TW: child neglect, addiction, sexual assault, abortion.

You met Kail Lowry at 16, pregnant, on national TV. You never met the girl who came before her. The twenty-some moves, the locked doors, the childhood she spent raising herself long before any cameras showed up. I've known Kail for over ten years and thought I knew her story. I didn't know the half of it.  This is part one: the years no one was watching. 

Interview, narration, and editing by Becky Hayter, with post-production, scripting, and sound design by Emily Nadal.

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TW: outing, homophobia, sudden death of a parent, complicated grief, body image.

Em was outed at 13 ? before she ever got to say the words herself ? and spent years being told she was too young to know who she was. This episode is about what it took to stop hiding: coming out for real on her own terms, finding her wife Paige, and building a family the way they wanted it. It's also about loss. In 2024 she lost her mom suddenly, with a thousand things still unsaid between them, right as she was stepping into motherhood herself. We talk about grief that doesn't come with a clean story, the voice from childhood that never fully goes quiet, and what it means to become the parent you needed when you were small. 

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The second Becks was born, Becky called Alex in a full panic and asked one question: "What account am I supposed to open for him?" Same energy as everyone who's ever Googled "529 vs UTMA" at 11pm. In this episode, Becky admits she had no idea where to even start, and Alex breaks down every kid investment account without making any parent feel like they're already behind.

The Solution

Why the guilt parents feel is real, and why you can't pour from an empty cup (you can borrow for college, you cannot borrow for retirement)529 plans: strong tax advantages and high contribution potential, but locked into education and penalized for non-qualified withdrawalsUTMA custodial accounts: flexible and not tied to education, but your kid gets full control at 18 or 21, plus the "kiddie tax" and financial aid impacts to watch forRoth IRAs for kids: decades of tax-free growth, but only if your child has legitimate earned income (sorry, newborns don't qualify)Brokerage accounts: total flexibility, accessible anytime, and the account Alex and Becky both chose for their kids, with exactly why and how they set it upWhat to do if you're not financially stable yet, because there are still free, low-cost ways to start

This week's homework: If you're not stable yet, open a high-yield savings account in your kid's name and funnel birthday and holiday money into it, or just start building money habits at home. If you are stable, pick the ONE account that fits your family, not your friend's seven accounts on Instagram.

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Because money is emotional, and you deserve to feel safe with it. Love you, mean it.

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains detailed descriptions of domestic violence, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and coercive control.

Lauren spent four years inside a relationship that cost her almost everything ? her safety, her money, her freedom, and pieces of herself she's still recovering. She left with a one-year-old son, no car, and nowhere to go. What happened next wasn't a clean start. It was a slow, unsteady crawl back toward a life that actually looked like her.

This is what surviving looks like when it isn't pretty.

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Every time someone mentions a Roth IRA, do you nod along and then immediately Google it the second they walk away? Same. In this episode, Becky admits she still isn't totally sure what she has or doesn't have when it comes to retirement accounts, and Alex breaks it all down without making anyone feel behind.

The Solution

What a Roth IRA actually is and why Alex is obsessed with it (hint: the government doesn't get a cut)The difference between a Roth and a traditional account, explained in a way that finally makes senseWhy just opening the account isn't enough and the one step most beginners skipHSAs: the triple tax advantage account that most people scroll past during open enrollmentFSA vs. HSA, because yes, they are very different and one of them disappears if you don't use itThe income limits, contribution limits, and the deadline most people don't know exists

This week's homework: Check your emergency fund, peek at your retirement accounts, and spend ten minutes learning one financial concept you've been avoiding. That's it. That's the whole assignment.

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TW: Infertility, pregnancy loss references, birth trauma, body image, postpartum hemorrhage, medical trauma.

One in six people will experience infertility and most of them will do it in silence. Gel did two rounds of IVF through a global pandemic, went to every appointment alone, gave birth with her husband waiting outside the building, and spent two and a half years not recognizing her own body. She's finally talking about it.

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TW: heart failure, near-death/flatline, suicide loss, domestic abuse, depression.

At three months old, Bree was given six months to live. She's 49 now ? the only one left from a group of kids born with the same heart condition. We talk about being a "miracle baby" with the weight of that title, grieving the version of yourself you used to be, and the difference between existing and actually living.

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You make decent money. You're contributing something to your 401(k). You think you're good. But what if I told you there's free money sitting on the table ? money your employer literally wants to give you ? and most people have no idea they're walking away from it?

This week on Wallet Therapy, Becky admits she spent years contributing 2% to her 401(k) and missing out on her full employer match (oof), and Alex breaks down the part of your paycheck you might not even know you're leaving behind.

We get into:

What an employer match actually IS (explained like you're five)Why this is step five on your money journey ? and when it's okay to skip aheadThe "paycheck illusion" and why contributing $100 doesn't actually take $100 out of your checkRoth vs. Traditional 401(k) ? and why Alex has strong feelings about itReal numbers: what starting at 20 vs. 30 vs. 40 vs. 50 actually looks like at retirementWhy it's NEVER too late to start (and the math to prove it)

Your homework: Log into your 401(k) right now. Check your contribution percentage. Is it hitting your full employer match? If not, increase it today. That's it. That's the assignment.

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TW: parental death, grief, generational trauma, brain surgery, mentions of medical events.

Laura and Este grew up in the same massive Italian family ? same Christmases, same wedding tables, same kitchen ? and barely spoke for the first 20 years of their lives. Then Laura's dad died. This conversation is about grief, immigrant parents, generational patterns, and the cousin who became her person inside a family she'd known her whole life. 

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TW: parental abandonment, complicated grief, dementia, caregiver burnout, complex family dynamics.

Danielle was raised by a single mom with a disability in the same small town as the father who chose not to be part of her life. Now she's parenting her own daughter while becoming a caregiver for the mother who raised her ? who's living with dementia. This conversation is about growing up early, grieving a door that never opened, and learning to love in two directions at once.

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70% of couples argue about money more than they argue about chores ? and yet nobody teaches us how to actually talk about it. Becky gets real this week, confessing that the second she downloaded Monarch and started tracking every dollar, Leah felt like she was being audited (in her defense, the mystery $450 Amazon charge turned out to be baby formula). She's said no to dinners with friends, her social life feels strained, and now she's wondering ? is getting your money together supposed to cost you your relationships? If you've ever felt the squeeze between financial goals and the people you love, this one is for you.

The Solution: Alex (The Expert) walks through the three conversations every couple needs to be having ? and the mindset shifts that make them work:

The Vision Date: Start with dreams, not numbers. Where do you want to be in 1, 3, 5, 10 years? Shared goals are what make the spending plan actually stick.The Monthly Check-In: 15-20 minutes, consistent, awareness not judgment. No hour-long money court sessions.The Emergency Huddle: When the unexpected hits, no blame ? just solution.The 50/50 Trap: Why splitting bills equally when incomes aren't equal quietly causes financial infidelity ? and why a percentage-based split is almost always more fair.The Friendship Tax: How to handle friends who spend at a different level than you (spoiler: the counter-offer changes everything).Your Most Expensive Relationship: Why your phone is quietly costing you more than any person in your life, and the 24-hour rule that helps you break up with it.

Plus, we answer a question from Anonymous ? she's over 50, just told her husband about $10K in credit card debt, and he suggested separate fun accounts + a shared household account. Alex walks her through exactly where to start.

Schedule a vision date with your partner this week (or your future one ? this still works solo). No spreadsheets. No numbers. Just dreams. Where do you want to be in 1, 3, 5, 10 years? Making it public makes it real.

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains detailed discussions of pregnancy loss, stillbirth, infant death, and postpartum depression.

After years of navigating PCOS and multiple IUI cycles, Kortney finally heard the words she?d prayed for: "You?re pregnant." But the joy of expecting twins, Kinsley and Cameron, was met with a terrifying reality at her 20-week scan. Her cervix had opened, and her pregnancy shifted into a crisis no parent is prepared for.

In this episode, Kortney walks us through the delivery of her twins at 21 weeks, the "Cuddle Cot" that gave her precious time with them, and the grueling path through IVF to bring her daughter and son home years later. This is a raw look at grief, the "redemption" of a healthy birth, and learning that joy and loss can coexist.

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses parental alcoholism, child neglect, suicide attempts, and graphic descriptions of traumatic death.

In this episode, Starr sits down with me to pull back the curtain on a childhood where "home" was never a synonym for "safe." For Starr, life was a constant exercise in "second nature" awareness?learning to read the room before the day even unfolded to see which version of her mother she was going to get.

From witnessing a traumatic police intervention before the age of three to watching her mother jump from a second-story balcony, Starr?s story is a raw look at the "Jekyll and Hyde" reality of loving an addict. We discuss the heavy burden of being an emotional caretaker for a parent, the complicated "relief" that comes with a traumatic loss, and the "gut punch" of finding her mother?s secret journals a year after her death?words that finally answered the "why" Starr had been carrying her entire life. Today, Starr is focused on breaking the cycle, prioritizing peace, and navigating the terrifying path of becoming the mother she never had.

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Most of us treat our credit cards like a safety net, but as Alex points out, the average household is actually trapped under $17 trillion in national debt. Becky gets vulnerable this week, admitting to a peak of $30,000 in credit card debt and the "vicious cycle" of consolidating balances just to rack them up again. If you?ve ever looked at your banking app through your fingers, this one is for you.

The Solution: Alex (The Expert) breaks down the "High Interest Killer"?debts at 7-8% or higher that cost you more than the stock market could ever make you. We break down the two heavy-hitters of payoff strategy:

The Snowball: Paying the smallest balances first for that emotional "win".The Avalanche: Tackling high-interest rates first to save the most money mathematically.

CTA: We?re challenging you to find just $5 extra this week to put toward your smallest debt?prove to the bank that you are the boss of that dollar!

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses fatal car accidents, drunk driving, and graphic descriptions of loss.

In August 2023, Brooke?s life was shattered. Her husband, Shawn, was killed in a head-on collision by a drunk driver with a BAC of 0.28 while on his way to work.

What followed was a harrowing journey through a legal system that Brooke feels hands victims a "life sentence" while the responsible party receives only a fraction of that time. From identifying Shawn by surgical screws in his ankle to facing the driver who was once a face on her own Facebook feed, Brooke?s story is a raw look at the cost of a "choice". Today, she is fighting to change DUI laws and keeping Shawn?s memory alive through "Shine for Shawn".

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses miscarriage and the emotional toll of pregnancy loss.

"I just wanna kiss a girl. I would never date one." That was the internal narrative Jean Kupers held until she met her wife, Allie. Growing up in a small town with rigid gender roles and "wacko" but liberal-leaning parents, Jean?s path to motherhood was anything but traditional. From the clinical coldness of IVF to the devastating loss of their first female embryo, this episode is a raw look at what it means to build a family with intention when biology doesn't do the heavy lifting.

Jean opens up about the "non-birthing partner struggle"?the fear that the lack of a genetic or physical connection would create a barrier between her and her son, Carson. We dive deep into the controversial world of sperm donors, the "father" typo on a birth certificate that sparked an identity crisis, and why Jean is choosing a different path (IUI) for baby number two. This isn't just a story about being queer; it's a story about the universal anxiety of wondering: Will I be enough?

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Is your phone giving you a "pit in your stomach" every time you check your bank balance? You aren't alone?53% of Americans couldn't cover a $1,000 emergency with savings.

In this episode of Wallet Therapy, Becky admits she?s been "driving through a rainstorm without windshield wipers" , while Alex explains why a Starter Emergency Fund is actually your most important "insurance policy for your sanity". We?re breaking down the "Starter" vs. "Fully Funded" approach, why you need to move your money to a separate High-Yield Savings Account (HYSA) to stop impulse spending , and why building this fund is actually a higher priority than paying off your credit cards.

In this episode, we discuss:

The 3-Question Test: How to tell if a "70% off blazer" or a "Vegas birthday trip" is actually an emergency (Spoiler: They aren?t) .The "Out of Sight" Strategy: Why your savings needs to live at a completely different bank than your checking account.Financial Whack-A-Mole: Why it?s actually a win when your emergency fund hits zero because of a vet bill or a dead microwave.The "F-You" Money Goal: Transitioning from a $1,000 starter fund to a fully-fledged 3?12 month "warm blanket" of security.

Your Homework: Open a separate savings account today (it?s free!) and transfer your first $5 into it?even if you have to find it in your couch cushions.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains deep discussions of multiple family losses, terminal cancer, and the sudden death of a spouse.

"Wait, that?s not what was supposed to happen." Those were the words Brittany told me when reflecting on the loss of her father?the "healthy" parent who was supposed to be her rock. She didn't know then that it was only the beginning of a five-year window that would claim four of the most important people in her life, ending with the sudden loss of her husband and best friend in September 2024.

Now a single mother of two, Brittany sits down with me to pull back the curtain on what it actually looks like to carry "shattered pieces" while trying to be a whole person for your children. This isn't a story about "getting over it"?it's a raw look at emotional survival when the world stops turning, but the clock keeps ticking.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses premature birth, traumatic labor, medical intervention for micro-preemies, and birth-related trauma.

"Your family didn't come in your sea bag." That?s what they tell you in the Navy. But what happens when your "family" is a 1-pound, 6-ounce baby fighting for her life in a plastic box while you?re expected back in uniform?

This week, I sit down with a woman who lived through every parent's nightmare while serving her country. At 23 weeks and 4 days, she woke up in a pool of blood, eight hours from home, and facing a medical team that pressured her to choose "comfort care"?essentially letting her baby pass away?because of her age and status as a single mother.

She chose the fight. She hit the 24-week "viability" mark by a mere two hours, delivered via emergency C-section, and was back on active duty just six weeks later. This is the raw, unfiltered reality of a 129-day NICU stay, brain bleeds, 20 blood transfusions, and the staggering resilience of a Sailor who refused to take "no" for an answer.

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Ever feel like you?re on top of the world on Friday, only to be digging through couch cushions for change by Monday? You aren?t alone?and it?s not just a "low income" problem. In this episode of Wallet Therapy, Becky (the Novice) and Alex (the Expert) dive into the "Friday High" vs. the "Monday Panic." We?re breaking down why even high-income earners find themselves trapped in a cycle of overspending and how to finally build some breathing room.

Inside the episode:

The "Friday High": Why your brain triggers a sense of abundance on payday (and how to survive the weekend).High Earners, Zero Balances: The shocking stats on why making $100k+ doesn't automatically fix the cycle.The Financial Firewall: Alex coaches a listener through a $20k windfall to build a safety net that actually works.The $40 Ghost: Becky shares how she found an extra $40/month just by looking (and why you should, too).Systems vs. Willpower: Why "trying harder" fails and how to automate your way to a net-zero spending plan.

Weekly Homework:

Find Your Leak: Audit your last 30 days and cancel one subscription or "convenience spend" you don't use.Automate the Difference: Set up an auto-transfer to your savings for that exact amount on payday.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses teen pregnancy, adoption, and cancer diagnosis.

Jamie Shoemaker?s life has never been a straight line. From navigating a high-pressure teen pregnancy in a conservative church to choosing a private open adoption at fifteen, Jamie has spent her life breaking cycles. She?s been an egg donor, a mother, and a fierce advocate for her own body?a skill that became a matter of life and death when a routine check-up turned into a cervical cancer diagnosis at age 35.

In this conversation, Jamie opens up about the "mind-fuck" of having her uterus?the organ that connected her to so much community and life?suddenly become the villain. We dive into the complexities of open adoption twenty years later, the reality of "survival" income through egg donation, and why she wrote an "ode to her uterus" before a life-altering hysterectomy. Jamie is a storyteller who reminds us that healing doesn?t happen in isolation and that "rest" is not a four-letter word.

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RIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses late-term stillbirth, medical trauma, and postpartum hemorrhaging.

"I didn't even have to hear the words. I could read it all over her face." Alyssa was 38 weeks pregnant?at the finish line?when the world stopped. In this raw conversation, Alyssa walks us through the devastating loss of her first daughter, Marianna Yvette, and the terrifying medical crisis that followed, leaving Alyssa "knocking on heaven?s door."

We dive deep into the reality of pregnancy after loss?the scans every two weeks, the inability to feel excitement until the baby is crying in your arms, and the bittersweet realization that one child's life only exists because another's ended. This is a story about honoring the dead while fiercely raising the living.

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Becky has beef with the word budget.

It feels restrictive. It feels like failure waiting to happen. It feels like getting grounded.

So in this episode of Wallet Therapy, Becky and Alex are flipping the script. We?re retiring the word ?budget? and replacing it with something that doesn?t make your nervous system panic: a spending plan.

Inside this episode, we cover:

Why 84% of people ?fail? at budgeting (and why that?s not a you problem)The three-bucket method: Needs, Fun Money (aka the Becky Fund), and Debt/SavingsWhy fun money actually helps you reach your savings goalsHow to stop the all-or-nothing spiral after one $20 saladThe 10-Second Reset to interrupt impulse spending in real timeWhy your spending plan should align with your values ? not punish you

This isn?t about tracking your failures.

It?s about planning your freedom.

If you?ve ever started a budget on Monday and emotionally quit by Thursday, this one?s for you.

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This episode discusses severe alcoholism, suicidal ideation, and suicide attempts. Please listen with care.

I sat down with Nicole, a mother of five who lived a "normal" life on the outside while a dark hole was swallowing her from the inside. From her first blackout at thirteen to drinking a Costco-sized handle of vodka every 24 hours, Nicole?s story is a harrowing look at how addiction isolates us from the people we love most?including ourselves.

We dive deep into the moments the world doesn't see: the manipulation, the medical emergencies, and the day Nicole decided it would be better if she simply wasn't here anymore. But the pills didn't work, and what followed was a grueling, beautiful, and 180-degree transformation. This isn't just a story about quitting a substance; it?s about a woman who spent years unable to be alone with herself finally learning to love the person she sees in the mirror.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses the sudden loss of a parent and substance abuse recovery.

When Kylie lost her mother unexpectedly in 2024, her life shifted in an instant. She didn't just lose her mom; she became the legal guardian of her teenage brother, Josh. But she wasn't alone. Her husband, Griff, didn't hesitate. Without a formal meeting or a long debate, he stepped into the role of a father figure, proving that family isn't just about biology?it?s about who shows up when the world falls apart.

In this episode, I sit down with Griff to hear the perspective we don't often get: the partner who chooses to take on the "messy" parts of a spouse?s history. From navigating vastly different upbringings to the reality of family therapy and the friction of parenting a teenager while still being "newlyweds," this is a raw look at resilience, loyalty, and what it actually means to be a team.

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Welcome to the very first episode of our Wallet Therapy miniseries!

Ever feel like everyone else got the "how to be an adult with money" memo except for you? You?re not alone. In this kickoff episode, sisters Becky and Alex pull back the curtain on their own bank accounts. Becky gets real about her "add to cart" addiction and the overwhelm of looking at a bank statement , while Alex shares how she went from financial chaos to becoming a Finance Coach.

It?s a kitchen-table conversation about our "Money Stories"?the good, the bad, and the expensive. We?re setting the stage to bridge the gap between being totally clueless and finally feeling in control. No shame, no jargon, just two sisters trying to help you (and each other) figure it out.

In this episode, we cover:

- The "Aha!" moments that led to this podcast.

- Alex?s non-judgmental approach to behavior-based coaching.

- How we?re going to survive these episodes without a sisterly blowout.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses addiction, overdose, sudden death of a parent, and self-harm.

When Kylie was 21, she got the call every child of an addict dreads: her mother had overdosed. While her mother eventually found sobriety, her sudden passing in 2024 left Kylie with a choice that wasn't really a choice at all. Within 48 hours, she had to fight the state of Massachusetts to keep her 12-year-old brother, Josh, out of the system.

This isn't just a story about grief; it's about the "invisible" work of stepping up. From hunting down death certificates in different cities to explaining to a judge why a newlywed couple is the best place for a grieving teenager, Kylie?s journey is raw and unfiltered. Later in the episode, Josh joins us to share the perspective we rarely hear?the teenager?s side of loss and what it?s like when your sister becomes your "mom."

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One sister is a professional Finance Coach (Alex). The other... has a shopping cart habit she?s not exactly ready to discuss (Becky).

Welcome to Wallet Therapy, a new miniseries living right here in the For The Hayters feed. We?re bridging the gap between "I should probably save money" and "But look how cute this is in person."

Join us every other Thursday for a real conversation about the messy, emotional, and sometimes hilarious reality of money. We?re tackling the stuff that actually keeps you up at night:

Why we spend when we?re stressed.How to break the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle.Navigating money with your partner without the fight.Real stories from the trenches (mostly Becky?s).

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses medical trauma, brain tumors, miscarriage, and infant loss.

"I?m going to be strong for you." It?s the vow every caregiver makes, but rarely do we talk about the crushing weight of that promise. Ryan Leonard joins me to pull back the curtain on what it?s actually like to be the "well-spouse." When his wife Cheryl?who had already survived two brain tumors?experienced a sudden, sharp pain just four months after the birth of their second child, their world shifted back into a nightmare they thought they had escaped.

Ryan opens up about the "beauty and the burden" of caregiving. We dive into the reality of medical gaslighting between oncologists and radiologists, the agonizing choice between life-saving treatment and the dream of having more children, and the moment Ryan had to swallow his pride to ask for help. This isn't a story of toxic positivity; it?s a raw look at marriage, resilience, and choosing love even when it feels like a heavy weight.

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TRIGGER WARNING: TW: This episode discusses addiction, abandonment, child medical trauma, and miscarriage.

Daniella became a mom at 20, expecting a "normal" transition into adulthood. Instead, she found herself navigating a high-risk pregnancy, a disconnect with her newborn that lasted nearly a year, and a partner lost to addiction.

But the fight was just beginning. From holding her two-week-old son down for painful medical tests to battling doctors who dismissed her oldest son?s "staring spells" as daydreaming, Daniella?s story is a masterclass in maternal instinct. She opens up about the reality of "grieving the life you expected," the terror of invisible illnesses like epilepsy, and how a local barber stepped up to heal three hearts without ever breaking them.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses postpartum depression, suicidal ideation in children, chronic pain, and mental health crises.

When Katie sat down with me, she described a moment leaning over her 6-month-old?s crib, crying so hard that her baby stopped crying out of shock. That was the moment she knew she was in the "vortex." After a 20-year career in nursing, Katie found herself battling severe medical gaslighting during pregnancy, debilitating chronic migraines, and the terrifying reality of parenting a child with severe mental health struggles.

But the hardest thing she had to do? She had to learn how to emotionally detach from her daughter?s pain in order to save her. In this raw conversation, we talk about the identity shift of leaving a stable career, the lie of "balancing it all," and how to find peace when your body and your family are in crisis.

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This episode discusses death of a minor, emotional abuse, family estrangement, and traumatic birth/NICU experiences.

Ciyla Fletcher is only 25, but she has lived a dozen lifetimes. From moving 15 times before adulthood to being raised by grandparents while her parents drifted in and out, Ciyla learned early on that "chaos felt like safety." But the hits didn't stop at childhood instability.

At 16, Ciyla lost her best friend and first love, Bailey. Instead of support, she faced a campaign of jealousy and rumors from her own family members who told her she "had no right to grieve." Now, as a mother of two and a nursing student, Ciyla is rewriting the definition of family. In this raw conversation, we discuss the pain of having a father who calls you a "stranger," the maturity required to co-parent peacefully at 20 years old, and why being thankful you don't understand betrayal is the ultimate sign of healing.

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Trigger Warning: This episode includes detailed discussion of miscarriage (including missed miscarriage and medication-assisted miscarriage), grief, medical trauma/insensitive care, anxiety/SSRI withdrawal, and fertility-related testing. Please take care of yourself while listening.

Today?s episode of For The Hayters features Kim Gordon, who shares the reality of navigating two miscarriages?and the complicated, layered grief that comes with each one. Kim opens up about the shock of learning her baby had no heartbeat during what was supposed to be a joyful milestone, the painful and traumatic experience of taking medication to miscarry at home, and the ways medical systems can fail people when they?re most vulnerable.

Kim also talks about how grief impacted her marriage?how she needed to talk while her husband shut down, and how their emotional experiences flipped during the second loss. From advocating for better care, switching providers, exploring progesterone support and blood clotting labs, to rebuilding her mental health, Kim?s story is raw, honest, and deeply validating for anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss?or loved someone who has.

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Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of postpartum depression, self harm thoughts, pregnancy loss, intimate partner violence, and death and grief.

Today?s episode of For The Hayters features Teri, a mom who has lived through postpartum depression, the loss of her father and two brothers, and the work of building a blended family while healing from an abusive relationship.

Teri shares what it was like becoming a mom at 18, experiencing pregnancy loss, and trying to raise two little ones while still learning how to grow up herself. She opens up about grief that stacked before she ever had time to breathe, including losing her dad in 2017 and later losing both brothers in 2023 and 2024.

We also talk about what postpartum depression looked like for her after her youngest child, the moment she realized she needed help, and how support, therapy, and honest communication became part of her healing. This conversation is about motherhood, survival, rebuilding, and what it means to keep choosing yourself and your kids, even when it is hard.

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Trigger warning This episode discusses pregnancy loss medical trauma and grief.

Today?s episode of For The Hayters shares Melissa?s powerful and emotional journey through high risk pregnancies cesarean scar complications postpartum depression ectopic pregnancies NICU life and the devastating loss of her mother.

Melissa opens up about becoming a mom at 26 navigating two emergency C sections experiencing a NICU stay during peak COVID and later facing both a traditional ectopic pregnancy and a rare cesarean scar ectopic pregnancy that required emergency intervention.

She shares the physical and emotional toll of those moments the loneliness that comes with navigating the medical system the fear of not knowing if she would survive another pregnancy and the heartbreak of losing her mother only one week after undergoing surgery.

This story is raw honest and full of courage. Today Melissa is expecting baby number four a reminder that hope can exist even after unthinkable pain.

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Trigger Warning for pregnancy loss stillbirth miscarriage trauma and postpartum mental health

Today?s episode of For The Hayters shares Kassie?s powerful story of losing her daughter Sutton at 21 weeks. Kassie walked into her routine anatomy scan expecting the same relief she felt with her first pregnancy. Instead she heard the words every parent fears. There is no heartbeat.

Kassie opens up about feeling something was wrong the week before her appointment the shock of delivering her daughter the panic attacks that took over her life the intrusive thoughts that followed and the EMDR therapy that helped her finally breathe again. She also shares what helped her heal the importance of community and why remembering these babies matters.

There is so much courage in this conversation and so much hope for anyone walking through loss today.

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Trigger Warning This episode discusses medical trauma chronic sorrow seizure activity and the emotional realities of caring for a medically complex child. Please take care while listening.

Today?s episode of For The Hayters shares Misty?s story of raising her seven year old son, Jackson, who lives with IQSEC2, a rare and severely debilitating genetic disorder. Misty opens up about the shock of a normal pregnancy, the sudden onset of seizures, the search for answers, and the moment she learned that her child?s diagnosis had no clear roadmap or cure.

She talks about the weight of being a full time caregiver, the grief of milestones that may never come, navigating a medical system that often makes survival feel like a fight, and the deeper purpose she has found in advocating for other families of medically complex kids.

This episode is a look into a kind of motherhood many people never see. The love. The fear. The strength. The chronic sorrow. And the small moments of joy that make everything worth it.

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses infertility medical dismissal and emotional health struggles. Please take care while listening.

Today?s episode of For The Hayters shares Sonia?s powerful story of navigating PCOS infertility and years of medical dismissal. After missing periods for months at a time sudden unexplained weight gain and countless negative pregnancy tests she knew something was wrong. But every doctor told her she was fine.

Sonia opens up about the emotional toll of being dismissed again and again the cultural pressure around women?s health and the moment she finally found answers while working inside a fertility clinic. She talks about PCOS symptoms insulin resistance low ovarian reserve and how finding the right doctor changed everything.

This is a story about trusting your body fighting for answers and refusing to shrink yourself to make others comfortable.

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Today?s episode of For The Hayters shares Katie?s powerful story of growing up in a home filled with emotional abuse, scapegoating, and toxic family dynamics. For years, she believed she was the problem. She believed she was unlovable. She believed something was wrong with her.

After a lifetime of manipulation, guilt, and feeling invisible, Katie made the hardest choice she has ever made. She walked away from her parents and siblings to reclaim her peace and rebuild her life.

In this episode, Katie opens up about the shame, fear, and isolation that come with going no contact and the healing work that finally helped her see the truth. This is a story about survival, self worth, and the courage it takes to break a cycle that should never have existed.

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses grief, military loss, depression, and suicidal thoughts. Please listen with care and step away if you need to protect your peace.

In Part 2 of Crystal?s story, she reads letters her late husband Jake wrote from boot camp, recounts the day she received the knock at the door every military wife fears, and opens up about the long journey of healing that followed.

Through pain, therapy, and years of self-work, Crystal found her way back to purpose ? and to herself.

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of childhood trauma, addiction, sexual abuse, and grief related to military loss. Please take care while listening and skip this episode if you need to protect your own peace.

At just 19, Crystal?s world shattered when her husband Jake ? her high school sweetheart and best friend ? was killed in Afghanistan. In this two-part episode, she opens up about their love story, the pain of loss, and how she found purpose through helping others heal.

This story is about heartbreak, strength, and the power of love that never leaves.

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TW: Medical trauma, hospitalization of a child, discussion of seizures

Today?s episode of For The Hayters shares Jordan?s powerful story of parenting a medically complex child. Her daughter, Reagan, was diagnosed with infantile spasms ? a rare and serious form of epilepsy ? at just nine months old.

Jordan opens up about the first signs she noticed, the overwhelming journey through hospital stays, steroid treatments, insurance battles, therapy, and the emotional toll of caring for her child while her husband travels for work.

This is a story about motherhood, intuition, and never giving up ? even when every step feels impossible.

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Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions about miscarriage, infertility, pregnancy loss, and fertility treatments which may be difficult for some listeners.

In this episode of For The Hayters, Shaheena shares her powerful story of navigating multiple miscarriages, years of infertility, and two pregnancies during the height of COVID.

Her journey through grief, IVF, and motherhood is a reminder that even in our most painful chapters, hope and healing can coexist.

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This week on For The Hayters, Sara shares what it means to heal as a first-generation Latina. From being called ?toxic? for setting boundaries to redefining what peace looks like inside her culture, her story is about courage, forgiveness, and breaking generational cycles.

Sara opens up about her mental health journey, postpartum struggles, and the guilt that comes with choosing yourself when your family calls it selfish. Through therapy, faith, and community, she learned that boundaries are love ? and that healing and culture can sit at the same table.

If you?ve ever felt alone for doing things differently than the generations before you, this episode is for you.

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So many of us carry guilt for what we didn?t do. Mira loved her grandfather deeply ? yet she was the only one in her family who didn?t visit him in the hospital to say goodbye.

For nearly ten years she has wrestled with shame, isolation, and the long road back to grace. Today, Mira opens up about love that lasts, forgiveness that takes time, and learning to let joy sit beside grief.

If you?ve ever replayed a moment and wished you could change it, this conversation is for you.

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This conversation with Jen Harper is about more than beauty. It is about culture resilience and turning pain into purpose. Jen shares her journey through childhood abandonment addiction and recovery and how reconnecting with her Indigenous identity led to the creation of Cheekbone Beauty and Canada?s first Indigenous innovation lab. We talk healing representation sustainability and the power of believing in yourself and taking one consistent step at a time

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At just ten years old, Paige lost her mom to breast cancer. The people who were supposed to protect her left her feeling alone, and she carried that grief in silence for years. Paige opens up about growing up without support, being told to get over it, turning to drinking to cope, and what it meant to finally build the family she always longed for.

This episode is about breaking cycles, choosing boundaries, and finding healing in the everyday love of chosen family, a steady partner, and two little boys who turned on the lights. Paige?s story is a reminder that even when the people you needed most let you down, it?s still possible to create a life filled with love, safety, and hope.

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In this episode of For The Hayters, Kari opens up about her journey through toxic relationships, betrayal by her closest friend, and the weight of abandonment that began in childhood. She shares the painful truth of emotional and verbal abuse, the challenges of single motherhood, and the long road of rebuilding trust. With honesty and courage, Kari shows us what it looks like to heal through therapy, co parenting, and eventually finding a safe and steady love.

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This week on For The Hayters Podcast, Noah opens up about living with OCD ? not the stereotype of cleaning or checking, but the reality of intrusive thoughts of harming others. Noah shares how these thoughts began in childhood, intensified during his time in the Army, and led to multiple hospital stays before finally receiving a diagnosis in 2020.

Through therapy, medication, and exposure and response prevention, Noah has learned to separate who he is from what his thoughts tell him. His story is a powerful reminder that OCD is widely misunderstood, and that people living with it deserve compassion, support, and community.

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From the outside, Mackenzie was a student athlete and business owner with a bright future. Behind the scenes, she was fighting a silent battle with depression and suicidal thoughts.

In this conversation, Mackenzie opens up about her childhood, the loss of her grandmother, the pressures of college athletics, and the weight of living in silence. She shares how journaling, therapy, inpatient treatment, and building her brand Stay Another Day helped her find hope and purpose again.

This episode is a reminder that vulnerability is strength, that you don?t have to go through hard things alone, and that there are always reasons to stay another day.

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@stayanotherdayshop | stayanotherday.com

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