ticked off? Learn all about the often understood and awesome Enneagram 8's - people of power, lots of love, and a heart for leadership, love, and family! The goal of this episode is to bring honor and love to this group because I know in many ways, Eights make the world go round and we want you to be as healthy as possible as you shape others and share with them and bring out your most healthily vulnerable self!

Join Christa for a chat on all things marriage and family today on this special bonus listener request show on blended family issues. Christa is joined by her sister Abbie, an Enneagram 3, who talks about both being married to an Enneagram 8, and also talks about all she's learning about blending her family of five boys. Abbie shares tips about navigating emotions, family meetings, therapy, knowing your role as a step-parent, how to give space, how to start the blending process, and so much more!

It's time to talk deep about our light and refreshing Enneagram 7's and this episode goes down to the nitty-gritty depths indeed! Join Christa in going through Type 7 tendencies, misconceptions, and the whirling and swirling tendencies of this last counterpart in the anxiety triad. Known as storytellers with a penchant for using rationalization for the avoidance of pain, it's time to find out how you and your 7 loved ones can both get healthy and stay healthy in the relationships!

Have you been experiencing more fear during COVID? Have you been wanting to figure out how to master your stress as an Enneagram Six? Perhaps you're someone who's likely managing a lot more stress lately and you could use some tips and tools for bringing your personal stress levels down as well as bringing continued healing and growth to your marriage and family. Lindsey Palmer, PharmD, an Enneagram Six was awesome enough to take us through not only the ins and outs of cortisol levels and the fight or flight response of our bodies in this bonus episode, but she also shares essential tips she's learned over the years to utilize courage and to establish careful, planned, and non-stressed steps! Tune in to get started on managing your stress, too!

Find Lindsey @your.pharm.assist on Instagram or at her website https://yourpharm-assist.com/blog/f/exercise-for-health-benefits-and-limitations

Typically heralded as the most courageous of all the personality types, our Sixes offer a myriad of paradoxes, starting with the fact that they're also considered the most fearful of all the types. Join Christa for a full on analysis of arguably the most analytical of all of the types, the Loyal and Skeptical Enneagram Six. You'll learn how marriages with varying types influence them as well as, most of all, how you can truly bring joy and healthy love to your relationship with the awesome Six in your life!

Whether it's a friendship like therapy or a professional helper, research tells us that whatever your Enneagram type, your relationship thrives with healthy encouragement from others. Many couples, however, are leaving this to the singles and not soliciting wise feedback when they need it most in marriage. Listen to this episode as Christa details the why, the who, and the where and when you need mentors in your relationship as well as warns of the friendships you may need to shift away from as well as we talk all things critical life lessons in love and friendship in today's episode.

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https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0190740910003178

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0044118X15604849

As the Investigators of the Enneagram personality typing system, Fives and their loved ones are in for a treat as we delve deep into the mind of the Five! We're exploring the gifting of Five, the wings, subtypes and shadow of Five, and trying to find ways for you and your brilliant Five to thrive! As always for our type by type, this podcast is largely in response to the wonderful research shared in community and conversation with you on the Enneagram and Marriage Instagram page.

Though affairs can be a taboo topic, even more difficult to discuss is how we heal from them. Join Christa as she goes not only type by type for healing from an affair but also through the four classes of affairs and how to specifically treat them. This episode may not be as traditionally fun as many shows but we're so excited for you to listen because it's a truly life saving adventure to save a marriage from the brink of disaster. Tune in today!

What leads couples to cheat? Do certain Enneagram types tend to cheat more than others? The findings of marriage studies tell us there are predictors for extramarital affairs but that the seasons of marriage, maturity levels, and ages, may have even more to do with this factor than which types are together. Join Christa in examining the eight reasons couples give for cheating as well as how to set boundaries and prevent a third party from complicating your marriage further!

https://umdrightnow.umd.edu/news/why-do-people-cheat-umd-research-identifies-8-motivating-factors

https://www.dana.org/article/brains-do-it-lust-attraction-and-attachment/

Fours are considered the Individualists or the Romantics of the Enneagram. Why do Fours seem to delve into places of shame and sorrow more quickly than others, and why is there so much variety and stereotyping going on with them as well? What are they like in marriage, and most importantly, what can they do to be at the best individually and in their families and relationships? Join in for a talk on all things beloved Enneagram Four including wings, subtypes, and type-by-type relationship pairings!

It's been so wonderful to conduct research and to spend time learning about how so many individuals and types have formed food preferences, food issues, and couple bonds over the course of their lives and relationships. This week as we wrap up our Around the Table segment, join Christa going through her research findings and then chatting with her first official guest, her best friend Stacey Day, a dietician and PA-C. They discuss all things couples tips for the long haul, how friendship and food can carry you through so many beautifully memorable times if you open yourself up to it, and most of all, how your marriage and family can truly thrive in both your most intimate and special everyday moments with food.

Sharing a meal can be memorable but not just in good ways, right? Research tells us ways we plan for or initiate and carry out our eating rituals in our families and cultures matter. Food together in marriage and family has such potential to either hurt your  communication or to help, and in this episode, you'll get encouragement and learn how to talk about and address food issues in your marriage, season by season. You're also getting a great tool for conversations around your table! 

Fresh from the vault of pre-COVID times comes our "All About Enneagram 3's in Relationship" episode! Though our voices are a bit lighter in earlier 2020 times, the content you'll find for loving and living with your Enneagram 3 is just as rich and deep as you would hope. Enjoy this episode so you learn more about this secretly romantic and deeply vulnerable (under the stylish and bold exterior) heart type with the absolute best you have to give!

Happy events in our lives and marriages deserve to be celebrated, and not just at the end of the road, but at important milestones too. In this episode, join Christa as she talks about various personality trappings for your types and hers, and especially how celebrating the amazing journey along the way changes your life for the better. Research, media, and personal examples all converge to tell us the same thing - the stories you tell about your marriage and the actions you take in it matter - a lot! Don't miss this opportunity to celebrate well together as you step into a fresh new moment of your life lived with intention. Anniversary contest also! For the @AlisaTaylorDesign Enneagram prints, visit https://www.etsy.com/shop/AlisaTaylorDesign

Marriages are in danger of losing connection more than ever due to literally constant tech use & interruptions. The research we gathered over quarantine shows that phones are getting out of control and communication is suffering. Listen to why tech is particularly addicting, what types suffer most, and how it's hurting you even if you don't realize it. Always a good news show, we also have seriously vital tips you need in order to stay tuned not just to social media but to your most important relationship!

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https://www.marriage.com/blog/relationship/reasons-technology-is-affecting-divorce-rates/

https://www.focusonthefamily.ca/content/how-to-make-technology-work-for-your-marriage

Have you ever been hurt so badly healing seemed impossible? Join Christa in a conversation about the importance of compassion, listening, empathy, and specific steps for healing trauma wounds in a marriage. These steps bring success to a large degree and are the hallmark of healing difficult moments - together. Tune in for the three steps in healing attachment wounds as a couple, and stick around or our free resource for regaining balance in your marriage as well.

Visit https://www.verywellmind.com/five-stages-of-grief-4175361, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6169872/, and https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/helping-someone-with-ptsd.htm for information about grief, trauma, and compassion research as we continue on in marriage and life.

Can a few seconds really make a difference in the life of a person, a marriage, a culture? The answer is a resounding yes, and in light of what's been happening in culture lately with the instability, the quarantine and the racial tragedies, it's the very best time to bring life and healing to your marriage, family, and community. Starting with a prayer and some tips for what you can do about what's happening around us today, and listening to this entire strategy-packed episode, will help you to find your way back to health presence and practice today!

On the other side of Eden, sex doesn't always look as intimate or wholesome, especially in a world where communicating our sexual needs and desires has both been stifled, shamed, and overexposed. This episode is critical for you to listen to on your own, and if possible, with your partner, so you can get started on the road to your most amazing and sacred intimate life together with tons of practical tips and research you don't want to miss. We're also delving into Enneagram language and talking about how each of the types can get stuck in unhealthy patterns as well as become released from them! Don't miss out on this or our new weekly freebie, "The Big 3 Workbook," and our Summer of Love Podcast contest for even more goodies! 

Kendra Swalls info from Girl Means Business also!

We know you're working so hard to make a great life and legacy for future generations together both in the world and in your family. But what do we do in marriage when trials and losses hit, as they inevitably do as time passes. Join Christa for an amazing journey through her own and your grief at each stage with tons of practical and heartfelt marriage and personal tips and an extra special freebie for you from her husband Wes!

We know you're working so hard to make a great life and legacy for future generations together both in the world and in your family. But what do we do in marriage when trials and losses hit, as they inevitably do as time passes. Join Christa for an amazing journey through her own and your grief at each stage with tons of practical and heartfelt marriage and personal tips and an extra special freebie for you from her husband Wes!

We know you're working so hard to make a great life and legacy for future generations together both in the world and in your family. But what do we do in marriage when trials and losses hit, as they inevitably do as time passes. Join Christa for an amazing journey through her own and your grief at each stage with tons of practical and heartfelt marriage and personal tips and an extra special freebie for you from her husband Wes!

Whatever their socioeconomic status, couples continue to report that arguing about finances is one of the three biggest issues in their marriages. In this vital episode, we're talking about the effects of financial infidelity as well as finding your wise and authentic financial voice. Start now on integrating your own budget as we share our weekly tools and more from financial gurus across the globe! Most importantly, you'll learn how couples both particularly struggle as well as overcome together.

Couples we're surveying are talking about a new topic of communication that's currently at hand. The question is about when and how to individually and jointly emerge from quarantine, especially where there's disagreement. When survival is at stake, what and who gives? Join in for this special midweek mini-edition of the podcast in a conversation about how we can still live and work together with our spouses in a loving manner even when we differ about this important and deeply relevant marriage and family topic.

Tired of running around the same marriage stumbling blocks? Join us for another episode where we tackle not just the rhetoric but the actual roadblocks of marriage communication issues! Whatever your Enneagram type, there are some tried-and-true methods for getting through to your spouse that will enrich your relationship for a lifetime!

Just how does your Enneagram type inform your parenting at best and at worst? This is a special episode that's full of grace for parents, and one that we're finally releasing from the pre-quarantine time capsule! We hope you take some time this Mother's Day weekend and beyond to both explore and to embrace the fun and the learning lessons of each Enneagram type, both from your own days as kids and to reflect on your own parenting style. We know you want to be the best parent possible, whatever your type!

Even if you're an assertive type and you don't like to be controlled by another person, human relationships need not only connections, but routines together to thrive, especially married couples. Don't worry, however, routines can be varied and fun! Listen as we go over the vital habits you need to continually establish so you can find or re-find your best routine vibes both individually and together, whatever your Enneagram type! We're also including info about a special freebie and a marriage training opportunity for pastors, counselors, and coaches!

It's so important that during COVID-19, you take care of your emotions as well as to continue to carry in your relationship. How does one do this while quarantined with them for now weeks on end? Tune in to hear how Christa and the couples she's been working with and researching have been navigating these murky waters! Listen for tips on both your type and your spouse's type for an amazing week ahead, plus grab a great freebie to get you back to a healthy quarantine routine!

This week's research has shown cutting edge tips for staying as healthy as possible during COVID-19. In addition to wearing your PPE,  we've learned getting through this harrowing virus has everything to do with your fitness levels! Join Christa for a compelling conversation as we talk all things Enneagram and fitness! You'll learn how you, whatever type you are, can not only improve your own fitness life but also steer your marriage toward life and balance as well!

Have you changed over the years in how you've thought about and related to God? Chances are, your faith has evolved over the years and that your marriage has also been influenced. Tune in as Christa creatively guides you through helpful tools and tips for each Enneagram type not only in the flourishing times but also the desert times. She also offers some tips to stay connected as a couple even if you differ spiritually and shares a refreshing free download!

When quarantine guarantees an unquestionably long time together with your partner, what can you do to keep things not only healthy but also safe? Join us for an important conversation about each type in stress and ways to strategize with your partner so you both land in a safe place of wellness for the duration of the quarantine and beyond. Christa explores not only each type in stress but also highlights a strategy for a healthy rising up to the call of your unique gifts as well. Don't miss out!

Some people spend their entire lives preparing for emergency and when it comes, they find themselves more than equipped to handle the problems. Others of us find ourselves in a whirlwind of emotions we need help processing, sometimes falling apart for a little while. Join this week's podcast for amazing tips on managing both anxiety as an individual as well as a spouse, and learning to differentiate normal anxiety from a paralyzing disorder. Listen also for special tips for managing coronavirus anxiety as well, including a peaceful relaxation exercise to get you grounded well for your week!

Join us for this special episode as host Christa Hardin and her guest, her husband Wes, Enneagram 1, get serious as well as laugh as they contemplate their relationship and whether he's actually been a 3 all this time. This is a special peek into a twenty-four year long relationship and especially relevant if you're someone who wonders about your non-Enneagram obsessed spouse or someone who just want an inner look at another couple's Enneagram + Marriage story! 

During times of local or national stress, couples often become more conflicted that ever. With the world shutdown and Coronavirus upon us, we need each other more than ever so we can stay connected and in healthy control of the things we need to manage well, namely our families. Join us in the special episode where Christa gives your relationship the boost it needs to withstand the pressures of right now, using tools from past critical moments in time, Enneagram insights, and more!

Couples often approach their marriage with eyes of hope and excitement for how their spouse will heal their wounds. This isn?t a faulty approach, as we do help one another to heal. However, when we expect spouses to heal all of our own wounds, most of which started long before marriage, we are let down. Listen to this important episode to learn what you in your type can expect over the beginning, middle, and later stages of marriage as you make the important decision to grow love.

Women are stereotyped as being more emotional than men and our surveys showed that feelings types were indeed much more prevalent with females than males. Join us as we talk about the large number of compliant and withdrawing women we surveyed and especially as we help these types and all types to find their voice in marriage! As we celebrate International Women?s Day this week you don?t want to miss being part of the conversation on how females can increasingly thrive in marriage and relationships!

We're chatting about our lovely Enneagram Twos in this encompassing episode where we share not only well-known type qualities of Twos but also ways they can thrive within their relationships. We're also analyzing ways Twos, who love to give and to love the world can keep up all that helping from a place of health in marriage particularly. Listen as we chat about balancing the subtype and some common strengths and issues each of the other types has in relation to their dear Enneagram Two!

SPECIAL FUN EPISODE: We're taking you through a laid-back, all-in-fun typing episode of your favorite show characters! Let's face it, we've all wanted to slap Enneagram labels on our favorite TV relationship characters a time or two, right? Some of them we can even proudly relate to while others make us cringe at the realization that yes, we are a little like the worst ones at times. Join us in our back and forth banter as we playfully type who you told us you love on The Office, Parks & Rec, and Gilmore Girls! 

One of the most important aspects of any typing system is understanding that males and females are indeed somewhat different both socially and biologically and thus often have differing prevalent personality features. In this episode we share some fascinating collective research on common male patterns in typing as well as the results of two hundred males surveyed on IG. Most importantly, we've got essential tips for how males of all types can both grow and thrive in relationships.

We're chatting about all things Enneagram One in this encompassing episode where we share not only well-known type qualities of Ones but also ways they can thrive within their relationships. We're also analyzing ways Ones, who love to bring order and goodness to the world, can continue to operate within their high standards from a place of health in marriage particularly. Listen as we chat about balancing the type, wings, stress and health points, and perhaps most fun for spouses, some common connection points each of the other types has in relation to the beloved Enneagram One in their life.

As we move into Valentine?s Day weekend we?re talking about all things romance! Whether you approach the world from your head, heart, or body, we?re covering how to go the distance with all things romance for each type and triad. Don?t miss out on this inclusive special episode where we lead you towards what we hope is an amazing romantic reconnection with the love of your life.

Aggressive, Withdrawing, Compliant?Depending on your type, you?re probably prone to any one of these in relation to your partner, especially during a heated battle. In this episode, we examine both the strengths and the cautionary tales of all three styles and discover ways to make your own tendency not only more palatable in marriage but also less pathological. This must-hear episode also finishes by opening the door to our course for those needing more personalized help with energizing their relationship.

In this episode, we talk about the concepts of leaning in to make sure you're listening to and loving your spouse well but also that you're balancing your own self-care and personality with it. Being your authentic best self is a key contributor to the energy and lifeblood of marriage and family health. We're also sharing an invitation to a very special upcoming coaching opportunity geared toward energizing your relationship!

We all want to feel safe and yet sometimes marriage rips open our vulnerability in a way that nothing else can. Whether you lean towards self-preservation, social, or an intimate way of feeling safe instinctually, tuning in to this episode will lead you on a mission toward a healthier balance and an understanding of how you can best love a spouse or partner who differs from you in their own quest for safety.

Join in the fun as we briefly review each type in the individual and marriage setting! Hear your type?s strengths, hardships, and redeeming qualities too, so you can make sure your aim is on point for your very best in marriage and in life!

In this week's episode, Christa Hardin explores and disproves popular marriage myths. From identifying Enneagram types that work well together, to learning how to manage expectations within marriage based on your type, this episode will answer your burning questions and will show how the Enneagram can help in various life situations. 

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