Links to things mentioned:

Natalie?s Flying Free site, and Natalie?s awesome Facebook Page, Instagram, and YouTube channel. Plus listen in to her podcast!
Natalie?s book ?Is It Me??
The terrible books Natalie mentioned: Our post about Created To Be His Helpmeet; Julie Anne Smith?s review of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
The book that helped Natalie: Leslie Vernick?s Emotionally Destructive Marriage
Patrick Weaver?s I Hate Divorce t-shirts
Patrick Weaver on the Malachi verse that is too often translated ?God hates divorce?
My post on how marriage was made for us, not us for marriage
Support us on Patreon! Or check out our awesome merch!
Our Marriage Misdiagnosis series! My mental load series: With thanks to Eve Rodsky and Fair Play!
Emily Nagoski?s book Come As You Are
Krispin Mayfield?s podcast on attachment, and his book Attached to God
The awesome men who have helped my thinking on sexual habits and the pornified style of relating?Andrew J. Bauman and Michael John Cusick? 

On Plagiarism:

Scot McKnight's book A Church Called TOV

https://amzn.to/3cRXoDM

Scot McKnight's New Testament Everyday Bible Study Series:

https://amzn.to/3x3CBUV

Scot McKnight's previous podcast with us:

https://baremarriage.com/2021/04/podcast-a-church-called-tov-and-matthew-18/

Warren Throckmorton on Mark Driscoll's apparent plagiarism:

https://wthrockmorton.com/2014/03/03/mark-driscolls-tim-keller-remix-is-this-plagiarism/

David Dzimianski on Tim Keller's apparent plagiarism:

https://twitter.com/DavidDzimianski/status/1557790921101565952

Aaron New on Tim Clinton's history of Plagiarism:

https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1038574734697476097.html

Christine Caine's plagiarism:

https://wthrockmorton.com/2018/10/11/zondervan-settles-plagiarism-case-involving-christine-caine-without-apology/

Josh Howerton's Twitter Threads:

Original Twitter Thread (long) about how plagiarism by pastors is fine:

https://twitter.com/howertonjosh/status/1410306470726471686?lang=en

More recent Tweet about ethics of using someone's material without naming them if you disagree with them:

https://twitter.com/howertonjosh/status/1504120148818542595

Articles on Controversy with Josh Howerton and Andy Wood

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/anxiousbench/2022/08/im-sorry-but-youve-been-canceled/

Article Explaining Andy Wood controversy with Mark Driscoll

https://julieroys.com/andy-wood-apologizes-driscoll-interview-critics-dont-buy/

Andy Stanley's book The New Rules of Love, Sex and Dating:

https://amzn.to/3erUDcQ

YouTube sermon where Andy Stanley goes over the central points of this book, which Josh Howerton seems to have used:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIOMNzz9Srw (start at around 22:00)

Steven Furtick sermon with "two halves don't make a whole":

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eu6E7SY-QJE (start around 6:30)

Josh Howerton sermon where he says arguing with him is like arguing with God:

https://subsplash.com/lakepointe/---media/mi/+c7tmk53 (start around 12:20)

Note: The sermon we're referring to I originally saw because it was listed on this page. That sermon has since been removed. It is the only sermon from 2022 that can no longer be found on the Lakepointe Church site, on YouTube, and on their podcast archives. It was there a few weeks ago; it's now gone. I have no idea why, unless he got wind of what we were doing (some people did know, and there have been "breadcrumbs" in the last few podcasts). I hope to see a public statement from Lakepointe and Josh Howerton apologizing for plagiarism, and saying this is why they took the sermon down. If so, I will let you all know and read it out to you!

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST

Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to an awesome Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more. Or if you don?t want to support long term, considering leaving something in our tip jar! Katelyn Beaty?s book Celebrities for Jesus! Plus find Katelyn on Twitter ! That?s where I got to know her.Our evidence-based courses: The Orgasm Course and the Boost Your Libido course and the Honeymoon Prep Course!

Links to things mentioned:

https://www.amazon.ca/Great-Rescue-Sheila-Wray-Gregoire/dp/1540900827

http://Patreon.com/baremarriage

Download our rubric and scorecard! https://baremarriage.com/gsr-rubric/

The blog post where I include links for everything I talked about, plus write out the email we sent to Gary Thomas:
https://baremarriage.com/2022/08/podcast-how-have-the-authors-we-critiqued-responded-to-the-great-sex-rescue/

Links to things mentioned:

Patreon https://patreon.com/baremarriage

Our Whole Story Sex & Puberty course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/

An article about Chief Theresa Kachimondoto

https://www.lifegate.com/theresa-kachindamoto-child-marriage-malawi

The All the Books YouTube video:

https://youtu.be/rFl8sJg8VqY

The Rise of Lonely, Single Men

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-state-our-unions/202208/the-rise-lonely-single-men

Pew Research Study they cite:

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2021/10/05/rising-share-of-u-s-adults-are-living-without-a-spouse-or-partner/

Study on loneliness in men:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886920302555

Our emotional maturity series:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/11/emotional-maturity-series-what-is-emotional-maturity/

Links to things mentioned:

The New Gospel for Women: Katharine Bushnell and the Challenge of Christian Feminism

https://amzn.to/3QivoHX

On Purpose: Understanding God's Freedom for Women Through Scripture

Julie Zine Coleman

https://amzn.to/3zKYB7y

Patreon:
http://patreon.com/baremarriage

The Great Sex Rescue https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Links to things mentioned:

Josephine Butler, Patron Saint of Prostitutes (it's a great read for the summer!)Join our Patreon and support the podcast transcription--and all the research we're doing!Check out our biblical womanhood merch!If you haven't read The Great Sex Rescue yet, you need to. It seriously will change your life. And then buy it for a pastor or counselor you know!

Links to things mentioned:

The Great Sex Rescue: Our new book, that looks at how harmful some of these messages have beenSupport our research by joining our Patreon group! Even for as  little as $5 or $8 a month!Our "Do All Men Struggle with Lust" podcastOur open letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect (at the bottom of this post is links to all of the other things we've said about this book)The study on complaining and maladaptive worry and status

Links to things mentioned:

Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/

And his book The Sexually Healthy Man: https://amzn.to/3p4JmyF

Benjamin Young's Twitter Thread: https://twitter.com/BJYoung1990/status/1353521004073652224

Benjamin Young's ministry Guard the Gift: https://guardthegift.com/

The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Our Previous Podcast on Marital Rape and Consent: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/podcast-marital-rape-consent/

Links to things mentioned:

The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com

4 Stages of Porn Recovery: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/4-stages-of-porn-recovery-what-porn-recovery-in-marriage-looks-like/ 

The Bell-curve Modesty Rule: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/03/new-look-at-christian-modesty-guidelines/

The Whole Story: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/

The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827

Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/

Links to things mentioned: 

The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com 

Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire https://instagram.com/sheilagregoire 

Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall: https://www.amazon.ca/Paul-Gender-Reclaiming-Apostles-Vision/dp/0801097940

https://mcmasterdivinity.ca/faculty-and-administration/cynthia-long-westfall/

The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827 

Psychology Today article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-joint-adventures-well-educated-couples/201210/women-need-love-and-men-need-respect

Things Mentioned in This Podcast:

The Great Sex RescueOur totally revamped Boost Your Libido courseElora Dodd on Instagram , plus her Reel on Men?s Purity books and Women?s Purity BooksOur What?s Killing Women?s Libido series

Links to things mentioned:

John Piper article on harsh husbands:

https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/counsel-for-wives-with-harsh-husbands

Our original Facebook Live (expanded content from this podcast, extra 13 minutes on end):

https://www.facebook.com/100044310975500/videos/1036770680299677

Our article talking about John Piper and harsh husbands:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/06/john-piper-tells-women-with-harsh-husbands-to-basically-do-nothing/

Dr. Alison Cook on Turning the Other Cheek:

https://www.dralisoncook.com/should-you-turn-the-other-cheek/

Sign up for our emails!

http://eepurl.com/z0VFn

Our patreon!
 https://patreon.com/baremarriage

Our Merch in our store!

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/product-category/merchandise/

Gretchen Baskerville on the effect of divorce on kids if husbands are abusive:
https://lifesavingdivorce.com/abuse-and-kids/

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Links to things mentioned:

Part 1 of Alyssa's story: 

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/06/groomed-for-an-abusive-arranged-marriage-alyssa-wakefields-story-podcast/

Wendy Snyder's FREE Parenting Workshop Registration:
https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/bare-marriage-disciplineclass/

TraumaMAMAS app:
https://www.wildernesstowild.com/wild-traumamamas-mobile-app

Find Sarah McDugal: https://www.instagram.com/sarahmcdugal
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthor

Natalie Hoffman's book Is It Me?
https://amzn.to/3zziXlE

What if you grow up in what you now call a sex cult, and you marry because your dad told you to?

Did you really consent to that marriage? And how does it even happen in North America today that girls are being pushed into arranged marriages?

Today's podcast sounds more like one of those True Crime documentaries.

Our podcast on the Gothard movement with Emily Elizabeth AndersonOur podcast on positive parenting with Wendy SnyderRegister for our free webinar with Wendy!

Links to things mentioned:

The Orgasm Course:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/

Podcast where we talked about postpartum sex:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/11/the-sexual-favors-postpartum-podcast-can-we-please-stop-being-selfish/

Review of Married Sex:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/01/a-book-review-of-married-sex-by-gary-thomas-and-debra-fileta/

Mental Load Podcast:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/06/the-emotional-labor-and-mental-load-podcast/

Links:

Find Sarah! https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthor

Trauma Mamas App: https://www.wildernesstowild.com/wild-traumamamas-mobile-app

Sarah's full Noticing vs. Lusting video:

https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthor/videos/421831613107412

Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

 Knix in Canada: http://rwrd.io/4mf6sks?c

 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

 The Great Sex REscue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Links to things mentioned:

 Yerkovich's Website: https://howwelove.com

 How We Love: https://amzn.to/3yLsrtB

 The Orgasm Course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/

 Our Post on the 5 Love Styles: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/05/the-5-love-styles-and-the-attachment-styles-dance/

Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

 Knix in Canada: http://rwrd.io/4mf6sks?c

 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

 The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Links to things mentioned:

 Fresh Start Family Podcast episode 122: 
https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/podcast/why-connection-through-discipline-is-so-important-with-chad-hayenga/

 Episode 123: 

https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/podcast/parenting-without-punishment-with-tanya-camps/

Wendy's site: http://FreshStartfamilyonline.com

 Discipline Class: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/disciplineclass/
Strong Willed Kids help:: https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/strongwilledkids
Logical Discipline Planning Guide: https://freshstartfamily.lpages.co/free-logical-discipline-planning-guide/

 Jesus the Gentle Parent https://amzn.to/3M1Fuea

 Heartfelt Discipline https://amzn.to/3N1H4Nc

The Mask You Live in Documentary: https://therepproject.org/films/the-mask-you-live-in/

The Whole Story Puberty and Sex Course: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/

 Angry Me by Sandra Feder: https://amzn.to/3FCNgJ3

Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

 Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Links to things mentioned:

Find Wendy!
https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/about-wendy/
https://www.instagram.com/freshstartwendy/?hl=en

 Our articles on Spanking Babies and the research on spanking:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/what-does-the-research-say-about-spanking/
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/can-christians-please-stop-talking-about-disciplining-babies/

The Gershoff Meta-Analyses of Spanking:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7992110/

The problems with the book Love & Respect
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/

 The problems with how Focus on the Family talks about divorce and kids:

https://youtu.be/Umy_vyuZixA
https://lifesavingdivorce.com/fotfdivorce1/

 Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

 Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

 The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Links to things mentioned:

 Knix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

 Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

 Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

 The Great Sex REscue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Attachment Theory in Religion, Current Opinions in Psychology (2021): https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X2030172X

Josh Howerton's article: https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/christianity-not-bad/

The Institute for Family Studies report that he references:
https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/reports/worldfamilymap-2019-051819final.pdfKnix in the U.S.: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

Knix in Canada: https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

The Gilad study that found that religious women had difficulties with domestic violence:
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/272301618_In_God's_Shadow_Unveiling_the_Hidden_World_of_Domestic_Violence_Victims_in_Religious_Communities

The Life Saving Divorce analyzing what the Institute for Family Studies found about religiosity and abuse: https://lifesavingdivorce.com/1in4/

The Whole Story Sex and Puberty course for parents and preteens:
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/

Links to things mentioned:

Mary DeMuth

The Most Misunderstood Women of the Bible

Our podcast on the problems with the original Love & Respect question:

The podcast with the problems with For Young Women Only?s question on 82% of boys going too far, and our post fixing that question

The Podcast exploring the problems with misusing neuroscience research

The Great Sex Rescue

Patreon:

Here is the link with Knix.com

Links to things mentioned:

Emily's blog Thriving Forward

https://thrivingforwardblog.com/blog/

Emily on Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/ThrivingForwardBlog

Stories about the lawsuit against Bill Gothard

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2016/01/06/new-charges-allege-religious-leader-who-has-ties-to-the-duggars-sexually-abused-women/

https://medium.com/iron-ladies/with-lawsuit-withdrawn-where-is-justice-for-the-victims-of-bill-gothard-and-iblp-50c12c236ea0

Patreon:
http://patreon.com/baremarriage

Here is the link with Knix.com 

https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

Here is the link with Knix.ca

https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.ca&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

Links to things mentioned:

Keith's post that he read: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/03/real-men-are-not-bullies-lets-talk-about-the-churchs-view-of-masculinity/

The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: https://amzn.to/3JWPAvI

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex https://amzn.to/3LrTiy2

Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

Links to things mentioned:

Side by side screenshot of original review and edited review:

https://www.facebook.com/Sheila.Gregoire.Books/posts/526956238791404

Current review of Turning Red:

https://www.pluggedin.com/movie-reviews/turning-red-2022/

The Whole Story Puberty Course:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/

Our Period Series:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/periods-going-to-beach-teenager/

Kyle Howard on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/KyleJamesHoward

Links to things mentioned:

The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/good-girls-guys-guide-great-sex/

Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook Group
https://streaklinks.com/A9slQrDFhYUQaoQ1AQPYigQ5/https%3A%2F%2Fpatreon.com%2Fbaremarriage

Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/

Carl Thomas: https://amzn.to/3Hsssn7
https://xxxchurch.com/

Does waiting for marriage really guarantee a great sex life? Sheila, Rebecca, and Keith weigh in on this week's podcast!

Links to things mentioned:

Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook Group

Pre-Order our two new books--The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the all new Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex

The podcast on the Sexual Response Cycle

This week's post on vaginismus and wedding night sex

Here is the link with Knix.com 

https://redirect.viglink.com?u=http%3A%2F%2Fknix.com&key=fdca749bda65f8445d29ae7a4952e9e2

Here is the link with Knix.ca

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Please use these affiliate links if you're interested in trying Knix!

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Here is the link with Knix.ca

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Elizabeth Fisher Good:
https://www.freewithe.com/

The Great Sex Rescue

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Articles this week about men and how the teachings affected them:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/02/how-can-men-fix-their-sex-lives-if-theyve-gone-downhill/

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/03/who-believed-the-toxic-sex-teachings-more-husband-or-wife/

Links to mentioned items:

When Shame Gets Real by Carl Thomas

https://amzn.to/3Hsssn7

XXX Church: xxxchurch.com

Patreon: http://patreon.com/baremarriage

Join our launch team! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/gsr-launch-team/

Special thank you to our guest Patrick Weaver for joining us today! We look forward to having him on the podcast again in the future!

Links to things mentioned:

Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and help us get our research into peer reviewed journals. Plus you can join our rocking Facebook group and get unfiltered podcasts!Pre-Order The Good Guy?s Guide to Great Sex or The Good Girl?s Guide to Great Sex and you can get our pre-order bonuses: awesome Evangelical Sex Report Card and an invitation to join our launch team!Our original birth control series plus the book Taking Charge of Your FertilityPatrick Weaver?s Facebook Page and his Instagram

Here are the links to the resources mentioned in the episode!

The Intimately Us app!The podcast where we dissected Emerson Eggerichs? reply to the woman crying in the shower; and the podcast where the woman crying in the shower respondsThe Dunning Kruger Effect: Article 1 and Article 2Pre-Order The Good Guy?s Guide to Great Sex and/or The all new Good Girl?s Guide to Great Sex! And then send us your receipt to get the preorder bonuses and/or join the launch team!The Sexual Response Cycle articleThe 990 Tax Forms for Emerson Eggerichs? non-profit for 2019

We are so honoured to have on the podcast today the woman who wrote that letter we discussed back in episode 129. She joins us to share her story, give some updates, and shed some light on what toxic teachings in practice actually resulted in.

Links to things mentioned:

The Intimately Us App! Download the free version right now?and there are special sexy challenges for Valentine?s Day!

https://r.intimately.us/tlhv

CT Article about Domestic Violence in Brazil:

https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2022/january-web-only/brazil-domestic-violence-church-women-pastors-men.html

Podcast about Emerson Eggerichs:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/01/the-podcast-where-emerson-eggerichs-ignores-marital-rape/

Patreon:

https://patreon.com/baremarriage

Research study about remarriage after divorce:

Remarriage: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2014/11/14/four-in-ten-couples-are-saying-i-do-again/

Great Sex Rescue:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Keith's article on the boiling water

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2022/01/keiths-manifesto-misogyny-evangelical-church/

Owen Strachan's tweet:

https://twitter.com/ostrachan/status/1360257958526001153

Our wonderful sponsor the Intimately Us app! A-so-much-more-than-foreplay app. Helps you communicate about sex, have awesome bedroom games, discover what you like (and communicate about it), and more! Clean and totally non-creepy too.Our Patreon--support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts and help support our research!Connor's post detailing all our problems with Emerson Eggerichs' podcast episodeOur Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Emerson Eggerichs and Love & RespectOur original series about Love & RespectPre-order The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the new and revamped Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex--with tons of detail about the sexual response cycle (and, no, housework is not an element of the sexual response cycle, Emerson Eggerichs).The Great Sex Rescue--the book we were inspired to write when we saw how toxic Love & Respect wasOur Love AND Respect merchandise (mugs, stickers, tote bags, T-shirts, and more--because healthy people need both love AND respect).Our Duty Sex isn't Sexy podcast, all about obligation sex and marital rape

Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/

Download our scorecard and rubric for how we scored the books:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/gsr-rubric/

Ngina Otiende's blog, Intentional Today:

https://intentionaltoday.com/

My post about Christopher

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2016/08/im-okay-20-years-son-died/

Our Patreon:

https://patreon.com/baremarriage

The Great Sex Rescue:

https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/


Lucy Maud Montgomery?s short story The Strike at Putney

Our Love AND Respect Merch

Welcome to a new year with the Bare Marriage podcast! We're glad you're joining us again after our break for the holidays!

Links to things mentioned:

https://twitter.com/scott_m_coley/status/1470964828206477320

https://www.amazon.ca/Great-Rescue-Sheila-Wray-Gregoire/dp/1540900827

Links to article on the blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/12/the-emotional-journey-with-vaginismus/

Our sponsor Femallay! https://femallay.com

Become a patreon and support us for as little as $5 a month! 

Our New Merch! Check out all of our merch, and our Be a Biblical Woman collection

Nicole Parker's Tales of Exodus book series

The Great Sex Rescue

Our Mental Load and Emotional Labor series

How Christian Resources teach women to be passive aggressive  

Barbara Rainey's article on spiritual leadership

Our FREE Video Book Study for The Great Sex Rescue 

Dora on TikTok about raising orphans

Links:

Our wonderful sponsor Femallay. Check out their vaginal melts, and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted.The Great Sex Rescue! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-orgasm-course/https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/12/arousal-non-concordance-you-really-need-to-know-what-it-is/Support us on Patreon for as little as $5 a month! And be sure to sign up for our Tea and Tent Pegs webinar that goes live December 6!

Links to things mentioned:

Our wonderful sponsor Femallay. Check out their vaginal melts, and their innovative menstrual cups that allow you to empty them while they're still inserted.The Great Sex Rescue! Especially chapter 11 where we talk about postpartum sex and the advice given to womenThe Italian study Keith and I referencedThe Facebook post where women shared their storiesPlus we didn't mention it, but please: Support us on Patreon for as little as $5 a month! And be sure to sign up for our Tea and Tent Pegs webinar that goes live December 6!Our previous posts on postpartum sexual favors and the podcast Rebecca and Joanna did about resuming sex postpartum

Links to things mentioned:

Link to the Webinar with Sheila, Kristin, and Beth! https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/3916371742777/WN_4zAQL63IQKWmABs58aF6_A
The Making of Biblical Womanhood: https://amzn.to/3x0aULd

L. M. M. story mentioned: http://fullreads.com/literature/the-strike-at-putney/

Check out our sponsor, Femallay! https://femallay.com

Join our Patreon! https://patreon.com/baremarriage

Find Dan and Stephanie's podcast here! https://podcastaddict.com/podcast/3567488

The blog: http://tolovehonorandvacuum.comOur Patreon! Please join for as little as $5 a month and get access to our private (and very active!) Facebook group; our unfiltered podcast; merchandise; free books, and more! It supports Joanna's and Rebecca's time in getting our research into peer-reviewed journals and expanding to new social media outletsFemallay! We love what they're doing to help women experience more pleasure and more comfort in our own bodies. Please check them out.The Great Sex Rescue! Plus The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex is ready for pre-order! And so is the totally revamped Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex! Amie Latta's counseling and coaching practiceOur podcast where we talked about neuroscience research

Thanks to our sponsor Femallay! Check out their vaginal melts, and my post on how your vagina changes as you ageOur Patreon?support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our unfiltered podcasts and our private Facebook group (which is really active!)The Great Sex Rescue?Chapters 5 and 6 cover the lust issue and porn issue, and try to do so in a non-shaming way, focused on actual researchOur Sexy DaresThe Intimately Us AppOur Orgasm CourseKeith?s post on sexually confident menOur podcast with Marc Alan Schelske about emotional maturityAndrew Bauman?s post about the pornographic style of relatingToday's Blog Post

We are thrilled to have a wonderful guest joining us this week! We hope you enjoy Sheila's conversation with author Gretchen Baskerville, as they discuss some extremely important points we need to include in our conversations around divorce in the Christian church.

Links to things mentioned:

The blog post that goes along with this podcast:
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2021/10/podcast-focus-on-the-family-and-abuse-divorce/

Gretchen Baskerville's Site:
https://lifesavingdivorce.com/
Gretchen's book The Lifesaving Divorce:
https://amzn.to/3vwdUhL

Gretchen's article on the 12 Half Truths in Focus on the Family's Article about Divorce and Kids:
http://lifesavingdivorce.com/fotfdivorce1/
Gretchen's Video on Love & Respect:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZ3rqe9m--E

My Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect:
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/01/open-letter-focus-on-the-family-love-respect-emerson-eggerichs/

Gretchen's Social Media:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/ggbaskerville
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LifeSavingDivorce

We have a VERY special guest  joining later today! For the first time ever we have Sheila's mother, Elizabeth, here to share all her wisdom! We hope you enjoy today's episode all about boobs, and breast cancer awareness!

Links to things mentioned:

Link for breast self-exam: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nkPR4ar1EQ4

Link for Married Sex on Amazon--many of the reviews refer to the breast problem https://amzn.to/3iYfEvk

Patreon: https://patreon.com/baremarriage

Femallay: https://femallay.com

Our puberty course The Whole Story https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/

Post on Developing Bust Early: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2018/08/early-puberty-big-bust-shame/

For this special edition of the Bare Marriage Podcast we created an episode that you can listen to WITH your teenagers! Rebecca and Connor walk through their own 'Sex-Ed' experiences, and discuss how they plan to talk to their own children about sex and sexual health one day. 

We hope this episode can be a great jumping off point for important parent/teenager conversations that may happen throughout these teen years, to help you equip your children in making wise decisions as they go through high school.

Be sure to check out the blog post that goes along with this podcast at http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com !

Today it's Rebecca and Connor coming to you, to discuss some neuropsychology! We know, it's a lot, but bare with us! We hope you enjoy this ramble through some statistical and psychological studies that can give us all a clearer picture on how we should be talking about the differences between men and women's brains.

Links to things mentioned:
Check out Femallay's products here: https://www.femallay.com/

2021 Meta-analysis of gender differences in the brain: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763421000804

2019 Meta-analysis of gender differences in neural responses to sexual stimuli: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6681749/

Critiques of Brizendine's work that have been available for over 10 years: https://www.talyarkoni.org/blog/2010/03/24/the-male-brain-hurts-or-how-not-to-write-about-science/

https://www.nature.com/articles/443634a

Many of you have asked for a step by step guide to clarify how to gauge whether a book is harmful or helpful. So today, we thought we'd do just that, and help walk everyone through the process we use when critiquing Christian resources we see being used today. 

We'd also like to thank our guest Neil Schori for joining us today with such a wonderful discussion on how to talk to pastors about the harm found in resources. We can't wait to have him back on the podcast again soon!

Links to things mentioned:

Our Patreon! Support our research and getting our message out for as little as $5 a month and get access to our super fun and active Facebook group, behind the scenes podcasts, and more!Sign up for our email list!Our big post on the two tests for whether or not a speaker or resource is safeThe Great Sex RescueFind Neil Schori on Twitter, and join his Facebook Page for his spiritual direction and domestic violence prevention ministryOur Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & RespectOur Rubric for Healthy Sexuality Teaching--and our report of our findings from The Great Sex Rescue (you can download both at the same place)