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For The Love With Jen Hatmaker Podcast

For The Love With Jen Hatmaker Podcast

"For the love" of...People. Home. Stories. Shoes. Family. Jesus. Community. TV. Travel. Food. Culture. The hilarious best-selling author and star of HGTV?s ?My Big Family Renovation? invites you to drop by and catch up with her friends as they laugh and chat about all the things we love.

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[BOOK CLUB BONUS] William Kent Krueger?s ?This Tender Land?

Calling all book nerds! Are you looking for a place where your book-loving heart can flourish? Join us at jenhatmakerbookclub.com, and become one of our sisters in nerdiness. For January 2021, the Jen Hatmaker Book Club read the novel This Tender Land by the author extraordinaire William Kent Krueger. Chock full of intrigue and adventure and drama, this unforgettable story of four orphans who travel the Mississippi River on a life-changing journey during the Great Depression just absolutely transported us. During this episode, Kent dives into the real-life research behind the Lincoln Indian Training School, and how Mark Twain and The Odyssey played a huge role in shaping the story. Kent gives us a peek into the family that he created among the brave runaways and how their bond shifts as they heal together throughout the novel.

 

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2021-02-26
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Leaning in to Love Others (Even When We Disagree):  Rozella Haydée White

Have you ever had a conversation with a friend or loved one where you couldn?t find common ground about something that fundamentally mattered to you? Is it possible for those relationships to continue, even though you don?t see eye to eye? Today we?re wrapping up our For the Love of Reconnecting series and talking about some of the hardest reconnecting of all: how to stay engaged with and even love someone who thinks differently from us. To guide us through this rocky terrain, we have Rozella Haydée White?AKA the Love Big Coach. Rozella is a theologian, a spiritual life-coach and a leadership consultant who guides people to give and receive love that is life-giving and justice-seeking. Rozella and Jen walk through what it means to lean into the hardest conversations and make space for yourself and the ones you love (or have a hard time loving). Rozella reminds us that, ?If we believe that people are created in the image of God, then I don't really have a choice but to believe in people.?

 

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2021-02-23
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Ambition is a Girl's Best Friend: Priyanka Chopra Jonas on Reconnecting with Our Dreams

Over the past year, we?ve had to put our dreams on hold. We canceled vacations, missed family gatherings, and constantly wondered, How long will my life look like this? But those spaces in our calendars have given us the margin to think about what?s next for us. And as we continue our For the Love of Reconnecting series, we?re going to go out on a limb and thinking about what it looks like to reconnect with our dreams. And our next guest, Priyanka Chopra Jonas knows all about that. Priyanka?s a triple-threat: she?s an actor, a social activist, and now the author of a brand-new memoir called Unfinished. Jen and Priyanka trace Priyanka?s winding path from India to the US as a teen, and how she?s leaped with both feet into new projects and challenges and discovered that being willing to fail is an important part of leveling up and investing in ourselves. Jen and Priyanka dive into why it?s so important to normalize ambition in women and girls, and why putting boots on the ground is crucial to making our dreams a reality. 

 

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2021-02-16
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Communication Drives Connection?and Healing: Dr. Mark Goulston

Get ready for a deep-dive into what it means to listen and connect with those around you with our next guest in the Reconnecting series: psychiatrist and executive coach Dr. Mark Goulston. As a former FBI hostage negotiation trainer, Dr. Goulston knows how to reach out to and connect with just about anyone. After the past twelve months, we?re all living on edge, and Dr. Goulston gives Jen a few communication tips to guide tense conversations toward calm. Plus, Dr. Goulston shows us how people are icebergs and why asking someone, ?What?s really going on?? more than once helps us drill down and discover what the real problem is. And spoiler alert: when we vulnerably share what?s going on with us, and when someone listens and responds without judgment?whether we?re doing the sharing or the listening, true connection really does help us heal. And after 2020, we?re all due for a heavy dose of healing.

 

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2021-02-09
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Exploring the Joys and Pitfalls of Online Connection: Chris Stedman

Break out a pen and notebook, because today on For the Love, we?re going back to school with writer and professor Chris Stedman, our next guest in the For the Love of Reconnecting series. A former chaplain at Harvard and founding director of the Yale Humanist Community, Chris just wrote a fascinating book called IRL: Finding Realness, Meaning, and Belonging in Our Digital Lives. He?s a millennial who grew up fluent in the digital world but didn?t have a smartphone that tethered him to the internet until after his formative years, when a post he wrote went viral and steered him toward building a platform online. The internet of today is definitely not the one Chris grew up with?it?s no longer something we log in and out of. Chris and Jen talk about the beauty of finding and building community online and expanding our circles of belonging, but also why it?s so important to disconnect from tech every once in a while, because we discover things about ourselves in the silence of retreat that we may not see otherwise. And while sometimes the internet can seem like a place teeming with chaos, Chris reminds us that we have the power to choose how *we* engage with technology, that we control our devices?not the other way around.

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2021-02-02
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Reconnecting with God Through Our Wandering with Bunmi Laditan

With so much discussion around finding different ways to connect in a season where literal physical connections are challenging at best, how do we address when our spiritual connections are faltering? How do we ?feel seen? by God when things are not okay and our attitudes are washed in more doubt than belief? Writer Bunmi Laditan (also known by her online moniker, The Honest Toddler) joins For the Love to share her lifelong journey of wrestling with God and faith, and ultimately finding hope, acceptance, and love. The daughter of Nigerian immigrants, Bunmi ran away from home as a teen, seeking a home and faith that wouldn?t shackle her to rules and tradition. During her wanderings in both the spiritual and physical world, she explored relationships and different faith traditions before finally coming to know a core truth that has informed her ever since: God sees her and loves her?and He would come to meet her, no matter where her wandering took her. 



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2021-01-26
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Making Good Use of Our Emotions: Hilary Jacobs Hendel

It?s so hard to feel your feelings?especially when you have all of them all at once, and it?s never a convenient time to process them. For the past year, we?ve all been stewing with anxiety, stress, anger, loneliness, grief, and fear. Ignoring our hard feelings might seem like the easiest way to cope and get relief?but it?s not the only option available to us. Our next guest in our For the Love of Reconnecting Series, psychoanalyst and therapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel, reminds us that when we disconnect from our harder emotions, we disconnect from the life-giving ones too, like joy?and don?t we all need more of that right now?. Hilary?s the author of a fascinating book called It?s Not Always Depression (and psst: she consulted on the psychological development of characters in Mad Men!), and she and Jen talk about the freedom we find when we realize emotions just are, and we don?t have to judge them. In fact, instead of shutting down, Hilary shows us how we can walk ourselves toward self-compassion and healing, which gives us real resilience?not the kind that we *think* we have by stuffing down our feelings.

 

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2021-01-19
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How Boundaries Can Save Your Relationships with Nedra Glover Tawwab

Next up in our For the Love of Reconnecting series, we?re touching base with a very important and easy-to-lose-hold-of concept: our boundaries. If 2020 taught us anything, it?s how much setting boundaries impacts our life. So why do we feel guilty when we actually do set them? And when was the last time you took a second to think about what you need and what you have the capacity for? Therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab, author of the book Set Boundaries, Find Peace, walks us through how we draw these needed lines, and why it?s important for us to have them in the first place (spoiler alert: they?re crucial for our mental health and keep us away from resentment and burnout). It?s okay for us to ask for what we want and take charge of our own lives, even if some people don?t agree?because in the end, you really do know what?s best for you. 

 

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2021-01-12
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[BOOK CLUB BONUS] Allison Winn Scotch?s ?Cleo McDougal Regrets Nothing?

Sneak peek alert! Are you looking for a place where your book-loving heart can flourish? Look no further, and allow us to welcome you to the Jen Hatmaker Book Club. Want to join us? Visit jenhatmakerbookclub.com, and become one of our sisters in nerdiness. This month, we read the oh-so-powerful Cleo McDougal Regrets Nothing by Allison Winn Scotch. Allison tells us why the #MeToo and TIME?S UP movements inspired her to write this story, plus we dive into how regrets can impact our lives and how they present an opportunity for amends and personal growth. We get to unpack Cleo?s engaging and fierce character, what it?s like to be a woman in this moment in time (and to be one in politics!), and how being unapologetically ambitious might mean you?re not liked. Allison walks us through how she crafted a character that doesn?t rub everyone the right way, but how we still end up rooting for Cleo anyway. By unpacking abuse of power, examining Cleo?s role as a mother, and watching her learn to confront her not-so-great decisions, Allison has woven a tale that captivates us and teaches us and inspires us to be leaders ourselves. 

 

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2021-01-08
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Rewriting the Stories We Tell Ourselves: Lori Gottlieb

New year, new series! We?re thinking all about For the Love of Reconnecting, where we?ll try to get back in touch with who we are and what we value, so that we can start to inch forward in this brand-new year. What?s holding you back? Is there a real obstacle standing in the way of your growth?or is it just a story you?re telling yourself? Therapist, author, TED Talk superstar and podcast host Lori Gottlieb knows a thing or two about the stories we tell ourselves. In fact, Lori opens up her life in a deeply vulnerable way, taking us into the stories she told herself as a practicing therapist and how she moved past them in her New York Times bestselling memoir Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. Lori explains that we are the narrators of our own stories, and how we talk to ourselves and tell the story of our lives shapes who we will become. She asserts that when we begin to take responsibility for our choices and allow ourselves to examine what?s working in or lives and what we can tweak a little bit, we?ll begin to let go of the feeling of being trapped?and find a power in ourselves we never knew was there.

 

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2021-01-05
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Living While We Wait: Cece Jones-Davis? Blessing for 2021

We made it, you guys?we?re finally turning the corner into a brand-new year and into the hope of a fresh start. And while 2021 will no doubt have its set of challenges, we?ve set our minds to living in the moment while we wait for a post-pandemic world to settle in, thanks to inspiration from minister and activist Cece Jones-Davis. Cece was one of our favorite 2020 guests, and she?s back to lead us through a vigil on what we?ve walked through this year and reflect on all the beautiful things we have to look forward to. Cece reminds us that the weariness we feel from this year can be a powerful catalyst towards change for the better, and why 2021 can be the year of ?Alive? (which happens to be the title of her brand-new worship album!). And here?s a little reminder for you, sister: as we enter a new chapter, remember that God is alive in you, and He has plans for hope and a future with your name written right on top. 

 

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2020-12-29
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Hallmark and Chill: Christmas Movies with the guys from Deck the Hallmark 

It?s the most wonderful time of the year! But let?s be honest: if you?re a Hallmark Christmas Movie addict, it?s been the most wonderful time of the year since October, and you?re *not sorry* about it. And neither are Dan, Panda, and Bran?the 3 dudes behind the smash-hit podcast Deck the Hallmark. These Hallmark movie connoisseurs each have a different perspective: Bran loves them, Panda?s okay with them, and Dan hate-watches with all his might. Jen and the guys break down why these, let?s

face it, ?less than stellar production value-filled? shows are so addicting. AND are we ever surprised that the big-city girl falls for the small-town candlemaker who owns the snowy inn?! The group dishes on the best movies Hallmark has to offer (spoiler alert: The Fonz makes an appearance!), and which ones you desperately need to avoid. And to wrap this holiday episode in the most beautiful bow, the group signs off by divulging their fantasy cast and plot lines for the Hallmark movies of their dreams. 

 

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2020-12-22
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Winning by Saying Yes to What?s Next: Lori Allen

This week, we?re wrapping up our celebration of small wins amid the 2020 dumpster fire, and we?re asking ourselves two questions: where we go from here, and how do we say yes what?s ahead? Savvy businesswoman and bubbly star of TLC?s Say Yes to the Dress: Atlanta Lori Allen has said yes to many things in her life: launching and running a successful bridal boutique for 40 years, fighting breast cancer, and managing the roles of wife, mom, grandmother, and daughter of aging parents. Lori and Jen break down how to push through resistance to change and breakthrough to accept the next yes, even when we don?t know what?s ahead. 

 

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2020-12-15
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Clutching onto Faith in the Wilderness Moments: Rev. Naomi Washington-Leapheart

?If my faith cannot offer me something in the wilderness moments, it isn?t worth having,? says Rev. Naomi Washington-Leapheart. And as we explore the silver linings of this turbulent year, Rev. Naomi?s wisdom is just what we need as we turn our thoughts to how our faith has held us up, stretched our empathy, and asked us to hold suffering and joy with both hands. As Philadelphia?s Director of the Mayor?s Office of Faith-Based and Interfaith Affairs, Rev. Naomi has spent the year trying to bring faith communities together with the goal of healing a hurting city. And for those who may not be able to see a way forward, Rev. Naomi reminds us that God is still right there, never leaving us alone. Because as she says, ?we are always becoming,? meaning that even through the impossible, good can be brought out of any story?including the ones we never asked for. 

 

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2020-12-08
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[BOOK CLUB BONUS] Abbi Waxman?s ?The Bookish Life of Nina Hill?

Sneak peek alert! Are you a bookie? Do you love reading and talking about what you?re reading? Then the Jen Hatmaker Book Club is where you belong. Want to join us? Visit jenhatmakerbookclub.com, become one of the squad. This month, we read the fiercely feminine and delightful novel The Bookish Life of Nina Hill by the oh-so-talented Abbi Waxman. Abbi gives us a peek into her pleasurable work that?s truly the happy ending we need right now, because just like Nina, books are our escape. Abbi dives into what it was like to craft a character with ADHD and anxiety, and how she broke down that stigma, showing how preserving your mental health goes hand and hand with living a regular life. Abbi dives into what family issues can look like realistically, how the small moments can make the most spectacular relationship, and how dominating at trivia can give you a minute of triumph when you need it. 

 

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2020-12-04
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Laughing Through the Ugly Cry with Dawn Barton

Joy and pain aren?t mutually exclusive; they mingle together in our stories every single day. That?s probably never been more true than in 2020. In these moments, we reach for guides who have traveled through some dark moments and come out the other side, and we couldn?t have a better teacher than writer, speaker, and self-proclaimed joyologist Dawn Barton. Pain and loss have been familiar companions to Dawn for a long time. She?s lost a baby daughter, and a sister to cancer. She?s suffered through sexual assault and walked her mother through recovery from an aneurysm, and her husband through alcohol addiction. Dawn has seen suffering, but she?s also realized that even in the middle of pain, you can experience full-fledged joy. Moments of hurt create opportunities for others to show up for us, and allow us to experience love in ways beyond what we ever thought possible (and sometimes scary times lead to hilarious ones, as Dawn found during her misadventures with a prosthetic breast named Lucky). Ultimately, our lives come full circle when we get to help someone else through their painful moments the way that others once helped us.

 

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2020-12-01
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2020 Heroes Build Bridges Over Walls: Combat Vet Diana Oestreich

2020 has shaken up so many of our beliefs. What?s normal? What?s safe? What does it look like for our families and our communities to thrive? These are life-changing questions, and today?s guest is someone who has been searching for the answers to these very questions for nearly two decades. Diana Oestreich was an American soldier in Iraq who received orders to keep her convoy rolling at all costs, even if children crossed her path. And in that gut-wrenching moment, Diana decided she couldn?t follow those orders, and she would fight for peace with sacrifice instead of bullets. Today Diana ?wages peace? with love and justice alongside the organization Preemptive Love, and she and Jen talk about who the true heroes are, and how everything changes in our world when we choose to build bridges instead of walls.

 

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2020-11-24
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The Lazy Genius Life with Recovering Perfectionist Kendra Adachi

Do you know who has a PhD in Small Wins? We do, because this week on the show we have The Lazy Genius, AKA the brilliant and delightful Kendra Adachi! Kendra is the woman who brought the Tim Riggins Salad and Change Your Life Chicken to the internet, and she is about to change our lives far beyond the fridge (though fun fact: that chicken is delicious). Kendra?s going to give us a treasure trove of pro tips, like the beauty of 17-minute naps and the stress-reducing way to clean up our kitchens (hint: zones, people?it?s all about the zones!). As a recovering perfectionist, Kendra?s learned how to strike the middle ground between ?It has to be perfect!? and ?Meh, I don?t care anymore.? She shows us how to care about what matters and let the rest go, because let?s be real: there?s just too much for us to care about everything. Plus, for all the Enneagram 1s and Type-As out there, Kendra reminds us that even if our plans are upended, it doesn?t mean our plans were wrong?it just means that life happened, and we?ll be okay.

 

And stay till the end for Jen and Kendra?s Hamilton love fest as they look around, look around at how lucky we are to be alive right now in a world with Lin Manuel-Miranda and Disney+!

 

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2020-11-17
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Jen's Favorite Things ? The 4th Annual Holiday Gift Guide

It?s the most wonderful time of the year?gift guide time! We're going to go ahead and give 2020 the No, Thank You Award, but we can still try to make the holidays merry and bright. And to help you do that, we bring you the 4th installment of Jen?s Favorite Things! Every year, we shine a spotlight on brands we love that also give back, so we do the most good with the dollars we're already going to spend (and PS: so many of these companies are women-owned!). So grab a cup of cocoa while Jen and her sisters, Lindsay and Cortney, share 12 incredible companies with amazing products?everything from coffee and candles to comfy robes and socks and Jen?s signature feather earrings. Plus, each brand has a special offer just for you, so you can stock up on great gifts and also *save some cash.* Look alive, campers, it?s time to do some Christmas shopping!

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2020-11-16
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Matthew McConaughey Catches Life?s Greenlights

On the road to finding small wins, it?s helpful to watch for the ?green lights? in our lives?those signals that indicate we can move forward when we see them?but also recognize and appreciate the yellows and reds that slow us down so we can take a second to absorb what life is teaching us. Academy Award-winning actor, minister of culture, and self-proclaimed pickle expert Matthew McConaughey is a man who?s had a few green lights show up over the course of his career (along with a few reds and yellows, he admits). He shares about it all in his new book, Greenlights, where he describes (in an oh-so-McConaughey way) his ?sights and seens, felts and figured-outs, cools and shamefuls.? Matthew points out that green lights illuminate our way through the choices we make, and challenge us to ask some bigger questions: Are you living in the present? Are you being kind? Are you enjoying both freedom and responsibility? Matthew gives us a sneak peek into his motivation for writing Greenlights, and tells us about important women in his life who shaped and supported him all along the way. 

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**Gift Guide Alert!**

Making your holiday gift list and checking it twice? Need more ideas for unique, useful, or doing-good gifts? Look for Jen?s super-special annual Gift Guide Episode, popping into your feed on Monday, November 16!

2020-11-10
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Giving Up Guilt, Getting Back Joy with Valorie Burton

Right now, we all need some small wins. And in our brand-new series called?wait for it?For the Love of Small Wins, we?re talking to thought leaders who remind us to look for the ways kindness and resilience has showed up in our lives this year. First up, author and life coach Valorie Burton knows all about something we each struggle with: guilt. She knows what it looks like, how it can disguise itself, and how ingrained it is in our daily lives. Valorie helps us identify the difference between authentic and false guilt, and walks us through the different types of guilt we experience, especially in 2020: mom/daughter/friend guilt, guilt for not doing more or better, guilt for not being involved enough in the causes happening around us. Valerie gives us the tools to begin to let go of guilt, so we can take the first step on our journey to appreciating the small wins of 2020

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**Gift Guide Alert!**

Making your holiday gift list and checking it twice? Need more ideas for unique, useful, or doing-good gifts? Look for Jen?s super-special annual Gift Guide Episode, popping into your feed on Monday, November 16!

2020-11-06
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[BOOK CLUB BONUS] Kelly Corrigan?s ?Tell Me More?

Want a sneak peek into the book club of your dreams? Then allow us to present: the Jen Hatmaker Book Club! From time to time, we?ll drop in with what we?re reading in hopes you?ll join us at jenhatmakerbookclub.com?because we *know* you?ll love it. We had to bring this one out of the vault, because we are the biggest fans of NYT bestselling author?and now TV and podcast host?Kelly Corrigan! Kelly?s memoir Tell Me More was the first book we chose to read in the Jen Hatmaker Book Club back in June 2019, because Kelly has a knack for taking a magnifying glass to the phrases that create connection between us (like ?I don?t know,? ?I was wrong,? and ?Good enough?) and showing us why they matter, all with her signature humor and warmth. If you?ve never met Kelly, get ready: you?re about to meet your new favorite. And while you?re at it, check out Kelly?s brand-new projects: a podcast called Kelly Corrigan?s Wonders and a new interview series on PBS called?wait for it?Tell Me More!

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2020-10-30
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Black in White Spaces: Marcie Alvis-Walker on Racial Intersections 

To be Black in America means living at several different intersections. Writer and thinker Marcie Alvis-Walker joins For the Love Podcast to share the inspiration behind her beautiful, thought-provoking space called Black Coffee with White Friends. Marcie shares about her experience having to code switch as she grew up?she?d have to adapt her language, her likes and dislikes based on the group she was with?and what it?s like for her family to navigate the world being members of different races. Marcie leads us to think about what it means to ?celebrate? holidays like 4th of July, Memorial Day, and Columbus Day when your skin isn?t white, and how siblings of different races can use their influence to help their Black siblings.

 

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2020-10-27
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[BONUS] Michael Kutcher on ?2 Hearts? Film & the Gift of Organ Donation

On this bonus episode of For the Love, we?re talking about a heartwarming new movie (based on a true story!) called ?2 Hearts? with organ donor recipient and advocate Michael Kutcher. He?s a walking miracle shares his journey of receiving a heart transplant 29 years ago, and the profound ways the gift of organ donation not only gave him life?it impacted generations, as Michael is a proud father today. Michael and Jen talk about the beautiful parallels between Michael?s story and the ?2 Hearts? movie, a true story of two couples who were never supposed to meet, but through love and generosity, they end up making waves in the world.

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2020-10-23
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Recasting Portrayals of Race, with Brit Bennett

Stories come in many forms: in the reports we see in the news, the TV shows and movies that light up our screens, from books to toys and so many other places. New York Times bestselling author Brit Bennett is here to discuss the ways that Black stories are told and the ripple effects they have across American culture. She shares insight into her life as a young author and how she?s used her writing as a way to figure out the way she feels about different topics?like what it means to ?perform race,? which she wrote about in her latest book called The Vanishing Half. Brit dives into the stories she?s looking to create in the world?ones that show the human experience of what it means to struggle and the ways we experience hope and joy and love. 

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2020-10-20
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Empowering Black Entrepreneurs: Jessica O. Matthews Turns Adversity into Strength

What does it mean to build the world in a way where every single person, no matter their color, gender, ability or religion has access to security and opportunity? That?s a question inventor and entrepreneur Jessica O. Matthews has spent much of her life asking. Jessica is the CEO of Uncharted Power, a company looking to build sustainable infrastructure in the world?which Jessica launched when she was just twenty-two years old! She shares the legacy of curiosity and hard work her parents passed onto her, and why having countless hmm moments leads to that one a-ha! moment. Jessica and Jen hash out the opportunities the world has left on the table of innovation and why Jessica?s place at several intersections?a Black woman who?s a dual US/Nigerian citizen?helps her recognize developments that are still possible for parts of the world that typically don?t receive investment. Because as Jessica says: ?I have the ability to not see the world as it is but to see the world as it should be. That's something that would not have happened not only if I wasn't just Nigerian American, but if I wasn't a woman of color.?

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2020-10-13
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?Education Is Freedom Work?: Dr. Monique Morris on Investing in Black Students

Having access to learning is a portal to opportunity, a key to unlocking your dreams and leaving doors open for those who come after you. That?s what education has been for Dr. Monique Morris, an author, scholar, justice educator and die-hard Prince fan who, in sixth grade, found herself at a fork in the road. She got into a fight with a boy who?d provoked her. And instead of suspending her, expelling her, or arresting her and pushing her away, Dr. Morris? teachers reconnected her to her learning community?a key moment in the life of a girl who?d been dealing with sexual abuse and violence in her home. This moment of restoration paved the path for Dr. Morris to go on to earn a doctorate in education. Others in Dr. Morris? situation haven?t been as fortunate, and find their studies interrupted by disciplinary action and a descent down the slippery slope known commonly as the ?school to prison pipeline,? where they are pushed out of the education experience and criminalized by administrators. Dr. Morris uses her own education and experience to advocate for Black and brown students, encouraging schools to look at themselves as places of healing and restoration, not punishment, so that more students of color can become the scholars they are meant to be. Because no person is ?unrecoverable,? and the important?freedom work of education begins when teachers ultimately see themselves as healers.

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2020-10-06
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[BOOK CLUB BONUS] Sejal Badani?s ?The Storyteller?s Secret?

Want a sneak peek into the book club of your dreams? Then allow us to present: the Jen Hatmaker Book Club! From time to time, we?ll drop in with what we?re reading in hopes you?ll join us at jenhatmakerbookclub.com?because we *know* you?ll love it. This month, we read the gorgeous bestselling novel The Storyteller?s Secret by lawyer-turned-writer Sejal Badani. Sejal gives us a behind the scenes look at what it was like to write a fiction story that?s deeply rooted in her own family history, and how examining the lives of her ancestors helped unravel her emotions about her own upbringing. What began as a way to break free from family secret-keeping became a way for Sejal to explain her heritage and history to her children. Writing Storyteller also became a method of healing, and Sejal shares how exposing the most vulnerable parts of who we are can help create a better world for someone else. 

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2020-10-02
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Centering Mental Health & Self-Care in Black America, with Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes

Cultivating a healthy mind is essential for our entire well-being. Psychologist and theologian Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes joins us For the Love of Black Lives series to help us unpack how the anxiety and trauma carried through generations of Black Americans affects the flourishing of communities of every stripe (and newsflash: the trauma we experience can be passed down through four generations after us). For so long, Black women have been praised as ?strong,? and they absolutely are. But when we only view Black women as unshakeable ?superwomen,? we take away their right to vulnerability, their right to care for themselves, and their right to be cared for by someone else. And instead, we hand them a standard that?s impossible to achieve?which, as anyone knows who?s tried to achieve something that can?t be attained, causes shame and depression. Dr. Chanequa describes the effects of living in a community where anxiety is normal for everyone. As she says, ?I was never taught to think of what I had as anxiety, even though now I realize, on both sides of my family, there?s anxiety.? She explains why it?s vital for Black women and men to have access to Black mental healthcare providers, so clients can feel truly seen and heard, and receive the true care they need. And above all, Dr. Chanequa reminds us that every Black woman, child, and man is worthy of self-care. They are worthy to notice and treat their pain and anxiety, so they can flourish in wholeness. 

 

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2020-09-29
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Celebrating the Rich Legacy of Black Culture, Art & Fashion in America, with Dr. Tanisha C. Ford

Black culture is central to American culture?we simply don?t have America without having the Black experience, born of slavery and systemic racism and white supremacy, of physical and mental and emotional pain. But through generations, Black women and men have passed down stories given from their mothers and grandmothers. They?ve cooked and sang and danced and played the most beautiful music. They?ve wrote and dreamed and created. Black culture has inspired us for hundreds of years as it has woven its way into the tapestry of American life. And today, we?re going to talk about the richness of it all with Dr. Tanisha C. Ford, a cultural critic and professor of history at CUNY. Dr. Ford shares the artists and icons that shaped her world as a young Black woman growing up (everyone from her own mother and her leather jackets, to the music of Aretha Franklin and TLC, Roberta Flack and Mary J. Blige). Dr. Ford shows us how looking deeply at culture helps us see the threads of politics and society woven within. We learn why cultural appropriation is tied to systems of exploitation. We see why we need to shift our eyes away from history books that haven?t centered important Black pioneers like Anna Julia Cooper and Ida B. Wells, why everyone needs to read words from thinkers like James Baldwin and Audre Lorde. We see how Shirley Chisholm paved the way for Kamala Harris. We see the beauty and strength of artists like Nina Simone and Billie Holiday, and how they birth artists like Alicia Keys and Janelle Monáe. And through it all we see how new forms of technology have carried Black voices to new corners of the world for decades, planing the seeds for social media to blossom into a powerful force for the change that we?re seeing today.

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2020-09-22
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The Black Woman?s Fight to Be Well, with Christina M. Rice

Though many of our country?s systems of care desperately need an overhaul, there?s one system in particular that could improve greatly to help Black Americans: healthcare. It might be unimaginable that we might get lesser care, for example, if we found ourselves in a medical emergency or were giving birth to our child. But Black women and men find themselves in these situations often, where healthcare professionals aren?t listening to their needs or taking time to understand their health concerns, and this sometimes leads to disastrous consequences?even death. These healthcare gaps are part of a feedback loop where many Black Americans find themselves. Many times, it starts with a huge imbalance in economic resources, which leads to a lack of access to healthy food, gyms, nutritional education, and as our guest today says, ?places that are considered well.? Christina M. Rice is a wellness expert and chief experience officer of OMNoire, a social wellness community for Black women and women of color dedicated to living well. Christina shares about her own wellness experiences as a Black woman, and how finding yoga helped her realize the need for wellness spaces where Black women and women of color feel seen and welcome. Christina describes why it?s so important for everyone to prioritize the health of Black women and men. Tackling healthcare inequity may be daunting, but siblings everywhere must speak up and do our part to amplify voices of color so that Black bodies are allowed to flourish.

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2020-09-15
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Going to Church Shouldn't Hurt: Alicia Crosby on Religious Trauma?s Effect on Black Lives 

God created a beautiful world, filled with people who share love, creativity, friendship and hope in all kinds of ways. For thousands of years, some have tried to use religion to wield power and authority over people around the globe, claiming ?their? way was the ?right? way to gain access to God. That?s how the seeds of religious trauma are sown. And through generations, we?ve seen members of the white American Christan church push Black and brown people away from the center of the church?s stories in an attempt to gain control over those cultures. But as justice educator and equity consultant Alicia Crosby reminds us, we gain so much when we center stories that have been pushed to the margins, when we allow ourselves to be curious about ourselves and other cultures. Alicia shares her own history in the church as a Black queer woman, and how, after her ?burn it all down? phase, she?s learned to embrace the beauty of who she is and how she chooses to express her faith in God?s love for her. Jen and Alicia dive into why it?s important to create protective spaces for affinity groups of all kinds (everything from parents, to race and cultural groups, to LGBTQ+ spaces), and why sitting down at the table is the most equalizing force in our universe. 

 

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2020-09-08
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[BOOK CLUB BONUS] Nora McInerny?s ?No Happy Endings?

Want a sneak peek into the book club of your dreams? Then allow us to present: the Jen Hatmaker Book Club! From time to time, we?ll drop in with what we?re reading in hopes you?ll join us at jenhatmakerbookclub.com?because we *know* you?ll love it. This month's book has been an over-the-top experience for all of us. We read No Happy Endings by Nora McInerny, and it?s resonated from top to bottom in our community. Nora makes a living talking to people about life's hardest moments, and she speaks from experience. She lost her second baby, her father, and her young husband over the course of six weeks when she was 31 years old. Yet, she?s chosen to channel her grief into two bestselling memoirs and a stellar podcast called Terrible, Thanks for Asking. She?s a master storyteller who brings heart, transparency, and even levity to the most difficult and uncomfortable conversations that most of us spend our lives trying to avoid. And through it all, Nora?s a reliable, trustworthy guide as we journey along our own suffering and grief and loss. 

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2020-09-04
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CeCe Jones-Davis: Realigning the Gears of the US Justice System

As lawyer and activist Bryan Stevenson puts it, slavery never actually ended?it just evolved, and today it looks like mass incarceration. In the past fifty years, we?ve seen the prison population skyrocket from 200,000 in 1970 to 2.2 million in 2020. In fact, America holds just 5% of the world?s population but more than 25% of the world?s prisoners, where the Black population clock in five times the rate of inmates as the white population. It is imperative that our generation abolish the overcriminalization of Black women, children, and men. And today we?re learning a bit more from CeCe Jones-Davis on how to bring that world to fruition. She?s an activist, a worship leader, and a teacher of social gospel who?s made it her mission to expose the underbelly of the US criminal justice system as she fights for the freedom of a man she believes has been wrongfully convicted: Julius Jones. CeCe also shares the influences who showed her the way toward pursuing justice and life experiences that broke her heart and gave her a passion to advocate for others. CeCe reminds us that realigning the gears of the justice system is too big a task for one person to bear alone?but if we each pick up our small piece, it?s a load we can carry together.

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2020-09-01
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Ending Black Oppression and Celebrating Black Dignity with Alencia Johnson

Today we open a new chapter of For the Love, where we?ll celebrate the beauty, wholeness, and dignity of Black Lives. At the same time, we?ll also explore the roots of the recent growing advocacy and racial reckoning with experts who will guide us through different facets of what it?s like to be Black in America?in education, health, culture, the church. We?ll unpack how the Black experience differs from the white experience, with true understanding of the gaps in these collective experiences becoming the catalyst for necessary change. Leading off this series is Alencia Johnson, who is the chief impact officer and founder of 1063 West Broad, a company focusing on social impact, brand engagement, and communication strategy (you may remember Alencia from the #sharethemicnow campaign, when she took over Jen?s Instagram to share some deep truths). Alencia helps us examine the intersectionality of racism and gender as she unspools more than 400 years of Black oppression in America, and helps us examine what our country could look like if we invested in the safety and health of ALL communities. Alencia longs to see action behind the words of those who have actual power to create change, and challenges us to implement that change swiftly to systems that uphold racism?and most importantly, sustain the change. Tackling some hard-hitting topics, Alencia touches on white fragility, voter suppression, and what ?defunding the police? really means as she helps us imagine how our actions toward these problems might mirror the actions of an aggrieved, change-making, table-flipping Jesus in such a time as this. 

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2020-08-25
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[Summer Best Of For the Love] Actually Believing God Loves You Changes Everything: Jeff Chu

Since journalist (and now podcaster!) Jeff Chu came on the show in spring of 2019, we haven?t forgotten his poignant storytelling or his answer to the powerful question he?s asked himself since he was a kid: ?Does Jesus really love me?? Jeff grew up immersed in a family of theologians, where knowing and sticking to the Bible?s rules were prized currency. As Jeff approached high school, he realized he was gay. Over time, while he prayed for God to change who he was, Jeff threw himself into his work to escape his inner turmoil and realized he was a gifted storyteller who loved talking with people from all walks of life. A few years ago, Jeff found himself on the road, searching for the answer to his long-held question across America as he interviewed everyone from nice church ladies to members of the Westboro Baptist Church. And as he talked to more and more people about their spiritual beliefs, he concluded that, yes?even though Jeff doesn?t feel like it some days?Jesus really does love us all. And if we actually believed He did, we would speak differently, tweet differently, love differently?in a nutshell, believing we?re loved would transform our lives. And don?t forget to check out Jeff?s brand-new podcast called ?Evolving Faith,? which he?s co-hosting with FTL fan favorite Sarah Bessey!

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2020-08-18
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[Summer Best Of For the Love] Small Steps to a Happier Life: Gretchen Rubin

When lawyer-turned-writer Gretchen Rubin first came on the show in 2019, we were dazzled by the wisdom and tools she shared on how to live with more contentment, right where we are. A decade ago, Gretchen fancied herself a happy person. She had a job she liked, a husband and two daughters she loved, a life she enjoyed. But one day she found herself wondering, ?Could I be happier?? So she set out to change her life?not in a blow-it-all-up-and-move-across-the-world kind of way, but with small steps over one year. Gretchen documented her experiment to live happier in the blockbuster New York Times bestseller The Happiness Project, and has inspired millions to improve their lives and find contentment. Jen and Gretchen talk about why it?s okay to pursue happiness in a world filled with hard things, and the little ways we can reach for a richer, more satisfying life. Gretchen shows how easy it is to work ?happiness habits? into our lives (Jen adopted one immediately after this interview!) and how these small steps can yield big, long-term results. And don?t forget to check out Gretchen?s latest book Outer Order, Inner Calm.

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2020-08-11
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[Summer Best Of For the Love] The Glory of God in Our Pain: Kaitlin Curtice & the Power of Lament

When our third Summer Best Of teacher speaks, people listen?and we couldn?t forget the powerful words she shared on For the Love in 2019. Raised a Southern Baptist, as she grew older Kaitlin Curtice began to explore her family?s rich history in the Potawatomi Citizen Band. Kaitlin tells us what life is like as an indigenous woman in the United States today, how she?s teaching her kids about their heritage and how we can rally around teachers of color during their hardest moments. Kaitlin reminds us we have a responsibility to incorporate a wide range of voices into our world and remember the power of empathizing with an experience different from our own. One of the most poignant lessons she gives us: God is is inviting us into the sacred, and it?s not in a far-off sunbeam or reserved for the church pew?the sacred is all around us, from the daffodils on the street corner to the popsicle-stained smile of our kid, even as we are consoled in our pain and grief. God?s glory is in everyone and everything. We only need eyes to see it. Be sure to check out her new book ?Native.?

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2020-08-04
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[Summer Best of For the Love] You Are Wholly Good: Osheta Moore and Embracing ?Shalom?

Our second Summer Best Of guest is a teacher who taught us how to embrace peace with others, but also within ourselves. Osheta Moore is a writer, speaker, podcaster, and a faith groundbreaker. She?s also a powerful leader on racial reconciliation and equality, and through it all, she teaches that God wants each of us to be whole, vibrant, and flourishing. In her book and podcast called Shalom Sistas, Osheta breaks down 12 ways we can turn ?shalom? into an action. She shows us how to become peacemakers in our everyday lives?not just with each other, but with ourselves and with God. Osheta shows us that peace is more than just a feeling. It?s the belief that God created us perfectly, just as we are, and the bodies that we live and practice shalom in, from the color of our skin to the shape of our hips, are wholly good.

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2020-07-28
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[Summer Best of For the Love] Barbara Brown Taylor: Learning to Walk in the Dark

Ever wish you had a toolkit tailor-made to get you through 2020? Us too. That?s why we pulled together a few of our favorite teachers who have graced the podcast over the years, so we can brush up on the important lessons they taught us and tools they gave us to meet this moment. First up is the matriarch of our favorite ?What is saving your life right now?? question?Barbara Brown Taylor! Barbara is a New York Times bestselling author, teacher, and Episcopal priest, and she came on the show during our ?For the Love of Exploring Our Faith? series in 2018. Her book Learning to Walk in the Dark was featured on the cover of TIME Magazine, and in 2014, TIME also included her on its annual list of Most Influential People (PS she also appeared on Super Soul Sunday with Oprah, so no big deal).  Long a favorite author of Jen?s, Barbara has a unique way of sharing essential truths about beauty and about God, and shows us that it cannot be contained inside any walls that people build. Her view is that Jesus ?placed higher value on human relationships than on religion. He never told His followers to love their religion?just their neighbors, their enemies, and God."

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2020-07-21
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Enneagram Nines - Sarah Bessey on The Peacemakers

To close our spectacular Enneagram series, last but certainly not least (we promise, Nines!), we?re diving into the earnest and endearingly sincere Peacemakers with Jen?s wonderful friend and all-around good human, author Sarah Bessey. Fondly called the crown of the Enneagram, Type Nines have the gift to be fully empathetic, to love and accept without judgement because they can see others as made in God?s image. For a Nine, everyone belongs. This type may seem slow to move sometimes?that?s because they?re content to live in this very moment. Sarah demonstrates the ways that Nines can be mediators, but she also shares how a Nine?s shadow side leans away from conflict and into numbness and routine, pushing them to be a little sloth-like. In their unhealthiest state, a Nine?s identity morphs into whoever?s surrounding them at the moment. But as they grow, Nines realize they don?t have to sacrifice who they are just to keep the peace?their voices are valuable and deserve to be heard. Stay tuned ?til the end to hear how Ryan O?Neal (AKA Sleeping at Last) created a piece that was extremely vulnerable and painfully honest, as he had to confront his own weaknesses as a type Nine in order to grow into his full potential.

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2020-07-14
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Enneagram Eights - Sarajane Case & Abi Robins on The Challengers

Make way for the Enneagram Eights! On this week?s episode, we get to chat with not one, but two experts about the steely armor and tender insides that make up The Challengers, as they?re sometimes called. Sarajane Case of Enneagram & Coffee helps us unpack the hallmark characteristic of an Eight?their strength?and reveals that an Eight?s strength typically stems from childhood happenings that trigger the notion that they have to take care of themselves, which they can also wrap around their loved ones and those in need. This protective instinct means that Eights aren?t intimidated by opposition, but they do fear being betrayed or controlled?and when that happens, it can appear that Eights don?t need a shoulder to lean on. But, as Sarajane shows us, in order to love an Eight well, they need to see strength in us so that they can release the heavy responsibility they feel to carry the world?s weight on their shoulders. Abi Robins of Conscious Enneagram shares their expertise as not only an Eight themselves, but also as a teacher of The Narrative Enneagram. Abi also breaks down a new-to-us Enneagram term called ?subtypes,? of which there are three?self-preservation, one-to-one, and social?and shows how these subtypes affect the way our Enneagram numbers play out in the world. Abi opens up about the incredible resilience that Eights possess and vulnerably shares what type Eight growth looks like to someone with a marginalized identity. Abi explains that a heated exchange that may look like an argument to some types is just a problem-solving, connective conversation to an Eight, and how that willingness to engage with an Eight, even when it?s messy, is the key to unlocks an Eight?s trust. Make sure you listen all the way through the hear how composer Ryan O?Neal (AKA Sleeping at Last) created a piece as strong as the Eights are, with a little touch of vulnerability that those who are close to Eights are lucky enough to glimpse.

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2020-07-07
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Enneagram Sevens - Bob Goff on The Enthusiasts 

Enneagram Sevens! You can?t say it without an exclamation point, right? This week we look at what many consider to be the most ?fun? number on the Enneagram?known as The Enthusiasts for good reason! To guide us is a true Seven among Sevens and friend of the podcast, Bob Goff.  Bob is a man of many hats?attorney, honorary consul, author, and humanitarian, to name a few. He?s here to share about the power of a Seven?s joy, their ability to have big dreams and ideas, and that a Seven?s enthusiasm isn?t as spontaneous as you would think?there?s planning and thought behind it. As part of the thinking triad, these joyful strategists are full of situational awareness. They?re in tune with examining why they do the things they do, but they also carry a deep fear of rejection. Sevens possess a beautiful, natural curiosity about possibilities. They?re excellent at saying, ?Let?s just see what will happen . . .? and they?re brave enough to take those chances. Sevens strive for meaning, not just surface-level joy. As Jen puts it, ?These are people that really come alongside the rest of us and go, ?What's your dream? You can do this.?? Also, if you stick around to the end of the episode, you?ll be delighted to hear composer Ryan O?Neal (AKA Sleeping at Last) talk about how he crafted a piece for Sevens inspired by Disney classics like Peter Pan and Inside Out?and you?ll hear Bob Goff himself, who contributed his own ukulele stylings to the piece (such a Seven thing to do!).  

 

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2020-06-30
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[BONUS] Jen and Sydney Hatmaker On Being Gay and Loved

On this incredibly meaningful, special bonus episode of For the Love, in honor of Pride Month, a mother and daughter come together to have a frank and beautiful conversation about what it?s like to grow up as the daughter of a popular Christian author and speaker and in a household steeped in the church . . . and realize you?re gay. This is Jen and Sydney Hatmaker?s experience?and in this episode, Sydney and her mom tell their story so that parents, family, and friends of LGBTQ+ kids who need trustworthy voices to lead them into love and affirmation will find hope here. Sydney bravely and tenderly shares how she grappled with reconciling her sexuality and her spirituality, all the while wondering if God would still love her if she decided to build a life where she could be who she was meant to be. The pair candidly discuss Sydney?s initial silent journey and Jen?s deep regret at not being more aware of what her daughter needed during these early days as Sydney wrestled alone with who she was. Jen and Sydney make a call to Christians to look at what it means to really love our LGBTQ+ family: recognizing them wholly as God?s children, who are wholly loved by God. Sydney also gives us insight into how we can come alongside our LGBTQ+ family by showing us what meaningful allyship looks like: supporting and protecting those who are subject to marginalization with tangible actions filled with love. 

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2020-06-26
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Enneagram Sixes - Ashton Brye on The Loyalists

On today?s peek behind the Enneagram curtain, we get to learn all about Type Sixes?the Loyalists?and what makes them tick. Graphic designer, Enneagram artist, and Disney cast member Ashton Brye shares how she discovered the Enneagram, applied her own artistic and pop culture spin on it, and voila! Her Instagram following @ashton.creates skyrocketed, all born out of her desire to learn more about all the Enneagram types. As a Six herself, Ashton breaks down for us how Sixes have a deep longing for safety and security, which they find through preparedness. Unfortunately, that need to be on top of things can often be mistakenly labeled for anxiety and fear. Sixes are crazy loyal and responsible, and they value structure. As Ashton shares, when a Six goes in on something, they go all in--which is why they make excellent friends. Ashton talks a little bit about how it?s hard for Sixes to turn their minds off and relax without thinking about what needs to get done in the future, that for Sixes, it?s a balance of learning what can wait. In conflict, like in everything else they do, Sixes are all in, and they crave reassurance from others that you aren?t going to leave them. And PS: don?t forget to stick around until the end of the episode to hear composer Ryan O?Neal (AKA Sleeping at Last) talk about how he crafted a soothing, safe, and whimsical musical piece inspired by type Sixes.  

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2020-06-23
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Enneagram Fives - Dr. Avon Manney & Knox McCoy on The Investigators

Today we begin a deep dive into the head triad, starting with Type Fives?the Investigators. And because there?s so much to learn about the complex Fives, we have not one but two guests to share their input: Enneagram expert Dr. Avon Manney, and podcaster/author/Enneagram Five Knox McCoy. Dr. Avon (a Nine married to a Five!) shares how she started applying the Enneagram to her osteopathy practice so she could help patients heal emotional issues that were manifesting in her patients? bodies. She talks about how Fives are explorers who want to know how and why things work the way they do. Taking Dr. Avon?s insights a step further and giving us a peek under the hood, Knox explains how that exploration shows up in his own life?as a Five, he?s motivated to make sure he shows up as competent and prepared in every situation. Knox also breaks down something Fives suffer from called ?catastrophic depletion,? which basically means Fives have a limited energy reservoir, and once it?s gone for the day, it is gone. As profoundly efficient fixers, Fives possess a beautiful clarity of thought, a thirst for knowledge, and an unparalleled loyalty for those they love. And just wait until you make it to the end, when we hear from composer Ryan O?Neal (AKA Sleeping At Last), about how he completed a music piece inspired by Fives?his longest piece in the whole series!

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2020-06-16
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[BONUS] White Women?s Toxic Tears, with Lisa Sharon Harper

In light of the uprisings of the past weeks, it is not enough to perform wokeness. We need true solidarity. True solidarity requires an understanding of the historical and cultural roots and current-day patterns of white women?s betrayals of people of color. It will also require repair. This is a raw, honest, informative, solidarity-building conversation with author and Freedom Road founder and president Lisa Sharon Harper.

2020-06-11
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Enneagram Fours - Ian Cron on The Individualists

Our Enneagram series continues with another type who rounds out the heart triad: the beautifully complex Type Fours (also known as The Romantics). To lead us on all things Type Four, we have an incredible returning guest: a Four himself, Ian Morgan Cron. Ian wears many hats?Enneagram expert, author of The Road Back to You, host of Typology Podcast, priest and psychotherapist, to name a few?and his Fourness is revealed in his beautiful, open posture toward humanity. He walks us through how Fours believe that they have an ?unredeemable deficiency,? how they feel a little different and off-center, and have a vague dissatisfaction with themselves. Typically seen as the most complex of all the Enneagram numbers, Fours seek to be special in some way to fill this inner void, and the road to being a healthy Four is when they realize that ?specialness? isn?t their sole path to being loved. Ian shares personally his experience that the superpower of a Four is emotional intuitiveness and empathy; Fours are equipped to come alongside people in their dark moments and walk through the suffering with them, and they tend to gravitate towards spaces in which they can uniquely contribute to conversation. Conversely, Fours in conflict tend to withdraw, and Ian shares how they can be lovingly drawn out. And don?t forget to stick around until the end to hear from composer Ryan O?Neal (AKA Sleeping At Last), who shares his process for crafting a music piece as uniquely complex as Type Fours.

2020-06-09
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Enneagram Threes - Lisa Whelchel on The Achievers

The next stop on the For the Love of The Enneagram train takes us to the land of the Enneagram Threes (also known as The Achievers). Leading us today are two Threes?someone you may know named Jen Hatmaker who?s a Three, and Lisa Whelchel. Lisa?s an actor (you may know her best as Blair from the ?80s sitcom ?The Facts of Life?), author, speaker, and life coach who is not only a Three herself, but who also raised a Three, and she?s just walked through a twelve-year journey of deconstructing and reconstructing everything about her life: everything she knows and everything she believed about herself and her faith. She?s dismantled so many internal walls that now, in her words, the love can flow without blocks. Lisa has bravely stepped out of safety and security in the pursuit of being whole, though her natural instincts told her to hide from the shame and fear she felt. She?s learned to overcome crowd-pleasing in order to live her own truth and be her most authentic self, and she shares what it looks like to be in a marriage and in conflict with someone of this type. And stay tuned at the end to hear from composer Ryan O?Neal (AKA Sleeping At Last), who shares his thoughts behind the music he created for the incredibly special Enneagram Three in his life. 

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2020-06-02
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Enneagram Twos - Phileena Heuertz on The Helpers

Our next installment of For the Love of The Enneagram brings us to wonderful Enneagram Twos (aka The Helpers!). And leading our discussion is Phileena Heuertz, a spiritual director and Enneagram expert who, as a Two herself, knows how it feels to love others and want to help them as much as she can, while at the same time longing to feel accepted for who she is, not necessarily what she does for others. Years ago, after Phileena began to study the Enneagram a bit more and felt deeply seen by it, she began to ask herself some deep, probing questions about her Twoness: What is my motivation for serving others? Am I doing it to fulfill my need to be loved? If I stop serving you, will you still love me? And finally, Phileena realized she could find true freedom once she gave herself permission to take care of her own needs so that she could be her happiest, healthiest, and most authentic self?which would help her care for others even more deeply. Also featured in this episode is composer Ryan O?Neal (AKA Sleeping At Last), who shares his thoughts behind the music he created for the special Enneagram Twos in his life. 

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2020-05-26
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